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I detest it entirely. I don't like to top or bottom. I read that studies show that at least 20% (1 in 5) gay men never engage anal sex. I know Noel Coward (one of my personal heroes) didn't like it at all. There are plenty of guys who don't like anal; we're just ignored. It isn't something you're supposed to do, it's just something some people chose to do.Excuse moi!? You can choose not to do it, but please don't call it nasty.
Why not? Let's say you thought Brussels sprouts were nasty. That might bother a Brussels sprouts farmer, but no one would take personal offense. It's just an opinion. Chill out.
It's an opinion that reinforces the idea that gay sex is dirty, despicable, indecent, etc. We have enough shame being forced upon us by a generally homophobic and sex-negative society, so we don't need to throw degrading terms around within our own community. For example, I'm not really a fan of getting handjobs, but I'm not going to call it gross. Or, if you prefer, I certainly don't like to lick pussy, but I think to call it nasty would be offensive to lesbians and bisexual women and straight and bisexual men. It could also be interpreted as misogynist in general. So calling anal sex nasty, especially in association with homosexual anal sex, could be construed as homophobic.









