im 22, not completely out, most people do know, but the most important, family, dont.
i know im not the best looking guy or anything either, but i have had 1 r'ship, a few hook-ups, and i was also seeing a guy, who ended up being my first love, unfortunately he just didnt feel the same way about me (well he didnt exactly help the situation with the way he was with me, but thats for another time, sorry for goin off topic lol)
i do honestly think it comes down to being confident in urself, and jus not thinking to much about trying to find someone, it will happen when u least expect it, an yes i know most of us dont want to wait, but thats all you can do (an this coming from a very impatient person lol)
being out maybe an issue, what are you trying to do to meet guys? do you go out an about to bars an stuff? if you dont, then it is very hard for you to have contact with other gay guys, and to meet an make friends. Ofcourse its totally your decision on whether to come out or not, and if you have no intention of doing so then thats fine, but it may limit your chances.
and about other guys not going for guys who are not out, well i dont think thats fair, everyone has their reasons for waiting to come out, or not to come out, but i dont think that it would affect the r'ship too much.
Ive also found that most younger white guys my age dont tend to go for the darker coloured guys, which is a pain for me as i prefer white boys lol i dont really think they're being racist, but just iggnorant, or its just thier preference, like how i dont really go for other indian/asian guys, well i think ive just not come acorss an indian guy that i like, but im not that bad, am i?
Sam x