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Being a gay male is a life ruiner. Reddit post.

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Taralen said:
I look at this blog sometimes for motivation. But I don't know if any of these fucking people are actors. So I took it off my signature
http://colorfulqueers.tumblr.com/archive

But I want a boyfriend so fucking much. Someone hit me the fuck up. (Bears, more stocky guys that are kinda geeky are bonus) that are attracted to gay black feminine slender guys. JUB has been around for a long fucking time. Ugh.
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lol, I was actually featured on that blog about a year ago so we're not all actors.

Just keep trying and keep a good calm attitude. I've dealt with tons of crappy guys before I met my boyfriend. Its just apart of the territory.

Your gonna fall many times. Just pick yourself up and keep it pushing..
 
mikey3000 said:
Nobody here hates you except you. You are still young but you will learn; with age comes self acceptance, respect and peace. I just hope you learn that while you have some life left to enjoy. Remember, like attracts like. Happy people want to be around happy people. Try it.
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What if I don't want a happy guy?

What if I want a bad boy? What the fuck you think about that? hmm?

I'm almost more than certain most of those guy on that tumblr are in fact actors put there for propaganda.
 
Happenis1 said:
lol, I was actually featured on that blog about a year ago so we're not all actors.

Just keep trying and keep a good calm attitude. I've dealt with tons of crappy guys before I met my boyfriend. Its just apart of the territory.

Your gonna fall many times. Just pick yourself up and keep it pushing..
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Thank you. I'm trying to be patient, but I guess I would like a hint or something. I appreciate it though.
 
I know how frustrating it can be. Alittle bit deep, but about a week before I met my BF, I went on a rampage breaking almost anything in sight because I was having no luck in the dating scene. My mother was about to call 911 and commit me to the hospital because I was threatening to harm myself with a knife.

Its a lot of trial and error and it is harder in the young gay community...just keep putting yourself out there.

Hey, is your ever scared or nervous about messing a guy then just remember that a 20% chance of a response is still better than a 0% chance!
 
Happenis1 said:
I know how frustrating it can be. Alittle bit deep, but about a week before I met my BF, I went on a rampage breaking almost anything in sight because I was having no luck in the dating scene. My mother was about to call 911 and commit me to the hospital because I was threatening to harm myself with a knife.

Its a lot of trial and error and it is harder in the young gay community...just keep putting yourself out there.

Hey, is your ever scared or nervous about messing a guy then just remember that a 20% chance of a response is still better than a 0% chance!
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It's just sad. Because I develop crushes and stuff. Like there are straight guys I crush on, and I have to get over them.

To me I feel I'd rather a guy be comfortable with how crazy I am. (In other words, a guy who's reading all of these fucking posts right now. Or has been lurking my posts for years.)

Rather than gambling and taking a risk with a guy I don't know.

Even if I do go out in public and start asking out guys which I do. (They just reject me). I don't think there is anybody in the type of guys that I like, would like me anyways being black and gay.

I also don't see any reason or effort to ask them out when they are clearly not into me anyways.
 
Humor. Have some humor. It was a jab that Trump is the pick of looneys.
 
refujiunderground said:
you know what.

i'ma keep it 100.

a LOT of the issues that gay men deal with are of their OWN creation. from health issues to dating problems to self esteem. don't get me wrong, homophobia plays a huge part in that whether we want to admit it or not but then there are things that are in our control that we drop the ball.

how many gay men are cigarette smokers, drink to the point where they have a drinking problem, getting high off of hard drugs or drugs for that matter and etc?

how many gay men basically sleeping around, fucking and sucking any dick that they are turned on by, and etc without showing any restraint without protection, taking precautions and etc?

how many gay men are chasing after unicorns in the dating world, ghosting guys, and being on some dumb shit where they basically are avoiding love and relationships trying to be in their third and fourth childhoods?

how many gay men are basically avoiding reality, chasing dreams and shit that doesn't even exist because they are scared of life?

how many gay men are basically living within their community, isolating themselves from the rest of the world, jumping into bigger closets than the one they came from holding themselves back?

and you know what.. a lot of gay men are SCARED of LIFE and REALITY. it's very fucking sad. like wow, i know life is hard, tough, depressing and shit BUT you know what, that's life. deal with it. no need to run or be scared to death of life, you're living it even if you choose to do nothing and be bored. life is what you make it but at the same time, it's not always going to be one big fucking rainbow or party. at times, you have to put all the shit down, the drinking down, stop fucking and etc and be real with yourself. a part of facing reality is realizing that your sexuality is a part of YOU and doesn't completely control or shape EVERYTHING you do. i see way too many gay men trying to make a big deal about being gay long after they come out the closet. it's supposed to be a huge fucking party 24/7 with joys and etc. yes, it's okay to be miserable, relax, sleep in bed, be yourself, chill, not put on a show for the world around you. it's okay to be fucking normal.

being gay doesn't suck at all. how you view life doesn't have shit to do with your sexuality. it's that life is what the fuck it is. a roller coaster. highs and lows. if you're miserable as a gay guy, you will be just as miserable if you were straight. straight people have problems too. you know how many straight guys are constantly whining and crying about not getting any women and are having a hard time dealing with that shit? they may not have to deal with the bullshit and discrimination for being gay but they have to deal with life too.

wouldn't say that we are becoming more integrated into society with legal discrimination slightly easing up. would say that it's beginning to see more and more like it's us that is becoming the problem to ourselves.
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I agree with all this. Confidence in yourself is stronger than homophobia.
 
