Your Most Romantic Gesture

[Ruptured Silence]

I can't say I've ever really done any one really thing romantic for anyone; I prefer to show my love in smaller ways.

For example, I left a note underneath the windshield wipers of a good friend of mine a couple of days ago, saying "You are loved", along with a yellow tulip. He's been having a pretty rough go of things lately, and I thought it would be nice. He really appreciated it and thought it was sweet. We're just friends, so nothing changed.

That's more romantic than any gesture I've ever made so I guess that counts...

I guess for my ex's birthday I did a painting (I have a background as an artist) that would go in his new flat.

I took it with me when we broke up, too.

 

[asu1117]

To be honest, if a guy did a sweeping, romantic gesture for me, I'd find it cheesy and over-the-top (aside from exceptional circumstances, of course). I wouldn't want someone doing that to me, so I definitely wouldn't do it to someone else. Maybe that's just because I've never been in a romantic relationship. Who knows.

Oh god, I would! I'm a total sap, stuff like that makes me melt. I'm a romantic at heart.

 

[oakpope]

(I've given him a single yellow rose every Valentine's for the last couple of years).

Marry me.
Please !

 

[oakpope]

the most romantic thing I ever did was clean my (now-ex) boyfriend's bathroom while he was at work. haha.

I think this is highly romantic. I did do the cleaning in my friend's (not boyfriend alas) room during which he was doing his college's work
He couldn't care less..

 

[Maklaar13]

I enjoy doing little things for my partner, for example, I will get everything ready for his breakfast and for his lunch that he takes to the office with him, this leaves him with some extra time to relax before going to work, then I lay out a newspaper for him to read while he has his morning coffee. I also leave him love notes in some interesting places, like inside the refrigerator or his shoes. But my favorite romantic thing we do is we take care of each other very well.

 

[landers]

I commissioned an oil painting of a friend's beloved deceased dog and hung it in his room while he was on vacation. When he got back, he walked by it 10 times before finally noticing it. He told me it was the best thing he could have come home to and he spent the next week calling people to tell them what I'd done.

 

[stevexxx]

well i took this woman on a date to a nice restaurant right. except we didn't eat inside, we went through the drive through. and of course i super-sized the meal order.

 

[GL]

I can't say I've ever really done any one really thing romantic for anyone; I prefer to show my love in smaller ways.

For example, I left a note underneath the windshield wipers of a good friend of mine a couple of days ago, saying "You are loved", along with a yellow tulip. He's been having a pretty rough go of things lately, and I thought it would be nice. He really appreciated it and thought it was sweet. We're just friends, so nothing changed.

that is awesome and terribly sweet.

i think i'd be stunned if anyone ever did something that kind and special to me.

 

[justsimon]

I'm a fan of small gestures. I often bring my friends food and I go out of my way to find perfect birthday gifts. I don't consider these romantic, though.

Regarding romance, when I'm with someone I do little things and the occasional grand gesture. The last big thing I did was track down a foreign, out of print edition of my ex's favorite book because she once borrowed it from someone and liked that particular cover the best. (I had to order it from Bulgaria.) We'd already broken up at that point, but it was still romantic on my part.

 

[sixthson]

We're both romantics, but not big on gifts or special days to show romance. Our romantic expressions tend to be spontaneous. I surprised him recently by changing the wallpaper on his computer at work with a picture of us in a canoe early one morning on a mist covered lake when we were 20.

Though not a gesture as much as a romantic occasion, when our son Nikolas was born last year, we travelled at night to reach the hospital in time to watch him be born. After a long day, we left the hospital around 10 pm. We were happy, excited, tired and very hungry. We stopped at this bar and grill for burgers and beers and when we paid our bill, the waitress told us we looked happy. We told her we had just had a baby that day. We left her speechless. We had to walk through a park back to our hotel, the sky was full of stars and the air was crisp. We stopped under a tree and I told Tomas that I couldn't separate the great joy of having a baby from my loving him. The connection for me was as clear as the stars in that sky. Our children are a product of our love for each other.

 

[Ruptured Silence]

I think another interesting question is how much romance is too much? Like, would you guys be flatterd or embarrassed if a guy sent flowers to your work, for example?

I would die. lol.

 

[Kester]

I can't think of anything.

I'd probably have to find someone to be romantic towards first.....

 

[Corny]

After two months of being together, I hid small wooden hearts in his apartment while he was asleep. I chose some nice spots that he wouldn't find immediately but only in the matter of a few days or even a week during "everyday activities", as a little reminder of me

 

[oakpope]

Thank you for the topics, it's really really nice to hear such sweet gestures.
I'm melting completely

 

[fetaby]

After my bebe worked a double shift, I took his feet into my lap and massaged them.

