your relationship with your parents

[refujiunderground]

you know, since nobody really talks about them unless something serious is happening to them or whatever.

very close to my mom. not close to my father. my parents have a really shitty marriage where they are always arguing with each other and usually my father is the one behind the problems too. my mom and me are able to engage in a lot of conversations, she understands me more than my father does even though she doesn't fully understand me. i feel besides being a mother, she uses that as a counter so whenever i kind of lean on her for support towards a certain issue, she uses that as a way of telling me to fall back away from her. my father is living in his own world where it really makes no sense talking to him about anything because he doesn't give a fuck. i honestly don't feel like even telling either of them that i'm gay because my father is already an ignorant ass motherfucker that as i said before is living in his own world. he already has his mind set on how i should live my life. my mother on the other hand, let's just say when i had my little issues or whatever, she didn't want to be bothered to show her support. to her, i was just making an excuse on why i wasn't doing this. if i told her that i was gay, i know she would say that i'm confused and i should "pray to god" or "get myself more socially interactive with others instead of typing on the computer". she wouldn't understand. it would be just like the time i actually sought to seek a therapist and was a bit scared in getting myself to do it so i kind of asked my mom to kind of be supportive. she acted really weird where i felt bad for even trying to do that shit.

it's funny because i love my parents but i feel that i'm stuck in a situation where i have to deal with a bunch of people that want me to understand them but could care less about understanding me. yet these are my parents. they're good parents but at the same time, i wouldn't say they've been a support system for me.

 

[bigbear13201]

Mine moved in with me 7 years ago, since she could no longer care for my father.

My mother and I have a great relationship, was very happy for me when I came out. My father and I, well, its hard since he has MS. I love him, but we never were really close. He does not know I am gay - I don't know if he would even understand so I just let it go.

Now that she is able to take care of him (his age now qualifies him for extra care) I'm working on finding a place for me to rent and get the hell out. So yes, they will be living in my house, and I'll be renting elsewhere. Great country, this America!

But, thats family!

 

[navidzurender]

Well I love my parents but they kinda fucked my childhood life with their stupid marriage dramas, I grew up with my grandma because my mom would always be out of town and also my father worked in different areas, and during that time I felt like I was so alone and depressed all the time and being a kid that should not happen, I should only worry about school assignments and what game to play but instead at a young age I'm already suffering from depression. Well but the good thing is that I know now that when I'm going to have my own family and children, I will never leave them and be always there to support them no matter what and make them feel that their my first priority...

 

[refujiunderground]

Mine moved in with me 7 years ago, since she could no longer care for my father.

My mother and I have a great relationship, was very happy for me when I came out. My father and I, well, its hard since he has MS. I love him, but we never were really close. He does not know I am gay - I don't know if he would even understand so I just let it go.

Now that she is able to take care of him (his age now qualifies him for extra care) I'm working on finding a place for me to rent and get the hell out. So yes, they will be living in my house, and I'll be renting elsewhere. Great country, this America!

But, thats family!

sorry to hear about your father, man. do you plan on staying in jersey or moving outside of jersey?

 

[refujiunderground]

Well I love my parents but they kinda fucked my childhood life with their stupid marriage dramas, I grew up with my grandma because my mom would always be out of town and also my father worked in different areas, and during that time I felt like I was so alone and depressed all the time and being a kid that should not happen, I should only worry about school assignments and what game to play but instead at a young age I'm already suffering from depression. Well but the good thing is that I know now that when I'm going to have my own family and children, I will never leave them and be always there to support them no matter what and make them feel that their my first priority...

how old are you?

 

[Saybrooke]

My relationship with my parents is fair. My mom and I get along great, except when we aren't. My dad just found out I'm gay yesterday and he seems to be dealing. My mom moved in with me last November because my older sister drove her out of the house. My parents are a little strained but I think they still love each other.

 

[Mr-Brooding]

I'm pretty distant in general, but I'd say I have a pretty good relationship with my mom. We engage in deep conversations because we're the only two in the house who have a type of mental and emotional depth. We're a lot alike and that causes problems, but we're pretty good.
My father and I just recently began saying "hey" to each other when we see each other. I'm especially distant with him. He's very authoritarian, so he made it kind of hard to warm up to him growing up. He talks about everyone behind their backs and smiles in their faces, including me, so I don't respect his weakness. He's not the worst dad though, I just don't have a lot of strong feeling for him.

 

[swerve]

My father died when I was 4...

I have an AWESOME mother who is unfortunately beginning to have memory problems at the age of 80...

And 9 INCREDIBLE brothers and sisters...

We're very close -- and although we don't always see eye to eye -- we have the ability to overlook the "little" stuff...

