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i'm a bisexual guy and i've been in a relationship with a girl for about four years now. i was wondering if there were any other bisexual people out there who have been in long-term relationships. do you miss the other sex at all?
 
hommeboi said:
i'm a bisexual guy and i've been in a relationship with a girl for about four years now. i was wondering if there were any other bisexual people out there who have been in long-term relationships. do you miss the other sex at all?
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Forty years ago I was 22 and going through my own frustration. I was married and already had one child. My first sex was with guys beginning at age 9. But I fell head over heels with my wife and we had a wonderful marriage of 39 years until she died 3 years ago.

I told her of my playing with guys before we were married but did not expect to continue with that. After about two years of marriage I told her of my dilema with having a craving for guys even though I could not bear to give up our good sex life and most certainly did not want to lose her either. After several months of patience and lots of talking she said OK. She asked for a few rules that were all reasonable and it worked out for all of us.

For me now, I am much more homosexual than Bi. I suppose if the right Gal came along I could get interested in that female but, it certainly is not something I am expecting or looking for.

Hope my story helps and if I can answer any questions you wish to ask I sure will.

HUGS,

-dan
 
COACHMN said:
Forty years ago I was 22 and going through my own frustration. I was married and already had one child. My first sex was with guys beginning at age 9. But I fell head over heels with my wife and we had a wonderful marriage of 39 years until she died 3 years ago.

I told her of my playing with guys before we were married but did not expect to continue with that. After about two years of marriage I told her of my dilema with having a craving for guys even though I could not bear to give up our good sex life and most certainly did not want to lose her either. After several months of patience and lots of talking she said OK. She asked for a few rules that were all reasonable and it worked out for all of us.

For me now, I am much more homosexual than Bi. I suppose if the right Gal came along I could get interested in that female but, it certainly is not something I am expecting or looking for.

Hope my story helps and if I can answer any questions you wish to ask I sure will.

HUGS,

-dan
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Dan—

Thank you so much for your story. This is exactly what I've been feeling. I love her very much, but at the same time I feel like I'm missing something. Perhaps I should just try talking with her.

Thanks again,
—Ryan
 
Hey, Ryan...

Im currently in a relationship that has been worn down. My wife and I are about to be divorced after being together for 13 years and married 10. We married young, had kids young. I have a 10 and a 9 year old. She's my best friend, but she fell out of love with me. She knew about my dilema. I had been with guys before we got together. Like Dan said, I think I'm more gay than bi, but I just dont like to admit it sometimes. I'm really confused, scared....everything that comes with a break up.

Marc
 
Ryan--

Through out my life I have found open communication with all those I care about to be one of the cornerstone of my happiness and inner peace. Sharing with her about your feelings, longings and what it does to you, while being clear about your commitment and genuine feelings for her, without being demanding would I think be a good beginning for the conversation. She may surprise you with response. Most important, be patient, let any rebuttal soak for a while. If she loves you like my Wife loved me she will be comforted to know the truth (and likely by now she already has suspicions) will do what she can to help assure your happiness.

Marc,

So sorry to read it isn't working out. Loss is loss and from that vantage I sure can empathize with how you feel. In time, you will sort out what feelings are relevant and which are temporary. Be patient with you while you work through the details of the children and other matters. Ideally, an amicable parting of the ways marriage wise and remaining friendly will help a lot. Ultimately, you will likely find the right 'guy' for you. In the meantime, do your best to just be who you are, gently but firmly.

(*8*) to both of you,

-dan
 
Marc,
OMG! You could have written my story exactly. About the same time married, same with the kids, everything. My problem now is that I live in a small town near the ex and who knows what would happen when and if I dated a guy.

Good luck on trying to figure it out, I still havent. :)

-We
 
we32psu said:
Marc,
OMG! You could have written my story exactly. About the same time married, same with the kids, everything. My problem now is that I live in a small town near the ex and who knows what would happen when and if I dated a guy.

Good luck on trying to figure it out, I still havent. :)

-We
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I also live in a small town. It DOES suck, doesn't it? You and I will figure it out eventually!!
 
I'm bi, but I can remain loyal to the person I'm in love with.

If a straight guy liked blondes AND brunettes but was in a commited relationship with a brunette, does he still have permission to have sex with blondes anyway?
It depends on what you and your girlfriend are comfortable with. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with being a little open.
 
