A condom ripped when i got fucked

[JayHawk]

I am no expert but dont freak out. It was seconds. No internal fluids were exchanged right? Did he cum in the condom? How did you know it ripped? Did he tell ya? How long did he wait?

So many questions

 

[JayHawk]

P.S. I hate to be a bother but your profile says STr8/curious and while I am no Dr. Ruth I can firmly say while riding a nine inche cock you are no longer str8 and definately not curious. More like incorrigible.

 

[JayHawk]

Well you must be fairly tight being so new to the wonders of anal orgasm. If it ripped immediately then you stopped then you have almost nothing to worry about.

Buy better condoms and use more lube.

 

[portohottie]

Hey here is the site for AMFAR (American Foundation Aids Research)......We have one similar here in Canada called CANFAR.....
Lots of facts for you to look over...... http://www.amfar.org/cgi-bin/iowa/index.html

I think you'll be ok....if in doubt get it checkd out...Best of luck!

 

[Andreus]

there is an effective treatment that is available for the morning after scenario

go to the doc first thing if you can

and just one little bit of advice....

ask a mod to move this to the health forum

it is a no flame zone

you are not real safe talking about this out here

 

[Andreus]

one reason i never have random sex with people i dont know ... sure ... people can lie to u ... but u have less chance of catching something from someone u know and trust than from some random guy that frequents steam houses ... never did understand the attraction to random promiscuous sex ...

thats not really true

one in four people tested in a random test by the CDC in 05 indicated that 26 percent of the people in the random sample were positive and 48 percent were unaware that they were

its not about where you go to have sex or what type of person you have sex with

that is a gay myth that we need to move past

you get HIV from unsafe sex with anyone.... not just a certain type

 

[wildhog]

nevertheless, get tested for your own peace of mind. then be careful next time around.

 

[Eagle653]

Hi junomaster I've moved this to the Health forum because it's a no-flame zone and because this issue has been addressed here by others.

It's easy to panic over something like this, but try not to. The chances of you being exposed to HIV are very low, probably. Remember, to get infected, the virus has to enter your bloodstream. To do so would have required tears in your rectal lining AND an exchange with his bodily fluid in sufficient quantities to cause infection.

If you're bothered by this, get a test after 3 months for peace of mind. But, in the meantime, don't let your fears run wild or panic about this. The chances of something happened are less than 50/50 and probably closer to 0, quite honestly.

 

[josher]

Correct me, if I'm wrong, but I've always understood that the HIV virus can be spread through pre-cum. So if he was hard and in your ass he could have left pre-cum there. Go to the doctor tomorrow and get the prophilactic (sp?) medicine that's now available. The sooner it's taken the better. (The folks on Gay News who are well informed on HIV/AIDS always tell people this.) Then get tested as per your doctor's instructions.

 

[jockboy01]

Thanks Averageguy for moving this here.

Yes, it is possible, but not very likely that you contracted HIV from this encounter. As stated, you can go to your doctor and see if he thinks you need prophylactic meds. My bet is, he'll say you don't need them. The chance that you contracted the virus in such a short period without him cumming inside you is extremely low.

I'd say for your piece of mind, simply get tested in 3 to 6 months but don't worry about it too much and just learn from the experience.

 

[josher]

^^I think he's a doctor, but I might have that wrong. (I mean jockboy, the Mod, of course)

 

[Homoerectus]

Yes, HIV can be present in pre-cum. You need to be tested and please be extra safe. HIV is for a lifetime. BTW, you were very smart to stop when you did.

 

[texpatriot]

Even if ‘Jockboy01’ is a doctor, he is not acting in the capacity of a doctor. He is acting as a moderator of a gay porn forum. Together with ‘Averageguy’, both of these moderators should be acting much more responsibly given their positions of authority on this forum. Speculating on HIV issues brought forward by a scared young boy, could provide misleading information to him and others reading their comments.

That's funny! I would have suspected that you'd have jumped all over this comment first:

I was at the Steamhouse and met this guy...

Interesting.




Back to topic.

I'd say that the behavior that you're exhibiting is at the very least risky.

Barebacked for three seconds?

Unless the guy busted his nut before then, you're probably alright.

Either way, I'd avoid the "steamroom" and get tested in about three months.

 

[Andreus]

guys

haberdashery has a death obsession and is intrigued by this topic for reasons that have nothing to do with health.

look at his prior posts, his avatar and his siggie

this isnt about hiv for him and you need to take his iposts with that grain of reality

his posts point to more of a bug chaser than an HIV specialist, not a doctor and the HIV information they contain is dated, bizarre and archaic.

dont use his posts as a source on this in any way. If you are sick or need info do not believe a word they carry

this is important

thanks

 

[SuperQueer]

glad you noticed it broke. I wouldn't be too worried; but i think you should have an hiv test. And have yourself tested on a regular basis.

 

[Andreus]

HIV is not aids... that little bit if nonsense is key...

I am HIV positive, but my viral load is undetectable and my CD4 cell count is higher than people who are HIV negative... the means to this is simple... become educated dont be afraid and dont listen to people that are more interested in death than life.

I have had extensive education on HIV and all its affects no the human body so i can know what is happening and how it is happening... in fact, i work at one of the largest hospitals in new england and i have the best HIV doctor in the nation from harvard university... the truth is that medication available today extends the life of an HIV positive person to ten to thirty years beyond the ten that they would already have had.

