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am i a prostitute?

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a couple of years ago, when i was 19, i signed up for manhunt hooked up with this guy in his early 30s who, based on where he lived, was very successful. turned out he was a lawyer. i'd never been with a guy that old before (or for that matter a guy more than a year older than me), and was real hesitant. but when i got there he was hot and the sex even hotter, primarily because it was just sex. he was very skilled (first guy to really rim me) and it was the first time i ever really enjoyed bottoming. when we were done i took a shower and got dressed. as i was leaving he said 'that was lots of fun. some other time?' i said 'sure', really not expecting to hear from him again.

about a week later i got a text from him inviting me to a cocktail party that he and his partner were having that saturday. when i got there, it was him, his partner, and another guy, early 40s, and also very hot. they were all professionals of some sort. for a while it was just a social gathering. they asked me about what i was studying (economics) and my career plans, etc. and seemed pretty impressed. about a half an hour later a fourth arrived, late 20s, also very hot. shortly after bill, the guy i'd hooked with originally, took me aside and said it they were going to have group sex. he said it was ok if i felt uncomfortable and wanted to leave. he also said that if i stayed, i didn't have to do anything i didn't want to or play with anyone i wasn't into. they were all hot and i was suddenly very horny so i decided to stick around.

at first it was very open, we got into a circle and just touched, kissed, stroked, and sucked. i sorta paired up with bill's partner, tom. he gave me an awesome rim job and then asked if he could fuck me. i said sure. after he started to fuck me the dynamic of the group changed and i became the main attraction. i suppose i was gang-banged, but i really didn't feel like i was being used. i really got off on the idea that these hot, professional guys wanted to fuck me.

we broke up at around one and the older guy, peter, asked me if i wanted to spend the night at his place. i had a long way to go, so i said yes. we were both tired and went right to sleep, but spent most of the next morning fucking. then he took me out to a very expensive lunch.

so for the past couple of years i have been playing with these guys and a few of their friends, either one-on-one or in small groups. we have never done anything unsafe, and poppers are the only drug we've used. they seem genuinely interested in me, my career, etc. they're all smart, successful, and have taught me lots about the real world. they have taken me out for many expensive meals, have brought me incredible presents including a $1,200 racing bike for my 21st birthday. i've been treated to long weekends in key west, new york, and to an atlantis cruise. i accompanied one of them on a ten day business trip to europe. while money has never been offered, i've never had to pay for anything.

however, i've always implicitly known that I needed to put out to keep this gravy train going. mostly i don't mind. they've all good looking, and taught me an awful lot about having fun in bed (and other places). mostly the sex has been great, but there have been time when i just bent over and took it and others when i've agreed to do things i wasn't nuts about, like getting fucked in a sling, or being in 'home movies'. i've been able to see guys my own age on the side, but this group has definitely gotten in the way of having a real relationship.

any thoughts?
 
meh.

You can't be a prostitute becuase you don't ask for money.

Think of yourself as a pet.
 
No, because they did not state the amount of dollars they will pay you for sex. That is what makes it illegal.
 
You're getting amazing sex.
You're getting (what sounds like) great company with people you like.
You're getting gifts and fancy dinners.

...what's the problem?

Lex
 
well it sounds pretty hot most of the time. only hope ur home movie doesn't show up on xtube, of if it does isn't too embarrassing ;)
 
I'd say yes and it sounds like it's intruding on your life. It will be interesting to see what will happen when you stop playing, or when they need someone younger.

None of this is a problem until you say/think it is.
 
No, but you are the "entertainment" for a group of older, affluent men who are looking for younger guys who are willing to exchange sex for benefits that they can provide.

Go to any event or restaurant in Hollywood or Palm Springs and you'll see a dozen young men and women doing exactly what you're doing. Some are there for the cash. Some are there for the benefits. Some were hired through escort services. Others are free-lancers.
 
Not in the strictest definition of the term, nonetheless you've been bought and paid for.
 
Not really, you're more a courtesan


and if you play your card rights (finish school, get a good job) you might end up being on the other end of the deal...


