Being out and showering with straight guys

[Kensei]

I was just hoping to have a discussion about everyone's thoughts on this topic.

I'm out of the closet (have been since high school) and I'm probably going to join a sports team with my friends soon. We would change and shower together and there is no dividers. I know I have a right to be in the showers with them but I don't want to be the one to cause tension and make someone uncomfortable.

I live in a very liberal city where no one is really anti-gay. I'm not and have never been attracted to straight guys in my life, especially not my friends but this will be different. I'll be nude with them in a sexy setting. What am I supposed to say if someone says something? I'm not attracted to straight guys because I can't receive any love from them? I'd probably end up having to lie because obviously I'm naturally curious what they have down there and it would be tough for me not to get aroused and not get an erection.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the situation? Some similar experiences would help too.

Thanks!

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Try treating them like friends and not like meat.

No, don't know how to make that "nicer" - you're curious and you think that'll make things awkward, yet want to shower with them. The simple solution is to simply focus on something else; you're not losing your human urge by not focusing on your dick.

Once that's out of the way, then you can deal with the fragile egos that may come.

 

[G-Lexington]

You're in the shower to get clean. So focus on that, dry off, get dressed, and leave. Same as when you're showering at home alone. If you do this, there's nothing awkward or uncomfortable to explain.

Lex

 

[Kensei]

You're both probably right. But still, I'm going to have to control my reflexes.

 

[blackbeltninja]

Don't blatantly check them out, don't make overt sexual comments. Keep eye contact. Don't loiter waiting for them to dress or undress.

In short, make it quite obvious that you're there for the sports and just want to get clean afterwards.

-d-

 

[healingduck]

If you don't make it weird, then I doubt they will.

 

[SuperNatural]

If you get an erection then of course its going to be weird. Try not having one?
If I walked into a shower and some random dude was standing there with a hard-on I'd probably feel a little uncomfortable as well.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

I was just hoping to have a discussion about everyone's thoughts on this topic.

I'm out of the closet (have been since high school) and I'm probably going to join a sports team with my friends soon. We would change and shower together and there is no dividers. I know I have a right to be in the showers with them but I don't want to be the one to cause tension and make someone uncomfortable.

I live in a very liberal city where no one is really anti-gay. I'm not and have never been attracted to straight guys in my life, especially not my friends but this will be different. I'll be nude with them in a sexy setting. What am I supposed to say if someone says something? I'm not attracted to straight guys because I can't receive any love from them? I'd probably end up having to lie because obviously I'm naturally curious what they have down there and it would be tough for me not to get aroused and not get an erection.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the situation? Some similar experiences would help too.

Thanks!

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[Dedrick]

Hey Kensei.

Well, I'll start off by saying it happens to a lot of guys. It's hard to control getting an erection. Some guys get hard just being naked around other people. Some people, who are exhibitionists, get an erection at the thought of people seeing them naked, etc.

One of the best things you can do, I think, is get comfortable with your sexuality and your body. And hope that the other guys you're with are comfortable as well. If you pop a boner, and other guys see, just laugh it off. Make it a joke, "It wouldn't have happened if you hadn't wagged your ass at me like that."

Hopefully, ideally, they're comfortable with their sexuality as straight guys as well. That makes things a lot easier.

The next best thing you can do is masturbate before you know you'll head to practice or a game or whatever. I don't really mean quickly rubbing one out ten minutes before you step out the door either. Plan ahead, set aside some time - preferably as close to when you need to be in the showers as possible - and really go all out.

A nice long masturbation session in which you let your orgasm build up before release will help relieve your sexual frustrations and reduce the chances of getting an accidental erection. It'll also make it easier for your mind to focus on other things because - hopefully - you really won't be in the mood. If you're horny the chances of getting an erection are much higher.

Another thing you can do is try to shower with your back to the other guys. It reduces the urge to sneak a peak, and thus get hard. Also if you feel yourself starting to get an erection it makes it easier to hide.