While we were getting to know each other better, he didn't get upset that I fell asleep while watching his favorite movie. Instead he let me lay my head I'm his lap and he softly stroked my hair.

 

[Joshua_me]

Umm...

I had an ex (an EX, mind you....) that had moved into an apartment in December....

But,, knowing he had no one that gave a shit about him, I bought him a five foot Xmas tree, complete with ornaments and lights and a boombox playing "The Carpenters Christmas CD' in the background and I stood there and helped decorate his tree for him... It was the least I could do.

I celebrated the spirit of Christmas with someone that i used to care about.

 

[Anders123]

Well, my ex-girlfriend was the type of person who liked to keep mementos as physical reminders of the things she did. She kept a journal as well, and would always take lots of pictures every time we went somewhere.
So, in the lead up to her birthday (probably between 1-2 months in advance), I made sure I secretly put aside small souvenirs from when we did things together. I took extra photos of us together, and of the places where small funny things happened, or kept/took photos of the objects of personal jokes. I printed out maps of the places we visited and put it all into a 'scrap book', noting the objects and personal jokes, and writing down what I enjoyed most about each place, and all of the funny things that happened. It was kind of cheesy but she loved it.

Also, she went away for roughly two weeks one time. Upon her return she called asking to spend the night at my place. I told her that I was busy with a uni assignment, but that she could maybe come over later for a quick catch up but not to stay the night, and to make sure she called me first. I set up a play-list consisting only of 'The Temper Trap', her favorite band ('Sweet Disposition' was our song ). I set up small cushions either side of the coffee table in the living room, turned down the lights and set the table with candles and plates of her favorite meal (chicken parmigiana). It was all a nice surprise waiting for her when she walked in the front door. She ended up staying the night.

Yeah I know, it's ridiculously cheesy. I always do that sort of stuff though, I guess it's in my nature

I probably enjoyed planning / executing those things more than she enjoyed having them done for her

 

[Centexfarmer]

We've got some real sweet-hearts here!

~

I use to have to get up to go to work before my boyfriend did. I did everything that I could not to wake him as I got out of our bed, and got ready for work.

He looked so handsome laying there peacefully sleeping that I had to get one last kiss before I headed off to work. So before I went out the door I'd gently kiss him on his head (careful to not wake him up) while he lay sleeping.

One morning I was running late and I didn't make the time to kiss his head before I left.

He called me later that day and asked me if I was mad at him, or upset with him and anyway.

I thought that maybe he had broke something, and was wanting to know how much he'd be the "dog-house."

I told him, "No! Why?"

He said, "I missed your kiss before you went out the door."

I apologized and said, "I always thought that you were asleep, and that you wouldn't have even noticed."

He was quite for a few seconds and said, "One morning when you got up to go to work you accidently woke me up, so I tried to go back to sleep. So I was laying there with my eyes closed, and just before you left our bedroom you leaned over and kissed me on the head. It really made me feel special. So every morning when you get out of bed I feel you getting out of bed and I wake up. I know that you don't want to wake me, so I try to go back to sleep. But when you kiss me goodbye before you leave, I know that wherever you're going that you love me, and then I can go back to sleep. I missed you're kiss, and that's the one special moment that I look forward to every morning. So are you mad at me?"

That's when I knew that my little romantic gesture wasn't something that I wanted to do for myself, because I loved him, but something that he secretly looked forward to.





I was quite for a few seconds, taking it all in when he finally said, "Hello?"

I responded "Okay so what did you break?"

He replied, "Nothing! But give me a few minutes between now and the time that you get home, and I'm sure that I can find something."

 

[Centexfarmer]

My boyfriend's most romantic gestures toward me was, if we were in the midst of a major disagreement about something, or we were fighting about something I'd be sitting on the sofa reading a book, or watching TV and he'd come and sit with me.

Before long he'd be leaning on me, or he'd put his head in my lap and make sure that my free arm was draped over him.

If I was watching TV he'd watch with me, and offer commentary on whatever I was watching.

If I was just reading a book, he'd usually just fall asleep.

This was in NO WAY an admission of guilt on his part, or his willingness to concede, but to show me that he loved me, and that as soon as I was finished with my book, or the TV show was over, we could either go to bed or resume fighting.




Is "make up sex" a romantic gesture?

 

[colliefletch]

When I visited London last year, me and my partner were there for Valentine's day, so I woke up early, left him in bed sleeping, came back with his favorite foods and a dozen roses. After we walked along the Thames hand in hand and took in all the sights and sounds... the Thames is his favorite place in London, so I think it worked out perfectly.