Your opinion about a married man I know

[sdtony25]

Man...I really blew a great opportunity. All of us were at a happy hour and took it to one of our places. We hung out, drank, and played games. Boss wanted to go gamble at a casino a few hours away. It was pretty late at this point, so we were all very tired, but he offered to pay for a hotel room for people that wanted to crash. He posed the idea to everyone, but only he and I were interested in the idea in the end. We've gone gambling before, but this time we would've been alone, and would've ended up in a hotel room! But I would've had to drive and I was just waaaaay too tired (end of a long day). Any other time I would've loved to go but I could hardly stay awake. I was just unable to do it. I hope I can forgive myself for letting this chance go.

I don't know what to think. When he was drunk again he acted very straight, like talking about hot women and such. Crass, but straight. Then he'll do something like slap my abdomen and say I'm too in shape

You should try this again and try to go gambling, get more drunk at the casino and hopefully end up in a hotel room together and see what happens. I'm more aggressive and "straight" towards women when I'm drunk so that may be the case with him too. Let him make the first move of course though.

 

[theFallenGod]

I think your desire for him is clouding your reasoning and you are seeing signs and portents where there is none.

It happens often on this forum. Don't be discouraged.

You said it yourself, he doesn't know you swing both ways. If he doesn't know why would he be flirting?

Leave it be and stop reading too much into innocent things guys commonly do.

 

[Cottonforme]

There are lots of married men on the gay hookup sites looking for man-to-man sex. So, him being married is immaterial.

Since he is your manager, you don't want to pursue him. Always keep your work and your play separate.

Lastly, he may have some gay tendencies, but it will be best for you to not find out.

Very good advice. Old saying "never screw the crew".

 

[texan_slant]

I do agree with others here in that, gay or bisexual curiosity is more rampant than we think, so I wouldn't be surprised if there was "something" there, however, I have been in a similar situation in that I was in a flirty situation with a manager, and I didn't want to make the first move, and neither did he. Finally, I put my job first, and didn't want to risk sexual harrassment.

Sometimes, the other party might put off a vibe, and that as far as they want to take it. In other situations that I have had with straight friends, I was projecting my own vibe onto someone else, and the signals were wrong.

As long as you're employed, tread cautiously. You don't want things to get awkward, if you made a move and the signals were wrong.

 

[Pierresro]

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[Simplyb1]

Yes they will I love a man who loves being with a man that loves sucking dicks swallowing his cum

 

[Pierresro]

For both older (particularly married) men and those who have been with them: I'm curious about where I stand with one of my managers from work. I'll give a short description of the situation...

I have been working for this man as part of his team for a couple years. He's a married man (his 2nd marriage) with a few kids (some are step-children), and he is in his late 40s, about twice my age. I've been attracted to him for a while (he doesn't know I'm bisexual), and over time I feel like at may be mutual. He has said I am good-looking on a few occasions. And when we are conversing, if there is a brief lull in the conversation, sometimes our eyes will meet, and he'll get a warm and tender look in his eyes and smile. In more public situations, say, for example, a meeting, I'll steal looks at him and sometimes find he is looking at me, smiling. It's a lot of subtle things...or maybe I'm just a victim of wishful thinking.
The thing is, we look somewhat similar. We have the same height, same coloring...I don't know about build because he's a little overweight, but he could definitely pass as my father. Some people joke about it at the office, actually. That said, I'm wondering if he likes me because I remind him of himself (we even share some hobbies), or if it's something more physical. Or perhaps, in a weird way, if it's the latter because of the former. How common is it for a married man to have homosexual tendencies, particularly involving a younger man?


I have seen him pretty drunk, and he gets rather horny, but it's straight horny. However, I did have a peculiar conversation with him once: we were talking about the clubs and groups available at our company, and--I wish I could remember the exact exchanges that led up to it--but he began talking about how he attended an LGBT meeting, although he worded it as if it was just out of sheer intellectual curiosity. I was pretty surprised, but I didn't want to sound too excited so I facetiously asked if he was just there to preach the Bible (he's Christian, although a rather casual, and surprisingly bawdy, one). He just laughed with an unconvincing "yeah...I guess."

What are your guys' take on the situation? I don't intend to be a home-wrecker, and would never make a move in the workplace, but he's still nice to fantasize about.

Many times many of us will meet older guys and so many look really hot and of courese if ther epersonalities are nice friendly it makes it better. I have been with my partner a long time.Both of us travel a lot for our job, We both rust each other as the main thing is being safe. I worked for a bank for 28 years from when I got out of cvollege until I was in my early 50´s. I travelled all over Europe to banks owned by my employer.On many trips I would not be alone but with a married guy usually somewhere betweeb 39 and 45. I and a boss named Jeff who was 40 and an ex Marine went to Paris and our company hade made reservations at a very good hotel. We get trhe and because of a convention me and him had to share a room, the room had one double bed. I said Ill sleep on the floor or that small couch, He said we can both fit in the bed. That night after dinner ewe had some drinks at the bar in the hotel. He said I m going to shower and stripped to his CK Boxer Briefs, and I got rock hard. This guy was just about 6´foot about 180 the hottest ass I have eever seen even when I was in the military. We shut the ligths out and layed there lights out and I was on my left side when he was so close I could feel the bulge of his crotch agaisnt my crack I was hard and leaking. I was nervous but I slowly started moving my ass agaisnt his hard cock.He was then so close to my ear I though he was going tolick my ears when he whispered, sorry and mived back I truned and said dont move I like that, nervously I said I am gay he said I am not , I said I think we can figure out somethingI turned noww face to face I groped his crotch he started tongue kissing !! It was the best 6 days of my life He fucked so good. We had a few trips after that! For work!