Diet, sleep, mental outlook, exercise and medication adherence are all key to being healthy if you are positive... but the bottom line is that you are not likely to get HIV from sex with an HIV positive person if you are engaging in safe sex. I am going to say this once more.... you have to assume that everyone is positive that you have sex with or you will make a fatal mistake....

that is the reality

no scare tactics can change this

none

This misinformation and disinformation due to an odd fascination with death is bordering on psychotic and it has no place in a real discussion about health issues

dating does not include sex in the real world and that is the reality. Haberdasherys obsession with me has run for seven months now and his obsession with this topic is goulish and sick. And just for the record.... i have not had sex since i was contaminated with the virus.... the exact time of my infection is known and i have had sex with no one since that time.... that i have to say this is the heigth of invasive behaviors on the part of one man here... it is no ones business

once and for all

I did not aquire HIV from sexual contact. I aquired it through a blood transfusion in an eastern nation with a contaminated blood supply. there are five mutations of the virus now and which one you get depends on where you aquired the virus... and how resistant it is to medical intervention.

this is not a sexual issue it is a medical issue.

Do not assume that you are negative.

Do not allow people to scare you.

this is the real post i made in the thread referenced above and it bears repeating.....

I want to say a few things and i want to be clear

you cant get HIV from dating HIV positive people

You dont die from HIV if you follow your doctors instructions and take all prescribed medications. There are a host of other illnesses now that are far worse to have and no fear will change that.

You dont get HIV from male to male sex any more than you would from heterosexual sex. if there are any young gay men out there listening i want you to know that statistically your straight friends are more likely to become infected than you are.

that is just the way it is.

Gay prejudice comes in many forms and when we hate ourselves sometimes it manifests itself in very odd and noticeable ways. So dont hate yourselves and dont live in fear.... Dont let someone scare you back into a life half lived missing the love you may want because someone else cant handle his inner demons. Dont be a prisoner to someone elses fears and prejuduces.

cause here is a truth that no one can avoid....

If you dont assume that EVERYONE is positive that you have sex with then you will contract the HIV virus, and that covers every human being on the planet. this is a human issue and nothing more or less.

is that reality a heavy responsibility for us to have? yes it is. But so is every thing in life. every choice we make... every step we take makes us the people we become both inside and out and NO one is immortal. You are more likely to die from diabetes due to obesity than you are from HIV. Cancer kills more people than HIV does and that means you cant smoke cigarettes either.

i also want to say that when i came to JUB i never realized how much of a life altering experience it would be for me

but it has

Being with gay men... sharing their lives and their thoughts is more important to me than the fact that we are all mortal and we all die, one way or another.

I love you all in a way that defies explanation or my ability to describe.

in my world love always conquers fear..... Courage always conquers hate.

So live a life.

LIVE

and dont be come the victim of another mans demons

 

[Andreus]

and one lst thing to ponder ahbout HIV being the greatest health challenge... hada yada hada

more people die from cancer and obesity than hiv in western nations

be responsible and have safe sex

if you are really concerned about a greater threat to your health consider going on a diet and avoiding smoke... they are more likely to kill you than HIV.

 

[JayHew]

Averageguy, jockboy1 and Andreus have given the best information and are correct with that information. Haberdasery's information is outdated.

Many factors are needing to be met before infection takes place, one being viral load and intact linings, Health of the individual, etc. Exposure does not mean transmission. From what was described there is low potential for transmission.

 

[luminum]

Haberdashery, your paranoia and tom foolery are not welcome here. All advice given by responsible and knowledgeable people in these forums is always coupled with advice to speak to a professional. While we may know what we are talking about, communication through the internet is an understood and accounted-for variable and it is always the final solution to see a doctor or clinician.

In the meantime, the person in question is seeking answers and we are giving him the advice that we know to be correct from our own experiences and our own education. Andreus of all people knows what he's talking about, having educated himself.

Decrying our advice and his advice while contributing nothing useful of your own besides hysteria doesn't help the poster. And moving this topic to the appropriate forum was just that--appropriate. Users, both new and familiar, can see that there is a 'Health and Wellbeing' forum.

I would advise you to calm down and let people contribute what they can while we all hope that the poster does what numerous posts here have stated: get tested and see a professional.

 

[jockboy01]

Wow, amazing how out of whack things can get in a day.

haberdashery, welcome to health. Please read the info at the top of the page before posting further here. It is a no flame zone first of all. Second, it clearly states that all comments here are not to be taken in place of medical advice.

That said, there are some very knowledgable people on this site and many physicians who frequent this page. It is not just some random porn site. The advice here tends to be quite accurate and helpful. Our goal is to educate individuals as much as possible with good information

Speculating on HIV issues brought forward by a scared young boy, could provide misleading information to him and others reading their comments.

It could... if it were speculation rather than the very factual basis it has. This isn't something we pulled out of the air. And averageguy is correct that the odds are MUCH less than 50/50 and are in fact closer to zero. That's what data shows... not some random guess.

So please, get your facts straight before barging into this section. This is a safe haven for all health topics that deserve educated responses based on FACTS.... not scare tactics. There is very little tolerance for that here.

And lastly, bringing somebody's HIV status up on here other than your own is COMPLETELY unacceptable. Do not do it in the future or there will be further consequences. Andreus has told me that leaving that info up is okay as he hopes others will become more educated about HIV due to his naming it. I appreciate that adult jesture and have therefore left it. However, do not take that to mean that it is by any means acceptable.

If you have any questions about what is appropriate for this forum that are not answered by the sticky, please feel free to PM me and I will try to help you sort it out.