All aboard the single express

[ravenstar]

So who here is single? And why are you single? are you too fussy, too old, too young, too boring, too exotic, too excitable, too stable, not stable enough. Share with your fellow singles the joys and tribulations of life as a single Queen in the city.

Do you want to be in relationship, just out of one or just in one? Give us singles the benefit of your wisdom.

 

[gsdx]

I've never been in a genuine relationship with a guy and I haven't been in a sexual relationship in 2 decades. Blame it on anxiety attacks and a back that doesn't work worth a damn.

I'm rather used to it now.

 

[maxpowr9]

I just had a miserable date that I had to buy my way out of.

I'm single because most gay men are emotionally inept and/or unkempt.

 

[72-Jay]

So who here is single?

I Always have been 100% single...(and expect that I always will be)

And why are you single?

Some reasons: too old/too boring/no good with social interaction/not good-looking/afraid of relationships/where i live/(and so many more reasons)

Share with your fellow singles the joys and tribulations of life as a single Queen in the city.

I see nothing wrong with being single.
Oh and...I live outside city limits

Do you want to be in relationship

The answer is "I don't know"
I daydream about it all the time
In 'real life' if I could have a storybook relationship where everything was perfect: then yep
^that sorta thing doesn't happen..so probably not

 

[SkinnyBoi87]

So who here is single? And why are you single? are you too fussy, too old, too young, too boring, too exotic, too excitable, too stable, not stable enough. Share with your fellow singles the joys and tribulations of life as a single Queen in the city.

Do you want to be in relationship, just out of one or just in one? Give us singles the benefit of your wisdom.

I am single.
As for the why? Mainly because I live in a small redneck town where our gay populations is next to zero, and the one's that are gay are either taken, assholes or creepers....so I honestly don't know anymore....as soon as I'm stable enough, I think it's time for a move.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

I'm single because I want to be.

Succinctly, it sounds shockingly conceited, but I really just don't want to date right now. Luckily I live near Atlanta, so I don't run into people that date much anyway.

 

[m1thousand]

I'm single. Since 1989. That was a 3 month relationship.

I have put off guys because I'm 49, I don't work, and don't really gave much to show for being here 49 years. I'm embarrassed by my place. It has some extreme wear on the floor.
It's embarrassing to have not worked in a long time (over 10 years) because of anxiety attacks. I would feel inferior as a person if I had to deal with that so it's easier to avoid by not having anyone over.
But I am someone who prefers a solitude life. I can do what I want, when I want, etc. but there are drawbacks to that. It would be nice to go with someone to a movie than go by myself (considering I used to not see movies)
My relationship history is also embarrassing. To tell someone the longest relationship you've been in was 3 months . . . They might see that as a red flag
I live in a non gay friendly town

floor
https://31.media.tumblr.com/ae882a5c2ed5ff9fd3882034b9989e43/tumblr_mxs6vydgUO1saa1x7o1_500.jpg
I moved my couch out of the way and the floor is pristine. Since my landlord plan to renovate when I eventually move out, I could take the pristine floor from under the couch and use that to replace the floor


Gsdx,
I didn't realize we are very similar in our relationship histories as well.

 

[ravenstar]

Well to answer my own questions, I've always been single. Never had a relationship with anyone, male or female. I've got no idea why that's the case. Probably because I've got the self confidence of walnut. I pick at myself - figuratively - and always come up with a reason that 'so-n-so" wouldn't be interested. I'm working on it though.

 

[JPGhost]

I just had a miserable date that I had to buy my way out of.

I'm single because most gay men are emotionally inept and/or unkempt.

Well..maybe because this is how you treat gay boy you like

 

[cgymike]

Single in Seattle like soooo many here. Age is irrelevant as it turns out. There are many more under 30 guys here single. The demands of work here pre-empt a relationship. That's this area. It's all about work.

Not looking. If I want sex, I go to the many saunas/sex clubs here. It's like a mini-London... and come on in London who the hell is in a relationship?

 

[JPGhost]

I just had a chuck of introspection tonight..since I have a bad day too

My dilema of dating

1. Always attracted physically but after reading their profile/meet up- withdrawn automatically
2. Afraid of extreme lifestyle exposure
3. Demand/ expectation always higher than personal-giving quality
4. Not on the most wanted (minority) and limited dating pool/choice
5.Difficult to guess the outcome (a lot of self hypothesis because self really love predictable result) but self actually pretty inexperienced; making it really frustrating
6. High level of de-humanization; having an exact separation between lust vs. emotion
7. Difficult to judge whether self actually need companionship or not- cant make fix decision because he's not trying enough

 

[yhtang]

I choose to be single. I like my lifestyle as it is, and I need my personal space.