 

[M4P]

I have a pretty solid relationship with my parents. They're good people and even though we don't always see eye to eye there is love and respect on both sides. They've been very supportive of me, my partner and our recent marriage. I consider myself pretty lucky

 

[Sigma-taylor-E]

My Mum is incredible! Very supportive and caring. She'd give the world for me. This annoys me sometimes, but at the same time, I sorta love it! haha LOVE YOU MUMMY!

 

[Telstra]

Not that close but no fights.
Always help if needed.

 

[refujiunderground]

Fujie, The moon is your mother and The sun is your sun...only you can get it

Well, I talk alot about my parents especially my dad in other thread.

We're basically very conservative family with dysfunctional role to each other. Son has higher hierarchy than the rest of head, how come?

But it doesn't make me happy either, I always looking father figure whenever I go, a guy who I can rely and put my respect on, although little by little I start filling the young man role.

I heard news from home. My dad money problem got worsen, the house (apartment) is like battlefield everyday with my bratty little sister start entering pra pubescent. My second sister OUT with her boyfriend who fortunately THINKS further to buy her a house before marry. Mom is not stronger than before and because my dad fired numerous times, it'll affect our financial as a whole family as well.

It's slowly crippling to my school tuition and I dk how long can I support myself (with part time job) to handling daily life and school fee?

geez, that doesn't sound good at all. quick question, do you have any grants to help you with school?

 

[blackbeltninja]

Haven't seen my dad since he left in 1979 when I was 2 or 3 (depends when in 1979 that was).

Mom and I get on great. We're both stubborn and it causes issues from time to time, though.

-d-

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

nature a Kool

shame lot folks parents get kill off by countrys male games etc so on but
guess males gotta sell their own cultures sumhow

or sumthang

thankyou

 

[sixthson]

My parents were violent people. My father died when I was a senior in college, but my mother lived into her mid 80s and she mellowed with time, so we had a decent relationship. One thing that always frustrated me about her was this: while she could understand that two guys could have sex, she could never grasp the concept of two guys loving each other. I tried to explain it over and over and she spent lots of time with us, witnessing my relationship with my man, but to the end she would occasionally ask me if I had any girlfriends.
Even after we had children, she would ask me this. Uff da to my Norwegian Mama!

 

[thefishinthesea23]

My father I don't even bother. I talk to him about miscellaneous things, but never about the really important things because he just doesn't get it. My mom is in denial and every time I try to include her in those parts of my homosexual life she just has this masterful way of dropping the subject of downright ignoring it.

My family doesn't understand my work (art) my humor or my sexuality. It is very frustrating and to be honest when I am with them I am not me. I act the way they want me to be. Otherwise it just gets tense and argumentative.

With them I feel like some sort of pet they have, they like to feed me and care for me, but don't really care about what I want beyond making sure I get a career. Quite soul crushing, but I have learn to deal with it. I can find true happiness elsewhere.

 

[bigbear13201]

sorry to hear about your father, man. do you plan on staying in jersey or moving outside of jersey?

I'm a Jersey boy at heart. We really do have everything within 90 minutes, but when the time comes, I want to live on a yacht in South Florida. Or a place in Key West.

 

[Telstra]

My parents were violent people. My father died when I was a senior in college, but my mother lived into her mid 80s and she mellowed with time, so we had a decent relationship. One thing that always frustrated me about her was this: while she could understand that two guys could have sex, she could never grasp the concept of two guys loving each other. I tried to explain it over and over and she spent lots of time with us, witnessing my relationship with my man, but to the end she would occasionally ask me if I had any girlfriends.
Even after we had children, she would ask me this. Uff da to my Norwegian Mama!

Loosing her memory slowly i guess ?

 

[Telstra]

My father I don't even bother. I talk to him about miscellaneous things, but never about the really important things because he just doesn't get it. My mom is in denial and every time I try to include her in those parts of my homosexual life she just has this masterful way of dropping the subject of downright ignoring it.

My family doesn't understand my work (art) my humor or my sexuality. It is very frustrating and to be honest when I am with them I am not me. I act the way they want me to be. Otherwise it just gets tense and argumentative.

With them I feel like some sort of pet they have, they like to feed me and care for me, but don't really care about what I want beyond making sure I get a career. Quite soul crushing, but I have learn to deal with it. I can find true happiness elsewhere.

That is a great description. They own you LOL

 

[kevbo]

My parents divorced when I was 3. I grew up with Mom, and my brother and sister grew up with Dad.

I am the favorite child to both of them.

The best way to describe the relationship between myself and my parents is to say that we just understand and respect each other. We'd do anything for each other. They know that I am my own man and support anything I do.