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refujiunderground
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I sincerely don't understand what your problem is or what you're even talking about.
you asked me if it was ok for people to look to porn stars as role models. I have heard from many people who tell me that they felt shame about their sexuality until they saw hot men proudly having sex and saw that gay sex didn't have to be about shame or weakness.
Should porn stars be our ONLY role models? No, of course not. But like I said in my first comment to you... don't blame me that Hollywood seems to be having an issue with giving us positive role models. That's their problem, not ours.
I know that I personally see porn as my salvation... I grew up in a very remote, very conservative and oppressive village in Atlantic Canada in the 80s. I thought all gay men were weak, mentally disturbed, predatory weirdos, cross dressers and freaks. Then I found a gay porn magazine that showed me hot, masculine men having sex and enjoying it. I read the articles in that magazine and saw that they were funny and smart with opinions about music and art and politics. I saw gay men not just sex partners but friends with a community... this saved my life. I knew that somewhere out there I'd find a place where I was appreciated and accepted for being gay.
Now, you may think (incorrectly) that gay porn stars are all "wife beaters" and "pedos" and all those other things... I don't really care. We know nothing about you other than you seem to have some very serious issues with your sexuality and I'm not your therapist.
Yes...anyone who takes ANYTHING from pop culture too seriously needs to maybe look at their own priorities, but again... this is not my fault. but no... my job does NOT depend on people taking it too seriously.
My job depends on gay men and straight women wanting to see hot men fucking. If I can give people a social message along with that... great. If not...I hope they enjoyed the movie.
Thank you answering my question. I was just asking how you felt about that as someone who worked in the industry.
The main reason why I asked that was because I've seen some porn watchers literally take this to another level where they really look at those porn actors and people in the industry such as yourself as vital lines to figure out their lIves as gay men. They literally base their sex lives and even personal lives based off of what they see because they have no guide. They are ashamed and scared to talk about these things because they have no certified professionals such as psychologists or doctors to talk to
I've seen a few of these guys when their fans ask them on real life and possible life and death questions such as protection from hiv give horrible advice. Unfortunately, most of us don't have gay friendly doctors or shrinks where we can openly discuss things like that so we rely on the Internet, other people who are also clueless and other places for that sort of thing. I've seen more than enough people saying how prep means they can have unprotected sex and have any seen hiv positive men roaming around talking about "undetectable" and on prep so they can have unprotected sex with people who are neg. When you have people doing that trying to be their own doctors and using the words of a few porn actors as health advice and not medical professionals, that is dangerous.
I just think that for you personally, that you unintentionally due to fact that you work in the industry have the task of being a guidance or a go to person about being gay, sex and etc which I have to say at least to me is messed up because you have a.form of weight on your head. It's like if you give advice and everything works out, you get credit. If you give advice and everything doesn't work out, then the person that took it from your sees you as a bad person. You get what I'm saying?