Finally, there is nothing wrong about being curious. When people are naked together it's hard not to find your eyes not wandering. Does a straight guy apologize for looking at a woman's cleavage? Hell no.

Besides, virtually every straight guy friend I've had has admitted to checking other guys out at urinals and in public showers. Not really because they were attracted or turned on by other guys, but because they were "curious what they looked like and wanted to compare." It's completely common and normal.

You just don't want to blatantly be staring at another guys dick, mesmerized, with your jaw slightly slack and drool running from your mouth. That makes people uncomfortable.

Take deep breaths before going in, focus on taking your shower, then move to dry off and get dressed. If you get an erection... then it just happens. Straight guys sometimes get an erection, too. In the end it's not a big deal unless you or one of your friends make it one.

Worst case scenario for you is that your friends are completely comfortable with their sexuality, they know that you're completely 100% gay, are completely comfortable being naked in the showers with you, and take the opportunity to joke around and tease you all in an attempt to TRY to see if they can make you get an erection.

So yeah, in summary, relax, focus on taking your shower, turn your back to the other guys to prevent your eyes from wandering, and masturbate before practice or a game. If it happens, it happens. Nothing you can do about it. Just try and laugh it off. Once your done get out, dry off, and get dressed.

I hope this helps.

 

[rareboy]

I used to shower with straight guys all the time and even though they knew I liked cock, they also knew that I wasn't perving on them and that I had no desire to immediately drop to my knees and service them.

The first few times, you might want to be the first guy in the shower, nearest the door. Do it quickly and efficiently and then get out. Once anyone who might have the idea that you are more interested in them than getting clean realize that you are not that interested in an orgy, they will relax.

 

[matty20]

Lol, I can relate. This often happens when I'm using a public bathroom, as well. I just try not to think about it, but it's so hard to avoid an erection when it's coming. If you feel one coming, just try to think of something that really turns you off, and that you find really unsexy and unattractive. If that doesn't work, just let it happen. Other guys will have erections, be they gay, straight or bi. You're all guys, and you've all seen it all.

 

[KissMeImSlutty]

I wouldn't be able to handle it. Just seeing a hot guy in clothes gets me excited....seeing one naked....no way. My penis would be out of control.

 

[rareboy]

I remember one 'straight' married guy who lived in the same building and every time I talked to him in the gym Locker room, he would get an erection.

But I didn't jump it.

 

[AlmondMilk]

Probably look away, shower quickly, and keep your eyes at the wall?



Or you can think about naked grandmas and sad kitties.

 

[Kensei]

Thanks for the tips guys. I might just think of centipedes.

 

[Corny]

I was asked something like that twice. The first guy told me that he feels awkward. And I said: "you feel awkward? Imagine being in a shower full of nude girls. How would you feel?" The other guy just told me that he thinks it's unfair because I might check them out and they are not interested in checking me out. I told him that he could turn gay any time if he wants to check people out. Or just continue pretending to not check them out

 

[asu1117]

In other words, just act like there's nothing strange, scary or anomalous about being naked around a bunch of other guys, because that's how they feel about it.

This pretty much sums it up.

 

[asygrsp]

The scene in locker rooms is one of either modesty or exhibitionism. Some guys walk to and from the showers with a towel wrapped around their waist. But other guys seem to flaunt their sexuality by walking around naked.

 

[Rubber Rat]

I have a number of straight friends who go to the same gym.There have been times when we have showered at the same time. It's not an issue. I've seen them naked but do not stand and stare. LOL.

 

[morgaes]

Honest question here. Is it uncommon for people to use communal showers over there (I assume OP is from America)? Where I am from we start using communal showers from first grade P.E. and swimming classes (and even earlier if you go swimming with your parents). We also have a shitload of public pools here and all the showers are communal (and of course mandatory for hygienic reasons). It's just such a normal every day thing over here to get naked and shower around other guys that it kinda throws me every time I see a question such as this one asked in various gay forums.