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Are Gay Men Any More Obsessed With Sex Than Straights?

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I'd say no if the behaviour of my straight friends is anything to go by.

What say you.
 
You’re right, Cormac. I believe it’s hormones/testosterone. There’s no differentiation between straight and gay guys. I know of the myth that gay guys are supposed to be much more promiscuous than straight guys, but I know, from my straight friends too, that it’s just not like that in the real world.
There are just so many sex maniacs out there - I’m one of them! Sometimes! :lol: Anyway let’s turf out that myth once and for all. Guys are guys, with needs whether gay or straight. It really is that simple. Enjoy being gay. I am.
 
I don't know, but I know which one has better sex.
 
I think that those who say that they are straight might be more inhibited to admit what their sexual proclivities might be.
 
I'm not sure about obsessed, but gay men seem to place a BIG emphasis on sexualizing other men. It presents itself as "THE" reason to like someone. (i.e., "He's so hot" instead of "He's hot..and he's nice, too. And goodhearted.") I think it was less so before the rise of the Internet, though.

So I vote yes. After 1999. Before that? Much less so before gay culture was "out" (post Stonewall).
 
I know I'm more sex-crazed than my straight friends, lol.
 
When it comes to hard core cock hounds versus pussy hounds.....I've never noticed a difference.
 
If not, then why are the classic STI's making a huge comeback in the gay community? I think the onky thing that is preventing men from having more sex is women. Remove then from the equation and...BAM! More sex.
 
I guess you could ask if gay men fall in love less often or straight men pretend to fall in love more due to social pressure to settle down
 
The difference is availability of sex. Women are less likely to give it up to multiple people. A lot of gay guys love variety and see nothing wrong with having sex with 5 or more guys in one night. The more the better. Plus we have parts of the country where we have baths and sex clubs. Some straights have swingers clubs but since horny men outnumber horny women they have to bring a woman there with them.

A 1 on the scale of 1 to 10 can have a beautiful big dick and go to a glory hole or a dark room and have as much sex as he wants. Women are much more picky. It's a biological thing. they can get pregnant or they can get STDs that ruin the chances of them ever having kids.
 
mikey3000 said:
If not, then why are the classic STI's making a huge comeback in the gay community? I think the onky thing that is preventing men from having more sex is women. Remove then from the equation and...BAM! More sex.
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agree---know a lot of straight guys---and there are just enough slutty girls to satisfy the guys that absolutely have to have pussy---but a lot of the ones I know would rather not fuck a slut and risk a disease . They actually talk about the girls and if they are safe or not ---maybe some gay guys are not as picky because there are a lot more guys ready willing and able.
 
Fortunately this question has an answer you can just look up.

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2010/oct/19/gay-men-promiscuous-myth

Most gay men and most straight men share an equivalent appetite for sex, totalling out at 20 partners. Literally the same number for almost all men, gay or straight. There are a few over-achieving hypersexual aficionados of sex, with hundreds of partners, and they tend to be gay. So if you look at the gay average, it’s higher than straight men. But that’s only because we have a few guys making an extra effort for the team. 98% of gay men and 99% of straight men stop at no more than 20 partners.

That’s still a hell of a lot for how I work. I didn’t want 19 rejects before I found my guy. And I don’t understand wanting someone to be a stranger again after you liked him enough to sleep with him. I would be a far better candidate for some polyamorous sex commune than a bunch of one-time hookups or some serial monogamy thing. If a guy is okay sleeping with more than one person in his life, he should be willing to do it all at once.

Anyway yeah gay men and straight men are mostly the same. We tend to be more enthusiastic and honest about sex than women. Even me, after 20 years with the first and only guy to get me off, and never figured out hook-ups to save my life, I actually like sex. It’s one of those things like “what would you do if you won the lottery?” -more sex! “What do you suggest for a weekend get-away, sex or kayaking or visiting a history museu—“ SEX! And do you enjoy “making love” or “fucking” your man? Both! Sometimes it’s nice to be intimate and sometimes it’s nice to just get off on each other.

A lot of women don’t seem to enjoy sex, or they think they’re doing a favour or enduring a chore or that it’s really ALWAYS about something else other than physical pleasure with someone you enjoy.
 
Good question. I honestly don't know and because Im bi, I don't think I know where I fit in. I can say that I go through cycles, but I'm always horny so I'm always obsessed. I'm no help but this is going to be a cool thread, quantification will be sweet.
 
