Am I the Only One Grossed Out by Barebacking?

[rajbolt]

Both the thought of doing it, and watching it. It just grosses me out. I suppose I've associated it with disease and dirt for so long that I can't think of it as something, em, "good."


Does anyone else feel this way?

 

[Lukeee]

'Condoms aren't natural' is not a good excuse to go bareback. Very little of the things we use are natural.

I have never and will never have unprotected sex. I'm not a woman and I am not going to get pregnant so there is no reason for me to do it.

 

[onetwothreefour]

i've always struggled with the world natural

in my belief system---anything that exists in this universe is natural--which makes even viagra natural--a human made it--and humans are animals---would we say a damn made by a beaver isn't natural because he had to construct it?

so why should dental dams (har har) or condoms not be considered natural? we are animals that built something out of something that exists in this universe...like birds build nests, etc etc

the same with acts--if a human does something --it is by nature a human act

what are we really saying when we say condoms aren't natural? that other animals aren't clever enough to make them, and the human brain is so technologically advanced that what we make is too processed to be considered natural? or that condoms haven't existed since the beginning of time therefore they aren't natural? if so, i don't think either of those reach the definition of natural


to answer to the original question, no i'm not grossed out by it, but i wouldn't do it either, condoms are fun and manly

 

[TickTockMan]

I find it gross because it's an ass, and asses really never attracted me... at leats they're nice, but spreading them and shit :/

Apparently I have a lot to learn...

Soap and water. They are wonderful things.

I'm a germaphobe, just touching another person period is revolting to me.

Although when I get horny alot of my hangups and thought-processes go right out the window and I'm down for pretty much whatever sexual with a guy.

Except of course, barebacking. AIDS and STDS aside, there's no way in hell I'm sticking my naked dick up any guy's ass w/o something covering it. I can never EVER get over of what comes out of there. Even if he douches and cleans himself out down there, I'm not going anywhere near it w/o wearing some protection.

I am the same. Oddly I study sexuality and all that, but I find sex to be really nasty unless I'm wanting some. I can talk about sex for hours, but the though of me having sex when I am not horny makes me want to get sick. I don't get it.

 

[rareboy]

What a shame for all of you enfants.

I remember an age of sex without latex.

God. It was so hot.

I feel really, really sorry for an entire generation that has been raised to think of everything as a threat and in need of sanitization.

 

[TygreBryte]

^ post #9. I think it's very seldom acknowledged the ways in which the advent of HIV/AIDS twisted the sexual development of generations of us. I think we still haven't gotten stuff adjusted quite right. We should all play cautious and stay healthy, but it's not like a hefty price hasn't been paid.

 

[undisclosed1234]

It may not be natural to wear a condom but with the dozens and dozens of diseases out there and promiscuity being a staple of the gay handbook condoms are second nature.

The idea of rimming however is perhaps the nastiest thing I've ever heard of. Not gonna happen. Ever.

 

[nafhoosier]

Barebacking is natural... Condoms aren't.

Yes its teh risk of illness that is grossing you out about it.

It sure as hell grosses me out.

Is the risk of getting a terminal illness really worth the "naturalness" of barebacking?

Fuck that, I'm sticking to my instincts and using protection, and if a dude doesn't like it, he knows where he can shove it.

 

[bankside]

^ post #9. I think it's very seldom acknowledged the ways in which the advent of HIV/AIDS twisted the sexual development of generations of us. I think we still haven't gotten stuff adjusted quite right. We should all play cautious and stay healthy, but it's not like a hefty price hasn't been paid.

My read of the impact of gay liberation followed by AIDS is this:

• "Screw you society! We're gay and we don't have to play by your rules!" followed by:
• "We're throwing off heterosexist social norms!" then:
• " Lets fuck hundreds of strangers!" followed by:
• "Holy shit, everyone is sick!" then
• "Lets fuck hundreds of strangers with condoms!"

