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Amazing boyfriend... sex or not!

Please read the scenario below and answer:

  • You said perfect? Then I don't mind giving up sex.

    Votes: 14 16.7%

  • Yeah, most probably I'll be ok with that.

    Votes: 14 16.7%

  • I'm not quite sure!

    Votes: 15 17.9%

  • Nah, I don't think it would work out.

    Votes: 35 41.7%

  • No way!! I'll leave him. Sex is a priority.

    Votes: 6 7.1%
  • Total voters
    84
You have painted the scenario for a long lasting deep friendship not for a relationship.

Yes I have the absolutely perfect person with whom I do not have sex I call him my "best friend".

I would be surprised that anyone would give up sex with the perfect person just in order to spend the rest of their lives alongside him. They may well swear they would and could give up the sexual side to a relationship but I bet deep down there would be the small flame of hope that the guy would change and finally commit himself to having sex.

Hope burns eternal!

I certainly don't see the relationship lasting if one wants sex and the other doesn't. Keep him as a friend as there are lots of other "perfect" guys out there who do want sex.
 
And if you don't want sex with men, what makes you gay?

Why not marry a woman?

(Rereading your original post, other possibilities come to mind: Intersex, transsexual, or physical disability. In those cases I think he'd have to find someone very similar to him, or someone with a very low sex drive. I suppose in those cases it could work out. But for the majority of men: no.)
 
I am taking the stance of Bill Clinton. I interpret sex as intercourse. So handjobs, blow jobs, etc. would be fair play. So I said yes, I would give up sex for the perfect man.
 
i honestly do not think that the relationship would work out.

i don't mean to sound shallow or anything but if i am fortunate enough to meet someone with whom i could have a true relationship, i am really going to want to have sex with him. if there was no sex involved then it would be like crushing on a straight guy.
 
We can have as many theories as we want and vote whatever we like, but in life the chances of a relationship like that working is virtually NIL!
 
no, sorry but I'm a very sexual person, and besides, making love is to me one of the best parts of a relationship.
 
I agree with Comet. I found the most perfect man in my life and he is perfect in every way I can imagine. Our intimate times is good, but he'll come around as we explore each other on a sexual basis.
 
I doubt it would work.

If he was physically unable to have sex but still wanted to then I would say sure but someone who is physically able but just doesn't want to have sex with me.... I just don't know if I could do it.
 
Unless he cant have sex for medical reasons, then no it wont work.
 
Very interesting question as I have thought about such for some time now. I have been single for 3.5 years and really love it. When it comes to finding a partner, I honestly could do without the sex part of the relationship as long as there is some form of intimacy like kissing/making out. :kiss:

I tend to value the companionship side of a relationship much more so than the actual sex act. That is not to say I would not enjoy having sex with that special someone, just that for me...not a priority.
 
i choose No way!! I'll leave him. Sex is a priority.


I could not date a guy and just sit there and day dream about him. If i want a relationship like that i would just ask a straight friend to move in with me
 
I answered it wouldn't bother me bacause I'm that guy .. sorta. I have a genetic condition that has, since I was 26 or so, caused me not to be able to get hard, I'm now 50.

for 10 years I just threw myself into work because of embarrassment and self lothing. I finally accepted myself and my condition and when I started to venture out and seek a BF more times than not I got rejected because of my condition. I am always upfront and honest about it because I wouldn't want any surprises. I am a bottom and most tops will have nothing to do with me because I can't get hard. WTF ? :confused: I am a loving, caring person and loyal friend but none so far seem to be able to get past this issue and don't want to be 'just friends'

I can understand why most think sex is an important part of the relationship but it shouldn't be a deal breaker because you never know who might slip through your fingers.

@Comet ((HUGS)) man, you are very open minded and you'll make a great BF to some lucky guy
 
I've said it before on these forums, but I would give up the hypothetical sex to have a real hypothetical relationship with the completely hypothetical perfect man.
 
Nope, it wouldn't work for me. Sex is sex, and yeah, it feels good and all.

If I'm in love, then I want to be able to "make love" with my man and express my love intimately and physically. It doesn't have to be the basis of the relationship, but I don't think it could be complete without it.
 
barefootbob said:
I answered it wouldn't bother me bacause I'm that guy .. sorta. I have a genetic condition that has, since I was 26 or so, caused me not to be able to get hard, I'm now 50.

for 10 years I just threw myself into work because of embarrassment and self lothing. I finally accepted myself and my condition and when I started to venture out and seek a BF more times than not I got rejected because of my condition. I am always upfront and honest about it because I wouldn't want any surprises. I am a bottom and most tops will have nothing to do with me because I can't get hard. WTF ? :confused: I am a loving, caring person and loyal friend but none so far seem to be able to get past this issue and don't want to be 'just friends'

I can understand why most think sex is an important part of the relationship but it shouldn't be a deal breaker because you never know who might slip through your fingers.
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I think thats different than the original question asked here though. You still want sex with your partners where as the OP was talking about someone who just does not want to have sex with his bf whatsoever. Two completely different situations.

A bf who doesn't want to have sex with you EVER vs. a bf who wants to have sex with you but can't get a erection.

(*8*)
 
Alpha1851 said:
I don't know about that interpretation. Maybe the JUBBERS mean that they'll give up sex w/ Mr. Perfect b/c they can get it elsewhere. It's pretty easy to find men who will hook up.
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Yeah... that could be true too!
 
meagain said:
Here I am, I said that probably would be ok :)
I think this way: my sex life would be the same as it is, but I'd have the perfect boyfriend beside me!!
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Here's another one... Now how rare is that?? Thanks for sharing man :)

Again, no offence guys. But it's just because I view lust and love as two things that can be separated. And most people do not separate them.

Just my opinion
 
FREDDIE187 said:
We can have as many theories as we want and vote whatever we like, but in life the chances of a relationship like that working is virtually NIL!
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Sorry, but I have to disagree. I saw it happen... not just once, but quite a few times. In fact I had one. The reason it didn't work out for me, after a year and a half of a great relationship, didn't have anything to do with sex. It didn't work out because, at the end, he couldn't give me much of his time. As he put it: he was a bit selfish.

Now, that's not our topic. I just thought that all you guys here cared about sex most. I have to say that I'm REALLY glad you guys proved me wrong ;)
 
Comet2404 said:
Yes I would give it up for him. In a heartbeat. As long as the boy will cuddle and be affectionate, I can handle it. That is way more important to me than sex. While sex is nice, my hand can be substituted for it. I would love him until the end of time, no matter what he could and couldn't do. ..|

EDIT: I thought I'd add this. I'm not like most gay men that I know. I don't sleep around, I don't do hookups, and I don't jerk off 50 times a week. There IS more to life than one's penis in my opinion. While I do enjoy getting off every now and then, it's not that important to me, and I don't care that I don't have sex. It's meant for a relationship, and I can't do it unless I have feelings for that person, but if that person, for whatever reason *can't* have sex, then I'd be okay with that.
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I know exactly what you mean, because I feel the same way. I just thought I'm the only one around until a few of you guys said they had almost the same feeling.

I respect the opinion on the other side. You can say "you think" it might not work out, or "it would never work out for you". But you can't say it will "never" work out and leave it at that, because then you take a bit of hope away from those who can't have sex, whatever their reason is. Thanks everyone. Thanks Comet 2404.
 
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