Luckily, I came out when I was 17, but up to that point it was just loving exploration.
 
I've been in a relationship with a girl for about five years now (marriage is starting to get talked about), but I've the added bonus that I was friends with her first - and met her when I was in a 2 year relationship with a guy, so she knew what she was getting into.

For me, I don't actively check out guys around her (or at least, I do it as much, if not less than I do girls) and any really 'gay' kind of porn content is pretty much limited to visiting JUB. I'd like to say I've taken a stand and embraced the 'heterosexual' part of my bisexuality, but in reality it's just that when I'm with a female relationship-wise, my hunger for the cock is drastically reduced.

So, to answer your question: yeah, sometimes I do miss having a fit, hairy body next to mine at night. But at the same time, I'm happier than I've ever been (and in all honesty, oral sex is all I've ever really enjoyed with guys anyway, so I don't miss 'SEX' as it was for the most part)...
 
great topic. i'm in the same boat. my wife has no idea of my interest in men. but since ive never been with a man, i feel i can keep it to myself for now.
 
Very interesting thread. Married for over 11 years now, had sex with guys starting in high school and for many years before having sex with women. Many of the comments here are thoughtful, considerate, relevant to my situation too, especially those of COACHMN.
 
I was wondering this same thing myself as well. I consider myself bi only because I fell in love with a girl early in life and I continue to crush on her 10 years later. I really am not interested in any woman but her but she's become bi as well. Recently I've started taking steps to be with her, trying to set up outtings with friends and bump into her. I questioned mysellf as to whether it could ever last and in all honesty I can't see myself wanting to spend the rest of my life with anyone else. If it couldn't be her, it would just be some guy, but never another woman. I truly am anxious to see how 'we' develop since I'm already practically in love with her and feel I was made just for her in many ways. One thing I know is that she wants an open minded guy which I extremely am so I'm prepared to both amaze and be amazed.
 
I came out as being "BI" when I was 17 and gay at 22. I experienced the classic case of "The grass always being greener on the other side of the fence" syndrome: when I was with a girl, the guys always looked so attractive, and when I was with a guy, the girls never seemed so irresistible.

For me, being monogamous meant having to make a choice and stick with it, much like life. I still meet the occasional hot chick that gets me hard just talking with her, but I simply don't go there anymore. In the long run, my cock will ever-ready and ever-lasting for guys instantaneously, and for said hot chick it'd invariably take fantasies of her hot brother or guy cousin.
 
syoBsUtsuJ said:
I came out as being "BI" when I was 17 and gay at 22. I experienced the classic case of "The grass always being greener on the other side of the fence" syndrome: when I was with a girl, the guys always looked so attractive, and when I was with a guy, the girls never seemed so irresistible.

For me, being monogamous meant having to make a choice and stick with it, much like life. I still meet the occasional hot chick that gets me hard just talking with her, but I simply don't go there anymore. In the long run, my cock will ever-ready and ever-lasting for guys instantaneously, and for said hot chick it'd invariably take fantasies of her hot brother or guy cousin.
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So if you're not in a monogamous relationship at the time, what exactly is the harm in taking the girl who makes your cock throb over any ideas of her hot brother?

The fact you identify as 'gay' bemuses me that you even responded to this.
 
My hubby and I are married. I was bi even before we met. We're a bit on the wild side and like to get together with others for a fun sexual time. Therefore, I get to have fun with girls every once in a while. It's also great because since my hubby had started to pressure me to have threesomes with more girls, I told him that I wanted to see him with other men. Surpirsingly, he agreed rather easily, and we like to have fun in which I get to watch him with another man before bringing a girl for us.
 
Im bi but mostly into guys, I dont think i could ever be in a relationship just with a girl my whole life
 
marriedwife said:
My hubby and I are married. I was bi even before we met. We're a bit on the wild side and like to get together with others for a fun sexual time. Therefore, I get to have fun with girls every once in a while. It's also great because since my hubby had started to pressure me to have threesomes with more girls, I told him that I wanted to see him with other men. Surpirsingly, he agreed rather easily, and we like to have fun in which I get to watch him with another man before bringing a girl for us.
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you could teach my wife a few things ;)
 
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