Would I enter a relationship? I would give it a try if I feel the other guy rings my bell. But I would not enter a relationship just because everyone else around me is in a relationship.

 

[JPGhost]

I choose to be single. I like my lifestyle as it is, and I need my personal space.

One of my reason too but mine is too extreme..it's almost 'cold'

 

[JPGhost]

who the hell is in a relationship?

So..is it a final answer?

 

[nafhoosier]

I've never been in a relationship and probably never will be.

It's not that I'm socially inept or a hermit. I'm extremely extroverted, have lots of friends, and love people.

I just don't see anyone ever loving me in a romantic or sexual way, I'm really not good looking enough, I need to get in much better shape (I'm 25), and I'm actually not normal to be honest. I'm actually really quirky, not so much in an OCD way, but I'm certainly not a boring, normal, vanilla person. Since I don't conform to the norms, I don't ever see anyone romantically loving me. Sometimes I want to be in a relationship and get lonely sleeping at night and imagine someone next to me, then I realize I'm being quite selfish and unhappy with myself and snap out of it. I don't know if it's a fear of intimacy overall that's a factor, but while I have lots of people who love me, romantically I just don't ever see it happening.

Nearly all of my friends (straight and gay) are in relationships. Often I feel like the odd man out, and I've been to countless weddings where I always show up single (gives me great time to hang out at the bar!) Nearly all my friends, they always try to set me up. It annoys me and I get frustrated. Why do you want me to date someone? Why do you care? Oh, you just want me to be happy? You have a great guy for me? Ugh, just shoot me. Friendship wise, I have great luck and lots of different kinds of friends. Romantically, I always get rejected, and I just have given up and accepted basically being single for life. I'm sick of rejection and just don't want to deal with it anymore. The acceptance kind of makes me more comfortable with myself and happy that I won't have to deal with the drama, negativity, and BS that I see happening in my friends relationships. I have tons of free time, can always hang out with my friends, and sleep in ANY position I want without having to worry about the person next to me.

I think some people are just meant to be alone romantically and I'm one of those people. People tell me that there's something wrong with my attitude, I don't know how to respond. I am what I am.

 

[cgymike]

So..is it a final answer?

All I can come back with is:

"If it happens it happens"

 

[Telstra]

i am special single ..............

 

[ravenstar]

i am special ..............

You could have just stopped there Telly

 

[geloge]

I'm single because I'm weird.

 

[JPGhost]

Do you REALLY wanna hear what goes on in my lonely mind?

*clears throat*

Well here it goes. I am single by choice and not by choice, if that makes sense. Back when I was a teen, I didn't date anyone, guys or girls, for many reasons. Them being:

-I was 260 lbs. and unattractive (to them and to myself)
-I hardly showered then (only because I was lazy and depressed)
-The girls only wanted the tall, hunky boys who played sports and partied, and that was/is not me. The gay men were too preppy and femboyish to be my friend or a boyfriend
-I was too caught up in schoolwork and home life to really go out and get to know anyone, let alone date
-I was really only the acquaintance/"brother" type to anybody, so they couldn't date me
-No one found me interesting enough, even though I had/have so much to tell and give
-Their parents hated me or they ended up hating me, the ones that I wanted to date

Now that I am older, wiser and more in tune with everything, I still can't find anyone deserving of my heart. Most gay men my age are way too much into their looks and just want to party and fuck everything in sight. I try to be friendly and get close to them, but they think my unattractive self is "creeping" on them or making them feel uncomfortable, when it's their own insecurities keeping me from getting to know them. They are in denial about their own issues too, too set in their ways to see that their narrow view on life and their self-destructive behavior is what is messing them and everyone else up, thus robbing them of potential friends and relationships.

But one thing I notice you that you're very horny and you can use your horniness to attract mate- just tell guys that you're giving good quality service.
If you shoot down yourself, just remember that people have wide range sexuality, not all gay man are into looks- some having sexual satisfaction from foreplay, body worship, etc, some are very passive I mean..be creative and step up your game ^^