Bimarried guy looking for tips in gym hookups

[rosemont36]

I'm a married guy who goes to the gym regularly. I've always noticed some pretty hot guys working out and have always wondered if any of them are gay or bi and interested in hooking up. I'm not sure how to approach guys to see if there is mutual interest. Are there any particular "signs" or "looks" that men have who are looking for hookups. I've brushed my penis a couple of times while a guy was looking at me, but don't know if I'm setting myself up for a hookup or a beat down. Any comments are welcome, and yes, I know one sign would be a massive hard on....lol...I'm looking for more subtle signs....

 

[bijaxfl]

Good luck. I have found in non-gym settings getting a conversation about jerking off going some how. Initial approaches should be made so it can come off as a joke.

 

[tomhrdhat]

Unless you are at a gym in the heart of a gay community, I'd refrain from trying to hook up at the gym. It's very nuanced and can be extremely awkward if you make a mistake in judgement.

 

[Bi Married Male]

sauna is the best place. If a guy strarts touching his cock touch yours too.

 

[ElmosToe]

Ever try just talking to some regular dudes you see?
For example if one of them finishes their workout at the same time you do and you both end up in the locker room showering and changing, strike up a conversation about something. The conversation would be while you are showering and changing, you'd be surprised how many straight dudes will openly stare at your cock if you are having a conversation with them while naked. If you get onto a topic like sports or investing or something you are both really interested in and you find you click well, it may open the door for a possible friend with benefits, you may decide to go for a jog together at the park and find some secluded area somewhere...your mind can finish the rest.

Another thing to look out for with the friend who you may find staring at your cock in the locker room is if he starts talking to you about his sex life with his wife or girlfriend, how he doesn't seem to be getting as hard as he used to when they were first together. Comments or gestures like these may be clues that he could be interested in wanting to mess around with you.

 

[cuteandsmooth3]

The closest I ever got to giving a blow job was when a good friend of mine complained his wife wouldn't suck his dick any more. We were watching some porn and both hard and I said to him "You need your cock sucked?" He didn't say anything and I didn't push because he worked for me at the time. So we went back to watching the porn. I know we would have traded blow jobs because my wife at the time, wasn't giving me any blowjobs either.

 

[phenylethylmalonylur]

be careful

 

[Medusa]

Divorce your wife, or tell your wife that you are cheating on her with men at the gym, and say the sex is sooo much hotter because they have big huge cocks, and big huge cocks are what you really desire. Not some woman with a vagina. That way hopefully, by the good grace of GOD she will divorce you. After all, that is what you truly want,isn't it? Good luck.

 

[rareboy]

@ Medusa

These forums exist for Straight and bi-sexual men to discuss issues and to ask questions. Not for women with an axe to grind to go barking after them.

We do not know all the circumstances of the OP's marriage, or whether he is, in fact cheating on his wife.

He does not have to tell her that the sex is so much hotter; quite possibly, he enjoys sex with men and women equally.

Certainly, if the OP feels that he is a partner in a sham marriage and that he is betraying his wife, he should be honest with her and tell her that he needs something that he cannot get only from her.

But we don't know any of that from what the OP wrote.

So save the snarling and nasty tone.

OK?

 

[Jack Springer]

I'm a married guy who goes to the gym regularly. I've always noticed some pretty hot guys working out and have always wondered if any of them are gay or bi and interested in hooking up. I'm not sure how to approach guys to see if there is mutual interest. Are there any particular "signs" or "looks" that men have who are looking for hookups. I've brushed my penis a couple of times while a guy was looking at me, but don't know if I'm setting myself up for a hookup or a beat down. Any comments are welcome, and yes, I know one sign would be a massive hard on....lol...I'm looking for more subtle signs....

If you're married and looking for a hookup outside your marriage I'd suggest you and your spouse try to hookup with a marriage counselor.

 

[Medusa]

If you're married and looking for a hookup outside your marriage I'd suggest you and your spouse try to hookup with a marriage counselor.

Thanks. It looks like you are the only one with some sense here. He can either do that, or get a divorce.If I was was his wife,and even if her entertained the thought of cheating me with another man I would divorce his ass ASAP, and go out fuck a good looking straight man, that loves yo do oral on a woman

 

[Benvolio]

A gym is a bad place for trying to explore, unless it is a gay gym. If you make a mistake you will create a scene and probably get barred. For that reason the gay guys are unlikely to approach.
Try a gay bar.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

That last post made my fucking head hurt.

If you're not assertive enough to get out of a marriage with a woman while looking for a man, then there's no way you'll be subtle enough to get stranger sex. I suggest you stick to CL and cruising spots where the rest of your ilk hang.

I'd also retort that if his wife allowed/encouraged it, he wouldn't have to try and get clandestine gym sex.

There's refraining from judgment and then there's calling a spade a spade for the sake of all involved.

