Advice for Dating a Rich Older Man?

[TheRain]

I'm a young guy and I'm beginning to date an older multi-millionaire. He told me he wants a real relationship and not the typical sugar daddy thing. Does anyone have any experience or advice to make sure I don't fuck this up?

 

[SirThomas]

It all depends if you really like the chap really, as long as you get on well enough there's no reason why not to.

However, a real gentleman doesn't discuss his wealth as soon as you meet them... So if he's making it well known, he must be desperate for something.

Just my two pence of course...
Tom

 

[CaptainCaveman]

You need to be clear in your own mind what you want from the relationship.

 

[Echoes]

do you like him or do you just like the money? you made it clear he is a well-off older guy so I guess money is important to you. You need to have that clear first if you don't want to fuck this up.

 

[TheRain]

I've only met him in person on one occasion so far, but he seems like a really nice guy. I do want a man with money. I'm just wondering if there's a different set of, informal guidelines that one should keep in mind for this type of relationship.

I was in a long term relationship where it was for love, and I got burned.. then tried the whole fooling around thing, but it just is not for me. This man can provide the good life for me and help me with my career, which is really want I want at this point in time. A successful, stable man. I can love anyone, if we get along and he's good to me. I just want to make sure to be everything he's looking for.

 

[lunarus]

Think about it this way...

Could you love him if he were poor?

Remove the money aspect all together.

I would look for someone that can love you for you and not just try to buy your love.

Money is nice don't get me wrong but if I am not attracted to him or we don't click, I do not think I could do it with a clear conscience...

Oh and good luck, hope you both have a long wonderful relationship.

 

[altlover85]

I would be understanding about the potential for him to not have as high of a sex drive as you do. I would be open-minded to the things he likes. Hopefully you can find some common ground. I would also offer to pay for things, but that may be something you two should discuss.

I know even if I was supporting someone else, I would still appreciate it if he picked up the tab once in a while or got me gifts and things like that.

 

[TheRain]

From our brief discussion about it, I think his sex drive may be higher than mine... We're still just getting to know each other, so I have no idea about "love" yet. I'm a broke college student and he's a millionaire. I don't think he'd expect me to pay for anything. He wants someone to support, in exchange for loyalty and companionship etc. But he wants to help me in my career and stuff so hopefully soon I'll get to the place where I'm making my own good money.

 

[Just_Believe18]

For richer, or poorer...

 

[TheRain]

Again... I'm kind of over the whole "love" thing right now. Half of partnerships end.. in "divorce" or whatever the statistics are. You can totally be in love with someone but they drive you fucking mad and do stupid shit. The fairytale couple doesn't exist. Why waste my time and be broke and struggling, when I can have fun and be successful and travel and explore the finer things in life? Love is relative. There are many types of love. If we have fun together and can talk about serious things too, as long as we don't have any huge opposing moral beliefs, I think we'll be just fine.

 

[lunarus]

Again... I'm kind of over the whole "love" thing right now. Half of partnerships end.. in "divorce" or whatever the statistics are. You can totally be in love with someone but they drive you fucking mad and do stupid shit. The fairytale couple doesn't exist. Why waste my time and be broke and struggling, when I can have fun and be successful and travel and explore the finer things in life? Love is relative. There are many types of love. If we have fun together and can talk about serious things too, as long as we don't have any huge opposing moral beliefs, I think we'll be just fine.

Wow so young to be so jaded...

Life is what you make it I guess...

 

[TX-Beau]

Well, if you want him to know you want him, pay your own way and don't take expensive gifts.

 

[Lube]

I'm a young guy and I'm beginning to date an older multi-millionaire. He told me he wants a real relationship and not the typical sugar daddy thing.

I'm a broke college student and he's a millionaire. I don't think he'd expect me to pay for anything. He wants someone to support, in exchange for loyalty and companionship etc. But he wants to help me in my career and stuff so hopefully soon I'll get to the place where I'm making my own good money.

What am I missing here?

 

[hotatlboi]

Could you love him if he were poor?

That's a very good way to look at this.

 

[altlover85]

From our brief discussion about it, I think his sex drive may be higher than mine... We're still just getting to know each other, so I have no idea about "love" yet. I'm a broke college student and he's a millionaire. I don't think he'd expect me to pay for anything. He wants someone to support, in exchange for loyalty and companionship etc. But he wants to help me in my career and stuff so hopefully soon I'll get to the place where I'm making my own good money.

I think you'll have a better idea of things after you've actually had sex.

 

[HunterM]

I think you'll have a better idea of things after you've actually had sex.

TheRain, his advice is spot on Just date him to get to know each other. If it does not work out for you...please give me his number

 

[TheRain]

@Lube I know I sounded contradictory. I was referring to the fact that many sugar daddy relationships involve just sex/paying for extravagant things, while sometimes the sugar baby rarely sees the daddy and has other real relationships at the same time... whereas he wants a committed relationship. But on his profile (basically a sugar daddy website) he did say he wanted someone to help achieve their goals/dreams. At any rate, whether spoken or not, I think the trade-off is implied. My youth for his financial support. I would like to build something serious around that if possible, but that's the initial setup. He's on the site in the first place so it's not like there's any deception involved.

But I do agree with you guys that after sex I'd have a lot better picture of whether I can be with him or not. Sigh... let's hope for the best.

 

[altlover85]

At any rate, whether spoken or not, I think the trade-off is implied. My youth for his financial support. I would like to build something serious around that if possible, but that's the initial setup.

How old is this guy? As you know youth is transient and relative. I'm not sure how something serious evolves out of something that is basically about money in exchange for youth.

 

[TheRain]

He's mid 50's I'm 21. He was looking for under 30, so I should have some mileage, lol. Not to toot my own horn but I would say not just my youth, but also looks, intelligence, and overall personality/charm. I think something serious can emerge just from 2 people having a lot in common, that they wouldn't otherwise find out without the incentive of this trade-off. It just seals the deal.

 

[Just_Believe18]

You treat "love" like a business partnership. It's not.