And then that leads us to the last 12-15 years which is essentially the modern debate.

Sex with your partner without condoms is natural and usually healthy. Pee after you fuck. Get tested and know your partner. Discuss any risks that show up in the test results. Discuss commitment.

Sex with dozens of strangers without condoms is inherently risky. But that is mostly because sex with dozens of strangers is risky. The people who think it is a good idea do not necessarily have the presence of mind to use condoms. Or they do but then you see them saying "Oh I always use condoms but this time I got carried away."

The obvious way to reduce risk is to stop the random sexual encounters.

Condoms are like knee braces. You should use them if there is a specific concern, but they are no substitute to being kind to your knees in the first place.

 

[Lukeee]

Condoms aren't natural. Neither are the drugs you will have to take to cure/slow down your STD.

 

[boxerdudeuk]

i've always found a great way to avoid STD's is to not whore around?

maybe it's just me... but i'd rather sleep with someone i REALLY dig 1,000 times instead of sleeping with 1,000 people i don't know once.

 

[undisclosed1234]

What a shame for all of you enfants.

I remember an age of sex without latex.

God. It was so hot.

I feel really, really sorry for an entire generation that has been raised to think of everything as a threat and in need of sanitization.

Yeah and that ended up so well. Really proud era for us there. Pat yourself.

 

[thewiz]

I spent 20 years in a married relationship and went "bareback" several times with two kids the result. I ended up having a vasectomy so I would not produce more kids but could enjoy having "unprotected" sex with my then wife.

My current boyfriend and I have been together over a year. When we started dating, one of our first nights out was to go to the Whitman-Walker Gay Men's Clinic and get tested together. We went back two other times to ensure we were both completely STD and HIV free and enjoy barebacking each other.

There is nothing like being in a relationship that you can totally give yourself to another and he to you. It is beautiful to snuggle into bed at night and have a gentle kiss begin to heat up the passions as you kiss and suck each other and then reach over to the lube dispenser and be able to slide it into the other. It is also beautiful to awake in the morning with an erection while spooning with your mate and not fearing being able to again slide it inside and totally give to the other.

Sex is a very beautiful thing that is often terribly distorted as just some animalistic action that must be satisfied versus a giving of something extremely special that it involves every portion of your intimacy.

Having volunteered with gay men's clinics and events, I preach testing, testing, and testing. Everyone should know their status and I applaud those who take precautions.

If every gay person was tested, knew their results and then took the appropriate measures, HIV would not be the epidemic it is.

 

[gmoney]

I agree that having protected sex is the best precaution that one can take this day in time.

To those that think of anal sex as 'nasty' and use condoms for just that purpose, I don't understand. I know that's where we defecate, but with proper 'pre-sex' hygiene, that shouldn't be an issue.

I've had both kinds of sex. I think unprotected should only be in monogamous relationships, and with testing.

Giving yourself to another guy completely is amazing. Nothing gross whatsoever. Just use common sense!

 

[landers]

Barebacking is a fantasy to me. Something that I would do in a perfect world but would never consider in the real world. Not that it really matters, it all feels the same to my ass.

 

[Jayden]

 

[Rex]

The thought of pulling my dick out on someone's shit hole without a condom isn't very appealing. I'd rather use a condom.

 

[sexsomniac]

Honestly, I don't find it disgusting the least bit. On the contrary, I even find it utterly hot. But that doesn't necessarily mean I would act on it with strangers. I probably might do it when I find the right guy whom I can trust, On a side note, I find rimming revolting than anything else. I can't picture myself licking an ass hole that squeezes out shit on daily basis.

 

[NineOfClubs]

We live in a sex-negative world.

It's no surprise that natural or raw sex would gross you, and others, out....

*not that I'm against protection*

 

[NineOfClubs]

I can't picture myself licking an ass hole that squeezes out shit on daily basis.

So if your partner were severely constipated and only managed a bowel movement every four or five days, then would you get into rimming?