Actually, "selling out" would be changing the story. If the editor told me to make my main character heterosexual so the book would have wider appeal, then of course I wouldn't even think of such a thing. Or dropping all the sex out. Or changing the location of the story. All these things would alter the message.
Changing a font so I could sell in Venezuela? Well, of course I wouldn't reprint the entire run just for them. I would, however, consider running off a couple hundred in another font. If I want Venzuelans reading my book, I have to have it translated into Spanish anyway, why not give them another font? But I sure as hell wouldn't send a consignment of books to Venezuela printed in a font I know is going to make them angry. What would be the point?
Neither would I send a manuscript full of fucks and asses and jizz-dripping cocks to The Ladies' Home Journal. They'd just send it back and I'd be out the price of postage.
To give you another instance, in the book I'm working on right now, I developed a pedophile character to act as a catalyst in the protagonist's sexual awakening. But as I was fleshing this character out with a name and a backstory, I started wondering if perhaps it was wise... pedophilia is a very hot button, emotionally; would the inclusion of this character be worth alienating readers? I rather liked him and had developed a very nice scene, but I decided to drop him out, since the story was about the boy, not the pedophile. In the scenes I had to write to replace him, I was very careful to absolve of blame the characters who did give him his sexual awakening... again with the readership in mind. I don't want people putting down the book before they get to the good part.
Perhaps that's selling out, but it's selling off a part in order to preserve a whole. And if I ever get to the publishing phase and have to edit the hell out of it at the behest of the publisher, I'll have to decide if the edits take away from the story or if the story survives the edits so it can reach an audience.
Time Magazine knows its readership. It prints jargon-laden stories because it knows that its readers like jargon. It makes them feel smarter. But people who write for magazines, even Time, know to put the main points of their stories in the first four paragraphs because the majority of readers don't read past them. You aren't going to put your chief "punchline" point at the end...and if you do, the editor will move it.
And I am willing to bet that if a Time reader stumbled across a word that offended him or her, letters will be written to the editor. They probably get hundreds every week. The editor might not print them, but they'll be there.
So yeah, you aren't going to change anything (that hasn't already been changed by the editor) to placate an audience that isn't interested in your work; but you also don't present your work to that audience. I don't care that church-ladies are going to be offended by my story, and so I am not going to try and publish to a church-lady magazine.
The articles that started this "discussion" were probably not meant for a general audience, but were nevertheless presented here by someone, and JUB is a pretty general audience. The video about the fetal testosterone deficiency theory may very well have been intended for Scientific American, but it was posted on YouTube, and you don't get much more general than that.
So, say I get published...I go with a gay publisher like Alyson, and my books are sold only in gay bookstores. But somehow they get beyond my control, maybe a library in Peoria buys a couple of copies by accident, and it reaches beyond its intended audience. I get some nasty letters from little old ladies in Peoria. Do I answer "Shut your pie-hole, you old bag, I wasn't writing for you; and if you're upset by a few grown-up words maybe you should confine yourself to Highlights for Children." No, though it might feel good, it doesn't further my message; instead I say "I'm sorry you were offended. But I felt the words I used were integral to the story. May I give you this condensed version instead?"
So it's only one more person in my audience, but one is better than none. And it won't get me another sale, but I'm not in it for the money. Nobody makes money on gay novels, anyway. And if the old lady refuses to listen and just walks away still angry, at least I tried. If I'd been condescending, if I'd insisted that she accept the words and read the book anyway, I would have just skipped straight to her walking away angry and completely obviated any other possibility.
So, as a writer of fiction, I need to be prepared to make some concessions:
Theme? No.
Plot? Hell no.
Main characters? Go fuck yourself.
Ancillary characters? Maybe, if the cost is greater than the value, I'll have to think it over.
Swear words? I'd rather not, but in the narrative, I could; in the dialogue I'm not so sure, it will depend on who's speaking.
Sex scenes? Well, I won't take the sex out of the plot, but I can certainly euphemize if we're talking about an excerpt for a mainstream magazine.
Twelve-dollar words? Oh, I do love my twelve-dollar words, but I can sacrifice a few without changing the tone, and ensure that the meaning is clearer in the context if I keep them.
Font? I like Palatino, but so long as it's serif, I don't care.
As in any other facet of life, you choose your battles. If words don't really matter to you, and changing one or two doesn't cost you much, or anything at all except a few extra keystrokes, what's the point in defending them? If you can say 'soft whispering noise' instead of 'susurration,' and it doesn't take anything away from your meaning, why barricade yourself behind susurration?
And feelings are real and valid things. If you cause a feeling in someone, even if you didn't intend to, you're at least half responsible for that feeling. And sometimes you have to hurt feelings, you can't get away from it, but if you can avoid it why wouldn't you?
I mean, it hurts my Grandmother's feelings that I'm gay. Well, I'm sorry she feels that way, but I can't stop being gay and I won't lie about it. That's too important. But it also hurts her feelings if I swear in front of her. Well, it doesn't really cost me anything to not swear, I do it at work all day long, so why should I hurt her feelings? Because that's the way I naturally talk? Is that worth it?
You didn't start this thread, blackbeltninja, and I don't think you would have. As far as I know, you've never presented a scientific thread on JUB. However, yeeeaaahhh started this thread, as well as the one that originally ignited the furore over the words 'unfit' and 'deviant.' If he had taken a moment to think about how the words might affect people on this board, or even backpedaled from those words and presented his sentences another way so as to continue the discussion, a whole lot of anger and resentment and pain, not to mention thousands and thousands of word spent by him defending those two words, could have been prevented.
Are those two words that important? I mean look at the cost: two words defended with ten thousand words. Were those two words essential to the original message? Were the ten thousand words he's written in their defense worth it?
As you and he have said repeatedly, they're just words.