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Are you happy being single?

secondmonkey

secondmonkey

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I'm 27 now, and I've finally come to the conclusion that I'm happy being single - maybe forever. I don't want a boyfriend. Is that weird? Anybody else feel like this? I really love my friends, but after a night with them I've had enough. I need my alone time. I definately don't want to share my bed with anybody. Sex...well, that's why god made porn and craigslist. I'm satisfied. My friend is getting married soon and I can't even fathom spending that much time with somebody.

Am I the only one? :eek:
 
YES. A resounding yes.

Wait for it: the barrage of posts saying single people are not "complete" and are "missing" this or that or whatever.
 
Yes. Currently I am quite content to be single. I did the long-term-living-together-relationship thing several times during my 20s and 30s; nowadays, in my 50s, I much prefer being single. I haven't totally ruled out the idea of some sort of relationship if it should happen to occur in the future, but I would never live with anyone again.
 
Nope I definitely do not want to be single for the rest of my life.

But currently, I don't think I'm ready to fully commit myself to a serious relationship. I'm only 19 so I'm quite happy staying single... for now.
 
Hard-up1 said:
To the snarky remark about some of us not being complete or missing part of life, then what of it? If I want that in my life, that isn't being put upon you, is it? Was there really a need to invite some other website in a simple thread about being single?

JUB is just becoming more and more a bitchfest.
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Wow, a little bit of an overreaction here on such a fine day, I must say. You know damn well that single people (gay OR straight) are looked down upon in general and here as well. Single people are viewed as lacking and looked at with suspicion by some. If you have never experienced societal pressure to couple then you are an exception, especially at your age.
Having said all that, I fully realize being single is not as easy or desirable for me as it is for others; I'm 54 and love the gift of being single.
 
I don't know. I haven't been into a relationship despite I am 21, but I rather wait for the right one than many of the wrong ones. However, I been alone for a long time, I mean, I am not close with my family besides my cousins and I am currently living abroad, it'll nice if someone comes along, someone that I share my life with.
 
not happy, not sad, not angry. just completely indifferent about it at the moment. i was happy being single some months back over the spring and summer. then in the late summer and early fall, it started to bother me. now i'm like completely cool with it again. don't want to be with anybody at the moment. more concerned about finding a job.
 
secondmonkey said:
I'm 27 now, and I've finally come to the conclusion that I'm happy being single - maybe forever. I don't want a boyfriend. Is that weird? Anybody else feel like this? I really love my friends, but after a night with them I've had enough. I need my alone time. I definately don't want to share my bed with anybody. Sex...well, that's why god made porn and craigslist. I'm satisfied. My friend is getting married soon and I can't even fathom spending that much time with somebody.

Am I the only one? :eek:
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I suspect that this is an individual relationship factor. I spent 33 yrs, since we were 17, with my guy and my alone time included him. I felt this was my alone time when it was just he and I. Now that he is gone and I am single it took awhile for me to enjoy my alone time, as just me, but I do. I certainly would prefer to spend it with him but thats not possible. I felt so completely like myself when he was with me. I don't mean all that he completes me bullshit because he didn't complete me, he anchored me to our world, which we both enjoyed immencely.
 
NaughtyArousal said:
Yes!

I'm very open to possibilities and the chance that someone special may be a part of my life, some day. But it's not something I need to be happy, at all. There are times in which I prefer to be single. I'm a bit of a loner.
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Ditto on that! I wouldn't mind a FWB, but I'm not out there hunting. In the end, I like my alone time.
 
It's fine but I would like to experience no being single again some time. Dating is a challenge though! Living together with someone again doesn't bother me. I think just finding someone compatible (or even somewhat so)is the obstacle. Que sera sera as they say and I'm not going to beat myself up over it if it never happens again. What for?
 
Not really if I am honest. Ya I like my alone time but I would probably do more if I had a partner.
 
After 31 years I've got used to it. If I ever happen to get in a relationship it's ok but I dont see it happening any time soon.
 
Currently happily single. I wouldn't mind having a boyfriend at all though I am not sure if I could actually handle a relationship for the time being. As sometimes I feel like the people around don't know me at all and I get really depressed for a little while but then wake up the 2nd day I feel totally fine and ready. My emotions are such a wreck #-o
 
I'm through with love. But I could share again if we have separate beds.

BTW:
Hard-up1 said:
…JUB is just becoming more and more a bitchfest.
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Perhaps there's a need for a special place within Hot Topics.

It could be a centre for niceness. One could form a circle and just be nice and generate niceness and perhaps have a prayer or two.

 
No! I'm sure I'll be single for life, though.

I'd just like to experience love before it's too late. If not love, at least a relationship, or at least sex with a friend...
 
Yes and No.

Yes - I like being able to do what I want and when I want. Being drama free.

No - Sometimes I wish I had a small silverdaddy to love :(
 
i've been single my whole life... im ready to commit to someone, really. i mean, dont get me wrong -- i love my alone time. i am one who enjoys solitude but i want to experience a relationship and all its perks... soon methinks
 
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