Well I cant speak for all people, but maybe most of the gay guys I know are "hyper sexual" then and constantly frequent bath houses, gay camp grounds, and almost anywhere else sex is plentiful. Also most I know don't care if they catch an STI as its almost a badge of honour in the community and any others who don't fuck at the drop of a hat are considered "pearl clutchers." Even HIV is no longer an issue to most gays I know. They just talk about who has the lowest viral load and bareback all they want, no disclosure.
 
OMG only 20 - going back to a previous thread I may be an older whore type
 
bankside said:
Fortunately this question has an answer you can just look up.

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2010/oct/19/gay-men-promiscuous-myth

Most gay men and most straight men share an equivalent appetite for sex, totalling out at 20 partners. Literally the same number for almost all men, gay or straight. There are a few over-achieving hypersexual aficionados of sex, with hundreds of partners, and they tend to be gay. So if you look at the gay average, it’s higher than straight men. But that’s only because we have a few guys making an extra effort for the team. 98% of gay men and 99% of straight men stop at no more than 20 partners.

That’s still a hell of a lot for how I work. I didn’t want 19 rejects before I found my guy. And I don’t understand wanting someone to be a stranger again after you liked him enough to sleep with him. I would be a far better candidate for some polyamorous sex commune than a bunch of one-time hookups or some serial monogamy thing. If a guy is okay sleeping with more than one person in his life, he should be willing to do it all at once.

Anyway yeah gay men and straight men are mostly the same. We tend to be more enthusiastic and honest about sex than women. Even me, after 20 years with the first and only guy to get me off, and never figured out hook-ups to save my life, I actually like sex. It’s one of those things like “what would you do if you won the lottery?” -more sex! “What do you suggest for a weekend get-away, sex or kayaking or visiting a history museu—“ SEX! And do you enjoy “making love” or “fucking” your man? Both! Sometimes it’s nice to be intimate and sometimes it’s nice to just get off on each other.

A lot of women don’t seem to enjoy sex, or they think they’re doing a favour or enduring a chore or that it’s really ALWAYS about something else other than physical pleasure with someone you enjoy.
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The question was: are gay men more OBSESSED with sex, NOT, DO THEY HAVE MORE SEX.

Being older, and having more life experience - in San Francisco, no less - I can't dispute the Bay Guardian stats about guys having sex, but I sure find gay guys are more obsessed with it. Gay men having been going to the gym FAR longer than straight men, whose first health/bodybuilding magazine didn't come out until 1990. The gay community had been gym-goers since the early 70s (in New York) and then, in San Francisco, although there was a certain coterie of guys who worked out (mainly, the FIRST "A" crowd - those who were 20 years old by 1970 or around that) constantly.
I'm surprised there's any question about that: just look at how many comments in the fetish/relationship forums are about how to "get" a guy (usually straight, but not always) into bed. I feel like a senior citizen milling around 16-year olds who've just discovered their dicks.

Obsession and ACTION are not synonymous.
 
The point of the above post about the gay crowd working out starting in the 70s was simply this: it was to attract more guys - for sex. Ok Cupid is fine for a company that's 14 years old, but they hardly represent the last word in gay attitudes, unless you want to exclude anyone born before 1990. If you go back to the first "out" generation, you'd find an extremely high number of guys who were obsessed with who they were going home with on a Saturday night. It was an observation I made to my roommate around 1977. She was starry-eyed about how wonderful it was, and some of it WAS wonderful. But I pointed out that most of the guys there looked like they were hunting for the Saturday Night Special and she should observe more closely. The next morning (post-acid, but still...) she said that she saw what I meant. As I recall her words, it went something like, "I saw guys looking around like, 'Who can I bear to fuck tonight?'"
So, I'll stick with my original observation: gay men are quite a bit more obsessed with having sex. But then, again - as I already said - when you're a marginalized culture, you have to be careful about your desires. And I doubt someone living in Mississippi is able to just go out and have sex whenever they choose, so of course they're going to be thinking about it more often than someone who's gay in, say, LA (although Michael Fassbender did a great job portraying a sex obsessed man in his film "Shame" in 2011). NOW, he was straight in the film, but still got head off of guys.

When you can't get as much of something as you want (like sex) without worrying about having your head bashed in, shot, or otherwise beat up, you spend a LOT more time thinking of how to get it. I think that qualifies as "obsessed."
 
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