Refraining from judgement? I don't see any restraint in your post at all.

There are an unfortunate amount of trolls that have jumped in here to further their own cause. How about we get back on track for some constructive discussion?

To the OP: It was mentioned before, but I will reiterate. Just talk to people. You will know soon enough if something clicks for you and them. Some people are overtly cruisy, so there's not much to be said there regarding transparency. I would caution against the REALLY evident cruisers though, but that's just me.

 

[Durango95]

How old are you? Signs? Looks? A gym isn't like the high school locker room. If you are interested in a guy talk to him. Getting a musclehead to talk about his body is a no-brainer. It doesn't really matter if he is gay or not. If you get into a coterie of guys you can find a guy to do something with I'm sure. Gay gyms are horrors. I wouldn't suggest that or the bars, not if you're married or want to remain disease free.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

How old are you? Signs? Looks? A gym isn't like the high school locker room. If you are interested in a guy talk to him. Getting a musclehead to talk about his body is a no-brainer. It doesn't really matter if he is gay or not. If you get into a coterie of guys you can find a guy to do something with I'm sure. Gay gyms are horrors. I wouldn't suggest that or the bars, not if you're married or want to remain disease free.

Unfortunately its a sad truth. Gay gyms are full of the exhibitionists that don't hide behind their Squirt or Adam4Adam accounts, but don't want to be seen at a bathhouse. That said, they end up intermingling with the bathhouse/tearoom/backroom video store crowd. That is why I was advising against the blatant cruisers in a regular gym. Its the previously mentioned crowd trying to score in a mainstream gym.

 

[rareboy]

Thanks. It looks like you are the only one with some sense here. He can either do that, or get a divorce.If I was was his wife,and even if her entertained the thought of cheating me with another man I would divorce his ass ASAP, and go out fuck a good looking straight man, that loves yo do oral on a woman

We understand that you have some axe to grind and are looking for some guy to munch your rug....but once again, please don't assume that he is actually cheating on his wife unless he admits this.

And just fucking stop it.

You and the Springers of the world can spend all your time in thread after thread here accusing every bi guy of atrocious behaviour and cheating, but the fact is you don't have a fucking clue about the relationships they have with the wives or girlfriends.

There isn't one guy here who gives a shit about what you would do or who you would fuck. Your own wretched life is of zero interest to the homos and the bi-sexual men who hang out here.

 

[DreamDancer310]

Medusa...not all of us believe your man made fairy tale BULLSHIT 'God'...so keep your God in your homophobic black church where it belongs. And stop selling drugs to people on the streets, and stop your under ground dog fighting.

P.S~ To all posters here...Medusa is a known homophobe who has been banned repeatedly on here. WHY Justusboys enables the cunt to continue posting is what is puzzling many of us, but we'll get tot he bottom of it.

Meanwhile, I've got a straight man I'm proudly going to have sex with in an hour....and Medusa, I'll eb thinking of YOU and how much that angers you the whole time. And yes, we are proudly taking away your men. C u next tuesday (without a man)

 

[jmadaf]

I am in the same positon, when I work-out, if I see a guy looking my way, I smile or give a nod of the head, ask about any routines he does for arms or legs, maybe that will get the conversation going, I stay away rom sex talk until I know him better, sometimes being friendly with everyone, they will find you. Good Luck and don't give up

 

[Jack Springer]

We understand that you have some axe to grind and are looking for some guy to munch your rug....but once again, please don't assume that he is actually cheating on his wife unless he admits this.

And just fucking stop it.

You and the Springers of the world can spend all your time in thread after thread here accusing every bi guy of atrocious behaviour and cheating, but the fact is you don't have a fucking clue about the relationships they have with the wives or girlfriends.

There isn't one guy here who gives a shit about what you would do or who you would fuck. Your own wretched life is of zero interest to the homos and the bi-sexual men who hang out here.

Why do you post here rareboy if you don't give a fuck about anyone and what they do. That's being hypocritical to your own twisted views on relationships.

Cheating is never a good thing. The OP expressed that he wanted to cheat.

 

[Halifaxboy8]

Why do you post here rareboy if you don't give a fuck about anyone and what they do. That's being hypocritical to your own twisted views on relationships.

Cheating is never a good thing. The OP expressed that he wanted to cheat.

There are a 1001 reasons why someone would want to go outside of their relationship. Speaking in absolutes isn't a good way to go about life, and limits your understanding of others. You aren't walking in this guys shoes, or anyone else's aside from your own. Bringing judgement here just underlines your ignorance and intolerance. It's nonconstructive.

I know many people that go outside of their marriage for one reason or another. Some of them I disagree with, but its not my place to wag a finger at them. How does that help? I also know people that live very closeted lives due to work and family pressures and expectations. Other people I know got married early, have kids and love their family dearly then came out much later in life. There are many reasons why someone would go outside of their marriage.