Am I being sizeist?

[coltonhaynes]

how would you feel if you were rejected because of you were too tall?

Thing is, people generally consider being taller as being better, so if I was told I'm no dating material because I'm TOO tall, it's like being told I'm being rejected for being too awesome.

 

[otters]

They were part of the Russian empire, the part that became Poland eventually What does that say to you?

Województwo podlaskie, I suppose? In that case it would be no surprise if you have Ukrainian/Belarusian (Ruthenian) and/or Lithuanian speaking ancestry. They often tend to be taller than the "core-Polish" people, AFAIK.

 

[jaysizzles]

Thing is, people generally consider being taller as being better, so if I was told I'm no dating material because I'm TOO tall, it's like being told I'm being rejected for being too awesome.

I was with you on your having a preference for dating someone your height up until this post. Being taller does not make you "better" or more "awesome" than anyone else...it just makes you, well...taller. Some guys have a preference for taller men. Most guys, however, do not have a preference for arrogant men...

 

[palemale]

We invariably find taller men more attractive, especially if they are muscular or well built. This is particularly true for men who are tops. On the other hand, one of my favorite fuckbuddies was 6'5" tall, lean muscular, 10" cock and was a bottom. I'm only 5'10" tall.

We all have our physical preferences, and that doesn't make anyone a bad person. What matters is how you interact with the other guy, especially when you turn him down. There are few reasons to tell a person why you are rejecting them. No one would think telling someone you wouldn't date them because they are too ugly is appropriate behavior. Too many people, especially on internet sites, have dreadful manners and seem to have difficulty being polite and friendly. Indeed, one of the few reasons I can think of for telling someone you are rejecting them is because they have bad manners.

 

[sixthson]

As Randy Newman sang "short people go no reason to live".

 

[coltonhaynes]

Województwo podlaskie, I suppose? In that case it would be no surprise if you have Ukrainian/Belarusian (Ruthenian) and/or Lithuanian speaking ancestry. They often tend to be taller than the "core-Polish" people, AFAIK.

I'm from lesser Poland, but you're close enough ;D

I was with you on your having a preference for dating someone your height up until this post. Being taller does not make you "better" or more "awesome" than anyone else...it just makes you, well...taller. Some guys have a preference for taller men. Most guys, however, do not have a preference for arrogant men...

I wasn't trying to sound arrogant, but most people who are small wish to be taller, with the reverse not being true. as such, I'd propoably laugh at anyone who tells me I'm too tall for them.

 

[palemale]

I'm from lesser Poland, but you're close enough ;D



I wasn't trying to sound arrogant, but most people who are small wish to be taller, with the reverse not being true. as such, I'd propoably laugh at anyone who tells me I'm too tall for them.

Are you a top or bottom?

 

[aaggii]

I´m 1.80m and my boyfriend is 1.65 or so. I usually went for people as tall or taller (and bigger) than me, but I´m happy with my man and the height difference was never a problem.

These new wave ¨isms¨ must stop. Date who you want and like. Don´t be a dick to people you´re not attracted to. etc.

 

[tarallucci]

You're not discriminating as it's just a preference of yours but it's rather silly to judge people or whether to meet them according to their height. If it's really a turn off for you then tell them they're not your type.

I like both short and tall and I've learned that even guys who are not quite my kind can be interesting.

 

[hotatlboi]

You're not discriminating as it's just a preference of yours but it's rather silly to judge people or whether to meet them according to their height. If it's really a turn off for you then tell them they're not your type.

I like both short and tall and I've learned that even guys who are not quite my kind can be interesting.

You said he's not discriminating and then explained why he is.

In short, yes you are. But that's fine, people discriminate based on a lot of things when picking a partner.

Part of the confusion is probably because of the negative context the word "discrimination" has. But that's usually in the context of the government discriminating, which is of course bad. On the contrary discriminating in picking your romantic partners is pretty essential to creating a relationship that works.

