Are all Gay Men superficial

[BabiGayPimp]

I think that gays and straights start out with the same general tendencies towards being superficial. Evidence the behavior of teen and college age girls around "cute" boys and young men.

The difference, it seems, is what happens as they grow a little older. Straights seem to grow past the superficial, somewhat, as they cope with the realities of life: marriage, children, inlaws, etc. Many gay men seem permanently trapped in adolescence, or "gay-dolescence."

Women over thirty (or even under) just don't seem to mind a couple of additional inches on a man's waist, provided he has compensatory qualities. In the gay world, putting on a few pounds could be, socially, deadly.

 

[manofsummer]

Actually smell, touch, and taste can detect pheromones which are the key to sexual attraction. It has been demonstrated that gay men's brains are wired to react to male sex hormones the same way straight women do. Please read this:

http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2005/05/0510_050510_gayscent.html

We are attracted to other men not just because they look like men but because they are men. Their smell, touch, taste, voice, etc all helps us to identify their gender. Female sex hormones simply do not stimulate our senses so it would be pointless for a gay man like vamp to date a woman.

Smell, taste, hearing and touch are "body senses" just like looks. All of them are keys to sexual attraction.
Everything related to the five senses is "superficial" in a way. You can't say that those who rely on looks are shallow, while those who rely on "touching" are deep.
You are considered "deep" when you like someone's personality, the way they think, the way they treat you...etc Gay men are basically attracted to the looks. Blind gay are attracted to the touch, smell, voice...
That doesn't mean blind men aren't superficial, they just rely on their other senses. We're all superficial in a way. If we weren't born shallow we would have been able to see past our body senses (looks, smell, touch...), and hence date someone of the opposite sex.

 

[pnfan]

Smell, taste, hearing and touch are "body senses" just like looks. All of them are keys to sexual attraction.
Everything related to the five senses is "superficial" in a way. You can't say that those who rely on looks are shallow, while those who rely on "touching" are deep.
You are considered "deep" when you like someone's personality, the way they think, the way they treat you...etc Gay men are basically attracted to the looks. Blind gay are attracted to the touch, smell, voice...
That doesn't mean blind men aren't superficial, they just rely on their other senses. We're all superficial in a way. If we weren't born shallow we would have been able to see past our body senses (looks, smell, touch...), and hence date someone of the opposite sex.

I don't think human instinct is superficial. We use our senses to determine biological compatibility. I believe a shallow person would be preoccupied with a potential partner's clothing, accessories, status etc. and would ignore their instincts in order to attain what the "gay community" considers an ideal partner, like the poster who said he would stay with someone with a bad attitude as long as he is gorgeous.

 

[Ringfinger]

I believe a shallow person would be preoccupied with a potential partner's clothing, accessories, status etc. and would ignore their instincts in order to attain what the "gay community" considers an ideal partner, like the poster who said he would stay with someone with a bad attitude as long as he is gorgeous.

I'm not going to drop someone with a bad attitude if I still really like them for other reasons (I don't just mean appearance). And it also depends on how much of a bad attitude, or how much of an asshole he is. Personality does matter to me. Are you saying that if a person was gorgeous, funny, and a lot like you but could be kind of a dick at times, you would dump him just like that? Jesus, try to find the inner nature within people. Nothing is that absolute. All I meant is that if a person is gorgeous, rules can be bent a bit for me to adjust. That doesn't mean I would stay with someone who is gorgeous yet detrimental to my mentality.

Isn't it funny how the people against superficiality generalize and assume? I'm not saying those of you who are pointing me out are shallow. THAT would be shallow. I don't know you. All I'm saying is that you're not reading into my honesty and what I'm really saying.

 

[youngnihilist]

Can't all be superficial, look at all the daddy and chubby chasers

 

[manofsummer]

Can't all be superficial, look at all the daddy and chubby chasers

Nonsense, sorry. Daddy and chubby chasers are attracted to mature and chubby looks. That's their preferred body type. It doesn't in any way reflect their depth of character.

 

[manofsummer]

Guy attracted to daddies and chubby guys will not date twinks... ie superficial, it just so happens that their idea of attractive goes against the usual idea and so people consider it not to be superficial.

That's exactly what I meant.

 

[youngnihilist]

Depth of character... whatever, the chubby/daddy chasers are still chasing after those guys because of their LOOKS, not because of their personality. You can find plenty "daddies" who are more immature than young boys.So it's still as superficial as the guy who chases models