Quite honestly if you are enjoying yourself (and it seems you're safe), and they don't treat you disrespectfully, then what's the problem?
 
You're using them, and they're using you. Prostitution? Not in the strictest sense of the word, but not too far away.
 
Do you care about STD's????

I assume you just sit at home and masturbate. Aside from that, you may keep these stupid comments to yourself.

As for the topic at hand, girl work it for as long as you can!!!
 
No, but you are the "entertainment" for a group of older, affluent men who are looking for younger guys who are willing to exchange sex for benefits that they can provide.

Go to any event or restaurant in Hollywood or Palm Springs and you'll see a dozen young men and women doing exactly what you're doing. Some are there for the cash. Some are there for the benefits. Some were hired through escort services. Others are free-lancers.

Bang. On target as always.

It doesn't sound like a bad deal. Just don't start relying on them. And if it ever does get in the way of a real relationship, you should ask yourself if it's because you are with someone who is close minded, or is it simply a time issue. Anyways, choose love.
 
I assume you just sit at home and masturbate. Aside from that, you may keep these stupid comments to yourself.

Bravo. Best response to someone who has only been stirred to post 139 times in three years but found his voice to ask the obvious.

Yes sir your (sic) a certainer (sic) Prostitute.....Although you didn't ask for these things or expect them

Sometimes, you just have to shake your head.....

So, we've offered a few thoughts on what you actually are. I would add protege to my earlier description of being a pet. But to the crux of the matter, you are actually feeling troubled by the idea that people are paying for your companionship and time.

I have a question that should put it all in perspective. Besides sex and conversation, do you ever give these guys anything in return? A favourite wine or scotch, a small memento from trips, a good book?
Or are you just a vessel that can't be filled?

Would you want to hang out with these guys if they gave you nothing?

I think a lot of these guys may see someone who is articulate, smart and companionable. They want you to succeed academically and socially. Kind of like a whole bunch of uncles.

Don't disappoint them.
 
i've been able to see guys my own age on the side, but this group has definitely gotten in the way of having a real relationship.

any thoughts?

Seems like you know exactly what the problem is.

No problem with continuing to do it. It's fun and everybody's enjoying it!

But it's not a relationship; it's not a commitment. And you know that.

Make sure you make time for yourself and what you want from life, if that means a committed relationship.

I'd start backing off and making time for your own needs. A serious bf might not be so happy with you continuing, though. (*8*)
 
Thanks for the feedback:

rareboy: i've never asked for anything and i don't feel like i rely on them. i have brought small presents for birthdays and such though single-malt isn't in the budget these days. my gifts have been appreciated.

they are intelligent, fun guys to hang out with, and i think they see me as a version of themselves 10 or 15 years earlier. they seem to enjoy my company in addition to my ass.

one of the problems is i don't feel like i can say no. a guy pays for my trip to fl or europe, drops a c-note on my dinner . . . if he wants to fuck we're going to fuck. i'm pretty horny so most of the time that's usually ok. but there have been times when i've just spread my legs and pretended i was into it. btw i'm not 100% bottom by any means.

courtesan -- i'm embarrassed to admit i just had to look that word up. i will say i have become very skilled ;) i was with a cute 19 year old guy a few weeks ago. while he said he wasn't, i'm pretty sure he was a virgin (certainly felt like it, lol!) he seemed in shock when i started rimming with him and playing with his ass. gave him a damn good first ride.
 
Bang. On target as always.

And if it ever does get in the way of a real relationship, you should ask yourself if it's because you are with someone who is close minded.

You could call me close minded if you want, but if i ever found out that my boyfriend was fucking for favours, i'd boot his ass to the door.
 
I’ve seen situations like yours work out for the benefit of both parties – and I’ve seen them go down in flames.

So long as everyone knows what the game is, I don’t see a problem. You know it’s not love, you know it’s not forever, so as long as you don’t feel used, and you feel you’re getting what you want out of it, who cares.

If you feel degraded and used, that’s another story altogether.
 
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