 

[CharlieMars]

What's the problem here? If you don't like short guys, then don't meet them. It's hardly rocket science. I'm 6'2" and have dated short and tall men. In my experience, there's nothing worse than a tall guy throwing his weight around and acting like the big I am and criticising other men just because he's vertically blessed, it’s an instant turn-off. I once worked with a tall guy who did this. Another co-worker ended up sleeping with him after a night out and reported back the next morning that he had a tiny dick. Even tall, seemingly self-confident men overcompensate sometimes. And surely a guy who calls himself awesome is, in fact, the complete opposite. No one who is truly awesome would refer to themselves as such.

 

[coltonhaynes]

And surely a guy who calls himself awesome is, in fact, the complete opposite. No one who is truly awesome would refer to themselves as such.

Ye're completely misunderstanding what I was trying to say there. I was asked by a guy how I'd feel if a small guy rejected me for being "too" tall, to which I said is that people generally prefer being taller, which means that it doesn't really work in that direction.

What's the problem here? If you don't like short guys, then don't meet them.

The only problem is, that it is, as I said, not as simple to the guys I reject. ^_^ They tell me (and that not always politely) it's bullshit to make whether I want to meet them depend on size.

 

[palemale]

Ye're completely misunderstanding what I was trying to say there. I was asked by a guy how I'd feel if a small guy rejected me for being "too" tall, to which I said is that people generally prefer being taller, which means that it doesn't really work in that direction.

The only problem is, that it is, as I said, not as simple to the guys I reject. ^_^ They tell me (and that not always politely) it's bullshit to make whether I want to meet them depend on size.

You still didn't answer my question. Are you top, bottom, vers? I think a lot of tall guys don't like to bottom for shorter guys. I thought you might be vers or bottom.

 

[coltonhaynes]

You still didn't answer my question. Are you top, bottom, vers? I think a lot of tall guys don't like to bottom for shorter guys. I thought you might be vers or bottom.

Who wants to know?

 

[otters]

Who wants to know?

We all want to know

 

[coltonhaynes]

We all want to know

The thing is, I'm not really here to talk about myself. If I do, I prefer asking questions, and not answering them.

 

[palemale]

The thing is, I'm not really here to talk about myself. If I do, I prefer asking questions, and not answering them.

Sometimes we need additional information to answer a poster's question. Your reluctance to answer my question suggests to me that you tend to bottom and do not like to bottom for someone who is smaller than you. That is not uncommon.

I'm not particularly tall, but tend not to be attracted to tops who are much smaller than me, although I find shorter tops who are otherwise bigger than me attractive. On the other hand, I am often attracted to very tall bottoms. Once topped a former college basketball player who was about 10" taller than me and out weighed me by about 80 lbs.

 

[tobymerwin]

Background of this question is: I'm rather tall (1.93m, or 6'3 for Americans). In the past I met up with two men I got to know on dating platforms, and I was shocked at how small they were (they weren't even 1.70), because it somehow felt wrong walking next to them when there was such a high disparity.

As a result, I have asked most guys I get to know how tall they are, and I have made it depend also on whether I meet up with them or not. I was consequently told that I am a dick for making it depend on that by the guys I rejected However, judging by my past experiences, I just feel that I want to be with a man who has my height, or at least isn't much smaller.

My question to you guys is: Do you think I'm discriminating these people based on their size?
And to not make this thread about me only, you can say whether you can imagine dating a man who is a whole lot larger or smaller than you?

OMG! Seriously! Sizeist? Are we all now some type of "-ist" just because of our preferences? For the love of God, if you like taller guys, go for it. It's YOUR choice, not society's. I prefer water over soda. Does that make me a sodaist?

 

[King Gumby VIII]

It's better to be open up front and tell the truth. Then lie about what you are looking for.
Agree on the overused "-ism" or "-ist"

 

[coltonhaynes]

OMG! Seriously! Sizeist? Are we all now some type of "-ist" just because of our preferences? For the love of God, if you like taller guys, go for it. It's YOUR choice, not society's. I prefer water over soda. Does that make me a sodaist?

It's better to be open up front and tell the truth. Then lie about what you are looking for.
Agree on the overused "-ism" or "-ist"

The deal here is, though, that I've been called... let's say not so nice things by the people whom I have rejected for being too small. They did not see it as simple. That's the reason I felt desire to create this thread and talk about it. Even the word sizeist fell once, which explains the use of the word in the title.