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Your "What Might Have Beens"

TickTockMan

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Do you ever think of how your life would have been if you went down another path, either by choice or not?


I think a lot about what my life would have been like if I never got hurt at work. Lately I have also been wondering what if I would have went to culinary school after all. I got okayed for grants. All I had to do was sign up and move to Portland.
 
Looking back I do wonder what I would be like now if I had become a teacher (my current what-if musing)
Maybe I would feel more fulfilled but I look at all the things I would have missed out on
 
My problem is that I've never known what I really wanted to do with my life and have basically taken the line of least resistance at each turn. I went to university because they'd have me and it was easier than working. After six years of that I walked into a job thinking it would keep me off the streets for a couple of years until I decided on something else, but have never quite got around to leaving. As I never had a plan, I feel pretty content with how things in general have worked out so far. I have regrets about some specific things along the way. I regret not making more of an effort to get along with my (now deceased) father. I could have chased a couple of previous boyfriends a bit harder (or maybe not - the jury's still out on that). In fact, I could have gone out and make various things happen rather than sit back and take what comes. That's just me I guess. I'll not change now.
 
TickTockMan said:
Do you ever think of how your life would have been if you went down another path, either by choice or not?
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No. I don't.

I accept what was and I plan for what I want the future to be, recognizing that I have limitations.

Occasionally, I'll fantasize about winning the lottery, endowing a large behest to a university, living in a grand house, helping some poor friends more, but I don't dwell on it.

I have loved and lost and accepted that, too. But I don't rethink things and imagine those alternative timelines, not even with my bad childhood. It is what it is. I am who I am. And I'm still aspiring.

Currently, I'm making plans to sell my house, work from home until retirement, and move to Milwaukee to help a friend run a couple of bakeries.
 
TickTockMan said:
Do you ever think of how your life would have been if you went down another path, either by choice or not?


I think a lot about what my life would have been like if I never got hurt at work. Lately I have also been wondering what if I would have went to culinary school after all. I got okayed for grants. All I had to do was sign up and move to Portland.
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Yes, but if you search yourself you will find that a lot of those things wouldn´t have worked anyway/would be over by now/you would have walked away from/your memory of why you walked away has left you, but you will be reminded the moment you try again.
 
No. I’m happy with who I am and everything I’ve been through made me him. If I changed anything in the past my extended family wouldn’t be here and that would be a huge loss.
 
Harke the Boeotarch said:
Yes, but if you search yourself you will find that a lot of those things wouldn´t have worked anyway/would be over by now/you would have walked away from/your memory of why you walked away has left you, but you will be reminded the moment you try again.
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Alistair said:
No. I’m happy with who I am and everything I’ve been through made me him. If I changed anything in the past my extended family wouldn’t be here and that would be a huge loss.
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That is why I just wonder about what could have been, not really wanting what could have been. Well maybe not getting hurt, but to be honest getting hurt could have been a good thing in a couple ways. Firstly I don't think I could have worked with a mask on.
 
unloadonme said:
My problem is that I've never known what I really wanted to do with my life and have basically taken the line of least resistance at each turn. I went to university because they'd have me and it was easier than working. After six years of that I walked into a job thinking it would keep me off the streets for a couple of years until I decided on something else, but have never quite got around to leaving. As I never had a plan, I feel pretty content with how things in general have worked out so far. I have regrets about some specific things along the way.
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I agree. I seem to have drifted though life quite aimlessly. It seems to have worked out OK. I have done lots of things that I would never have planned to do
 
My life drifted a lot like unloadonme and LeicsDom's did. I'm mostly satisfied with the way it turned out. There are a few things that I have wondered at times what if things had gone differently and how my life would be different now, but I understand why those things didn't go differently so I am satisfied.
 
I sometimes wonder if I would have had to share my wardrobe if I hadn't eaten my twin sister in the womb. That would have been awful. But I had to do it, anyway, they were going to call us Ricky and Lucy.
 
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