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On Topic Discussion Are promiscuous guys relationship material?

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MrMojoRisin

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I've learned that I'm just not comfortable having casual encounters with people. If I'm going to have sex with someone, I don't need to be in love, but I need to at least be dating them. It can't be solely physical.

So, I've often felt that guys who are promiscuous aren't relationship material. To me, it suggests that they can't commit to one person, would likely cheat on me, and think of sex in a very nonchalant way.

What do you guys think? Are my concerns valid? Am I being judgmental? Should I give someone like that a chance? Let me know.
 
Some of us sleep around just because we have no one else to sleep with. It just depends on the person really.
 
Well, are you a trophy husband? If you are, you might settle down the most promiscuous gay guy..perhaps ^^
 
MrMojoRisin said:
I've learned that I'm just not comfortable having casual encounters with people. If I'm going to have sex with someone, I don't need to be in love, but I need to at least be dating them. It can't be solely physical.

So, I've often felt that guys who are promiscuous aren't relationship material. To me, it suggests that they can't commit to one person, would likely cheat on me, and think of sex in a very nonchalant way.

What do you guys think? Are my concerns valid? Am I being judgmental? Should I give someone like that a chance? Let me know.
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MrMojoRisin said:
What do you guys think? Are my concerns valid? Am I being judgmental? Should I give someone like that a chance? Let me know.
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Are your concerns valid? Well, they're your concerns. You sound defensive about them. Is that because others have criticized them, or because you feel ambivalent, or because you merely perceive they are not the norm in your social circles?

Yes, you are being judgmental, but you say that like it is a bad thing. Your presumption seems to be that making judgments is negative. We choose by judging every day: what restaurant is better, what shirt will we wear, and whether that public restroom looks too sketchy to sit down in. There isn't a consensus, but you may be implying that judging someone else's sexual mores is a no-no. Of course, that is highly subjective, but everyone does it in some ways. Promiscuous people often judge non-promiscuous as prudish, and prudish the reverse. What the judgment means is that you are culling potential friends or mates. Some people are able to compartmentalize their preferences, being friends with people that they would not share values with in some area. Others are not. How do you operate? Are you happy/unhappy with your standards?
 
NotHardUp1 said:
Are your concerns valid? Well, they're your concerns. You sound defensive about them. Is that because others have criticized them, or because you feel ambivalent, or because you merely perceive they are not the norm in your social circles?

Yes, you are being judgmental, but you say that like it is a bad thing. Your presumption seems to be that making judgments is negative. We choose by judging every day: what restaurant is better, what shirt will we wear, and whether that public restroom looks too sketchy to sit down in. There isn't a consensus, but you may be implying that judging someone else's sexual mores is a no-no. Of course, that is highly subjective, but everyone does it in some ways. Promiscuous people often judge non-promiscuous as prudish, and prudish the reverse. What the judgment means is that you are culling potential friends or mates. Some people are able to compartmentalize their preferences, being friends with people that they would not share values with in some area. Others are not. How do you operate? Are you happy/unhappy with your standards?
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anyway

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There is a difference between sleeping around while single and sleeping around while in a relationship they claim to be commited to.
 
MakeDigitalLove said:
There is a difference between sleeping around while single and sleeping around while in a relationship they claim to be commited to.
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There is, but there is a legitimate range of views about what is acceptable and not in mores. It's fine with me that some people see it as ok and others don't. I'm fine with everyone not seeing it all the same.
 
NotHardUp1 said:
There is, but there is a legitimate range of views about what is acceptable and not in mores. It's fine with me that some people see it as ok and others don't. I'm fine with everyone not seeing it all the same.
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If they are willing to be in a relationship and you trust them sure.

I have been promiscuous and perhaps will be again the future, but its just something I do when I am not in a relationship and can't find anyone worth more.
 
I sure as hell had no qualms about casual fucking until I met my partner.
 
rareboy said:
I sure as hell had no qualms about casual fucking until I met my partner.
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I'm agreeing with everything you say today....I did the same, and plenty of it too....now I just jerk off all the time
 
In my case, I am very promiscuous, and would be horrible at dating long term. I like having sex with a different guy each time. I know I would cheat too. If I find a guy hot and he wants to have sex, then its on..
 
Plenty of guys or people cannot be trusted, doesn't mean it has to do with being promiscuous.
 
MrMojoRisin said:
What do you guys think? Are my concerns valid?
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Yes.

Am I being judgmental?
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No. You are deciding for yourself what you want in your life and expecting from others the same level of commitment you are offering. This is your right.

Should I give someone like that a chance?
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A chance to what? Be what they are and likely give you an infection (or two) that you don't want?
 
zombiekiller said:
I guess I'm old school. I only have sex with someone I'm dating.
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How many dates till you fuck? You ever fucked someone after a date, but its gone no further?

Willie Boy said:
A chance to what? Be what they are and likely give you an infection (or two) that you don't want?
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So everyone that has had sex with people while single is a disease ridden ho? You know people have safe sex right?
 
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