Happenis1 said:
Some of those gay guys walking around West Hollywood that you're judging as "fitness GQ models" may be some of the biggest geeks and nerds in existence but you wouldn't know that until you got to know them.
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Yes and not only that, but having a great body, a big dick and a beautiful face is no guarantee that there is no insecurity, fear or wounds in their hearts.

And to Taralen, I hope you understand this when I tell you I don't think you are ready for a relationship. No one is perfect but we owe it to ourselves and the other person to be as emotionally, mentally and psychologically healthy as we can. Certainly, as the love between two people grows, healing happens, but the other person is not responsible for fixing you. Entering into a relationship with so much baggage is likely only to damage it. Taralen, you are unique, you are you, so that is a great thing, but most of what you describe here is something you need to work on before you enter into a loving relationship. Until you find someone, work on your issues and fears.
 
sixthson said:
Yes and not only that, but having a great body, a big dick and a beautiful face is no guarantee that there is no insecurity, fear or wounds in their hearts.
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This is true. The most attractive guy I have ever dated, and by attractive, think super model type with perfect body and face, was extremely insecure about himself. Now I'll be the first to admit that I'm an ugly mother fucker, and while we were dating people around us probably thought what the hell was he doing with me? But he was surprised when I asked him out on a second date and a third. He told me at some point he thought I wasn't interested in him. He constantly needed reassurance from me. I actually never figured out why someone who look like a god like him was so insecured about himself.

We mutually broke up and are still good friends. Actually, we went out on a dinner date not too long ago and went around shopping centers while we talked to catch up.
 
sixthson said:
Yes and not only that, but having a great body, a big dick and a beautiful face is no guarantee that there is no insecurity, fear or wounds in their hearts.

And to Taralen, I hope you understand this when I tell you I don't think you are ready for a relationship. No one is perfect but we owe it to ourselves and the other person to be as emotionally, mentally and psychologically healthy as we can. Certainly, as the love between two people grows, healing happens, but the other person is not responsible for fixing you. Entering into a relationship with so much baggage is likely only to damage it. Taralen, you are unique, you are you, so that is a great thing, but most of what you describe here is something you need to work on before you enter into a loving relationship. Until you find someone, work on your issues and fears.
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I think I'm fine the way I am.

I don't want him fix me, I just want him to love me.

I'm just tired of being alone sometimes, and I feel by being gay, and how it's harder to find people, I just feel I don't need to close myself up like that at all.

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sixthson said:
Yes and not only that, but having a great body, a big dick and a beautiful face is no guarantee that there is no insecurity, fear or wounds in their hearts.

And to Taralen, I hope you understand this when I tell you I don't think you are ready for a relationship. No one is perfect but we owe it to ourselves and the other person to be as emotionally, mentally and psychologically healthy as we can. Certainly, as the love between two people grows, healing happens, but the other person is not responsible for fixing you. Entering into a relationship with so much baggage is likely only to damage it. Taralen, you are unique, you are you, so that is a great thing, but most of what you describe here is something you need to work on before you enter into a loving relationship. Until you find someone, work on your issues and fears.
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I think I'm fine the way I am.

I don't want him fix me, I just want him to love me.

I'm just tired of being alone sometimes, and I feel by being gay, and how it's harder to find people, I just feel I don't need to close myself up like that at all.
 
I think being born without arms or legs can be a life ruiner, but this guy won't allow it. He inspires me. And he's cute as fuck!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=707VD48BuOs

Or this father and son team. Both have a right to bitch about their lives, but instead they inspire.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rF7Bv9Rjl0E

I show these to you not to belittle your own troubles but to show you that ordinary people can do extraordinary things with the right attitude. I admire them to the stars and back.
 
Stop putting that straight people shit. I just got through done seeing a straight white man black woman couple on youtube that make me triggered and jealous. I mean I'm happy for them, but it just made me agitated.Now I see this shit.

I wish I were straight so I could find love easier.

Fuck all of you that say, "Well straight men have issues too."

Yes they do, but it's way easier for a straight man to find love, than it is for me to.

Oh I how I hate being gay and black so much.
 
See my comments on your other thread.
 
Sebazz said:
Someone who hates their orientation and race can't be fine. Don't expect to find someone who loves you for hating yourself.
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This pretty much nails it

Taralen - Why would or should anybody else love you when you don't even love yourself?

Back in my single days, I would go on dates and sometimes guys would subtly denigrate themselves or do something to show their low self-esteem and it would just be the biggest turn-off.

Confidence is the number one sexiest trait because it makes you look secure in yourself, makes the other person feel safe as well as reinforces the other person's decision to think its worth dating you.

Hey, if you don't even believe in yourself then why should anybody else? That's what most other gay men are probably thinking.

Based on your posts (especially in your other thread), it appears as if your strategy is to guilt men into dating or befriending you and this just doesn't work. The sad truth is that nobody owes you anything. Up your confidence game and you'll see better results in all areas of your life .
 
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