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An open letter to Jasun a.k.a. Soilwork

It's been my experience that you will never pep-talk someone out of body issues, especially when they're rooted in a very real physical 'difference' and not an imagined flaw. Heaping praise on them won't change how they feel, and you certainly can't browbeat them out of it.

Ultimately, certain aspects of the body cannot be altered, so the change must be internal, and as with all internal change it's up to the individual to decide for himself if, when, and how that will happen.
 
First of all... Thanks Jory.

Second... yes, I'm quite short. I never really had much of a complex about it until I started to get older and people still treated me like a "twink." For those of you who've seen pictures of me when I was 20, I would have been the perfect Fratman. But when you're 32 you start wanting people to stop patting you on the head and saying "you're so cute."

Anyway... I now have gotten over it long ago and I've learned to love the fact that I come up to my boss's armpit. I think it's kinda cool that I'm a bit of a wolverine. All that rabid bite in such a small package.

However, I hold it up as an example to all those whiney people in the No-Flame zones who all complain that they dont' WAAAANNNT to be gay that I never wanted to be short, but here I am... short.. and perfectly happy with the guy I am.









(I also find it funny how a bunch of lame-Os from the newly created Bi forum have spent ages trying to hurt my feelings by calling me short and fat or "Midget" or "chubby" when I'm in fantastic shape and am quite open about being short. Let's face it.. we have no idea what most of them look like because they're too chicken shit to post pics of themselves other than the occasional face pic or a snap-shot of themselves in kindergarten.)


For future reference... anyone wanting to try to give me body issues would have more luck making fun of my feet (which are size 5 1/2) or the fact that 1/4 of my face is paralyzed (although that gives me this rather sexy half-smile so even that's gonna take a lot of work).
 
And for the record since I'm not sure I've ever said... I'm 5'6".

I'm not even THAT short.

I just hang with lots of rather tall men.




(and even *I* [DON'T] have a link to a thread about myself in my signature even though this is like thread 565 about me. Geez.... )
 
I'm 5'6", too. And it doesn't bother me at all.

There are a laundry list of advantages to being short. If I had to pick between 6'6" or 5'6", I'd much rather be 5'6". Besides, the average height for men in the US is 5'9"-5'10". The difference between that and me is less than the width of your hand!

As Jasun said, it doesn't really bother him. I'm sure the OP didn't mean to imply that being 5'6" was some awful liability. It seems his intention was to be supportive (you know... a pat on the back, not on the top of the head;))
 
At least you'll be able to be picked up by a big bear then, I don't think I can pick up a certain someone.....!oops!
 
Harding said:
5'6, how much is that in CM's? I still need to add my own height to my profile, but I have no idea how much it is... :)
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Well, an inch is around 2.5cm, and a foot is 12 inches, sooooo... *thinks*

155ish.

I'm around 5'10'', I think. I still feel short sometimes.
 
^ urghh, I'm older than you and I'm only 5'3", damn, I'm shorter than everybody on here, actually I think I might be 5'2"
 
Get ready for a life of people patting you on the head and telling you that you're "adorable" and "just like a little man" even when you're nearly 40.

I'm often threatening to reach right up and punch my boss in the stomach.
 
Huhmm, the thing with that is I still look about 14, I have people in the car next to mine at stop light asking should I be driving since I look too young
 
We have enough body issues to worry about in the first place
there isn't anything one can do about their height so why even bother?

It shouldn't really matter imo.
 
I swear I saw Soilwork's clone yesterday.

No kidding--I was in a nearby town favored by both gay men and bikers, and there was a biker that was the spitting image of our Soilwork. (Uh, size and all, sorry.) Naturally I wanted to start a conversation, but he was with a group of other leather-clad bikers, and I was a bit hesitant to go up and say, "Don't I know you from gay porn?" or "Hey, are you Soilwork?" You don't say those things to a biker who's with his buddies.

Of course, if it turns out that it really was Soilwork, I shall live the rest of my life in regret and despair.

This biker was a real cutie.

Did you by any chance go for a 4,000 mile ride yesterday, Soilwork?
 
So Soil, what was it like when you came out as a short man to your parents?

Height is one of those things I just fail to notice for some reason. Things that are basically beyond our control are not something I'm going to worry about. It's like my hair. The fact that I have a full head of hair at 42 just astounds me, given the family history. If it ever starts falling out to the point of looking bad, I'll shave it and call it a day. I'm not going to loose sleep over it, and I'm not going to spend a small fortune trying to change it. If someone thinks less of me for that, it's not my problem.
 
I'm only 5'2"

but like the rest of you..my legs go from my ass to the floor...
and Soil I hear you on the being patted on the head, like a good
little boy!!!
 
star-warrior said:
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Soilwork said:
No. I went shopping for shoes.
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Cool dude!
 
I'm 5'3" and barely weigh 100 pounds. People know me well enough to know I don't take shit from anyone, especially not from my students -gotta love that teacher glare.

My only issue with being my size is buying clothes! There's nothing in my size that looks "adult." I do like the fact that my clothes cost about half of a normal sized guy, but I hate having to get work clothes custom tailored...

mikey
 
I'm "only" 5'8" but am the tallest person in my family, so I've never had a height complex. And my bf is taller than me. So what?
 
Soilwork said:
First of all... Thanks Jory.

Second... yes, I'm quite short. I never really had much of a complex about it until I started to get older and people still treated me like a "twink." For those of you who've seen pictures of me when I was 20, I would have been the perfect Fratman. But when you're 32 you start wanting people to stop patting you on the head and saying "you're so cute."

Anyway... I now have gotten over it long ago and I've learned to love the fact that I come up to my boss's armpit. I think it's kinda cool that I'm a bit of a wolverine. All that rabid bite in such a small package.

However, I hold it up as an example to all those whiney people in the No-Flame zones who all complain that they dont' WAAAANNNT to be gay that I never wanted to be short, but here I am... short.. and perfectly happy with the guy I am.









(I also find it funny how a bunch of lame-Os from the newly created Bi forum have spent ages trying to hurt my feelings by calling me short and fat or "Midget" or "chubby" when I'm in fantastic shape and am quite open about being short. Let's face it.. we have no idea what most of them look like because they're too chicken shit to post pics of themselves other than the occasional face pic or a snap-shot of themselves in kindergarten.)


For future reference... anyone wanting to try to give me body issues would have more luck making fun of my feet (which are size 5 1/2) or the fact that 1/4 of my face is paralyzed (although that gives me this rather sexy half-smile so even that's gonna take a lot of work).
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Great answer.
 
O.K. ... I claim 5'6", but I'm really 5' 5 7/8", and that's if I'm "standing tall", in my socks, with my heels still on the floor! And, yes, through the years, my being "vertically challenged" has had some impact on my life. I couldn't become a Commercial Pilot, nor could I touch bottom just past the beginning of the deep end of a pool! #-o ](*,)

But ... I've still been able to :bj: any Guy I've wanted to, even if I've had to stand on my tip-toes! :badgrin: ..|

And, as far as Jaysun ("Soil") is concerned? He's always been at least 6'5" in my book! And, in some instances, even Taller than that!! (ww) :hurray: (!w!)

It's not "What" you have ... it's how you USE "It"!! :wow: (group)

Keep smilin'!! :kiss: (*8*)
Chaz ;)
 
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