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age different, would it work ? 18 and 28

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hey guys,

i met a guy, 18yo boy from canada and he's a exchange student here.....and we kind of like each other, but think about his age, make me feel like it wasn't the right one for me, as I am 26 to 27 now....

would it work if we really couple ?
 
I've known 30 year olds that were so immature as to be like 18 year olds and I've known 18 year olds that were more mature than most 30 year olds. You can see where I am going here; depends on the guys. There are a lot of couples with 10 years difference. That is not that huge of a gap. As time passes it even seems like less. Go with what feels right and don't worry about standards or anyone else's opinions, too much. It's about you two and no one else!
 
I have a 49 year old brother whose partner is in his early 60's. They've been together for almost 30 years nonstop.

I have another brother thats 48, and his partner is 40.

I'm still waiting for my turn with Brad Pitt...

If you're comfortable with him, and he's comfortable with you, and you're both adults, I see no problem.
 
what am worrying about is when someday he might comes up and tell me am too young and wanting to explore more thing, probably it be a disaster for me...
 
You're chances aren't really that great, both of you being in fairly significantly different stages of growing up and being from different cultures and languages puts an additional strain on things, but so what? If he were the same age as you and just as Swedish it still might not work.

My advice is not to worry about it and go with your feelings.
 
I would worry more about he going back to his country of origin than age. Are you looking for a long-term relationship? It can happen with an age difference but I'm not sure about your circumstances.

I'd go with a casual relationship. Enjoy it for how long it lasts. If you want love and committment, find a local boy.
 
I'm 18 and dating someone who is 44, age is just a number. Like timnmostud said, maturity levels vary greatly.
 
Obviously, there are examples of where age different relationships work and work well. All relationships have their own tensions and issues.

The problems that I've seen in age different relationship is lack of age related common interests/friends and age related changes in the relationship. While these factors are common to all relationships, the age difference gives an age spin.

In terms of changes, for example, a relationship might start well on a mentor-protege basis, where the older guy simply has more money or life experience, etc. While some guys can make this work, a typical pattern is that the younger guy no longer needs or wants to be mentored as he grows older while the older guy resents the change.

Some older and some younger guys just don't have any interest or patience in exploring this older-younger dynamic. On the other hand, because there aren't as many blue prints for the issues in age-equal relationships, same age relationships, IMHO, are in some ways more difficult. Certainly that's why some older gay guys overfocus on the predictabiliy of pursuing younger ones.

Some guys try to balance the younger or older boyfriend with a wider circle of same age friends. Always a good idea.

I guess it boils down to whether you want to focus your energies on age difference issues or not.
 
today we were talking about it....and he want to be with me and planning to stay back in sweden after the exchange program.....but i have told him that im not good in long term relationship, and no want to be tight down now...is it cruel ??

i like him, but no in love with him yet...so its easy for me to said goodbye now, rather then suffer later...

hope his is doing fine, and find someone better ..eerr ;)

no judgment to me please....hehe

sorry for my bad english.
 
You're being realistic, which is a bit disappointing to my romantic side, but it just means that your happy ending will be sometime soon in the future ;)
 
I am 40 and my partner of 6 years is now 26 and we have a home together and everything. Age is only a number.
 
At 18 I think he's still got a lot of wild oats to sew. Look for someone at least 21
 
It all depends on the person and their individule Maturity .... When I was in my early 30's I was with a guy who was just 19 ... we were together for just over three years ... MY own problems ruined that ...
So; just go by your Heart and remember .... COMMUNICATION is the Key to ANY good Relationship ...
 
age is just a number ... the chemistry is more important and whether he treats you right.... my ex was 14yrs older than me...and it wasnt till someone mentioned it that i thought about it..... an no the age wasnt a factor at all in our split...
 
my best friend from work is only 21 and im 45. So in my case it would not work since he is straight. But if he was gay wed have no problem we have alot of fun together. Most dthink that we are a couple. Id say you should have no problem
 
im going out with a guy who's 43 and so far it's wrkng out well. It only been 2 weeks now, but so far it's working. Don't see a reason it wouldn't.
 
Hey holy,

Well mate... sometimes love is love. Sometimes it doesn't matter who they are or what they look like. Sometimes age is meaningless.

His being 18 is no more important that you being 26 or 27. Not a bit. You can talk about maturity and intelligence until you are blue in the face because ultimately it means nothing.

Theres a feeling in the pit of your stomach, the one that aches when he walks away, the one that leaps out of you when you hear his voice and the one that only eases as you lie arm in arm.

Thats whats important.

And if you let crazy things like a fear of him saying something to you a lifetime from now then you risk missing a love that may have meant to be yours. If you rationalize and argue away love you miss the point. Because there is no logic to love.

Its an emotion - one that overpowers and overwhelms us all.

Will it work... hell yes. And even if its for a short time a love with depth and feeling and passion is worth a 1000 risks.

And you holy, are worth having that warm enveloping feeling wash over you. You are worth that amazing sensation knocking common sense for six. You deserve to chance love.

Life is way way too short to miss out on taking chances Holy. Take the risk... you've got nothing to lose and theres nothing that love cant overcome it you want it to.
 
tallguy297 said:
Hey holy,

Well mate... sometimes love is love. Sometimes it doesn't matter who they are or what they look like. Sometimes age is meaningless.

His being 18 is no more important that you being 26 or 27. Not a bit. You can talk about maturity and intelligence until you are blue in the face because ultimately it means nothing.

Theres a feeling in the pit of your stomach, the one that aches when he walks away, the one that leaps out of you when you hear his voice and the one that only eases as you lie arm in arm.

Thats whats important.

And if you let crazy things like a fear of him saying something to you a lifetime from now then you risk missing a love that may have meant to be yours. If you rationalize and argue away love you miss the point. Because there is no logic to love.

Its an emotion - one that overpowers and overwhelms us all.

Will it work... hell yes. And even if its for a short time a love with depth and feeling and passion is worth a 1000 risks.

And you holy, are worth having that warm enveloping feeling wash over you. You are worth that amazing sensation knocking common sense for six. You deserve to chance love.

Life is way way too short to miss out on taking chances Holy. Take the risk... you've got nothing to lose and theres nothing that love cant overcome it you want it to.
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hey tallguy,

thanks !! you always have those romantic writing .....are you a writer ?
 
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