DeadRussianSpaceMonkey
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About two months ago- I started re-dating my ex. We decided to work thru the some of the issues that resulted in the end of our first attempt.- Things since then, have been going great- Continuously improving.
Simply, the issue that I'm running into now, is that I don't know how to address the issue that is his best friend Christy that he's known and has been friends with for a good two years now. She's poses one of those manipulative nice personalities that you can often miss because her smaller gestures give you a sense of trust. She likes manipulate people, and often regress them from progressing with their lives because it makes her feel more accomplished with where she's at in her life.- Gives her reasoning and justification for being in her current state.
Boyfriend, 19
Best Friend (Christy), 23
Me, 23
Anyways- I am not sure where to start. But, I am guessing examples of her characteristics would be best.
Maybe a week after getting back together- His friend Christy had a birthday weekend planned for herself- The last thing she wanted was me to be at that event, so I wasn't invited. I think my boyfriend felt a little guilty about that, so he texted me during, and such. But he ideally did nothing and I guess that does bother me but we were still just taking things as friends at this point but ideally were back together. I wasn't invited along because she would get upset and angry that he would be spending time with me instead of her on her fake birthday.
Fast forward, a few days/week and it was our monthly anniversary day. We kind of accepted that we were more into a relationship then anything else. But that day he was swamped with school and had a paper to write for the next morning that christy told him that she'd help him out with. So, he suggested stopping by and just sitting and talking outside. Which we did- I ended up surprising him with a mix CD of romantic like songs. & Telling him, that it was kind of a shame that we had to cut our convo short, he agree'ed. He actually brought up earlier that he looking to grab one of those frozen oven-pizza's things from walmart. So, I suggested both of running since he was hungry, and we could always make it together. He uncomfortably told me that he told Christy that he would goto walmart with her earlier. So, I told him not to worry about it, that i was just going to take off, and call it an early night. Eventually, he told me that you know what never mind we'll just go- He just explained that he's just going to have to deal with her going crazy, and she's supposed to help him with his paper, so he didn't want to make it more complex. Reassured me that it was okay. So, we went- He ended up texting her, that he was just going to stop and grab his stuff since he was hungry. She ideally texted him back, asking if he went with me. So, he said yes. She ended up exploding his phone with texts- I knew you would do this to me. You told me that you would go with me to walmart. & A bunch more that I didn't get to see, but she kept calling, texting, calling- She even said that she was going to drive to walmart in a text. She ended up bitching at him for about a good hour or two when he went home before helping him with his paper. I ideally offered him to read his book, and help him last minute if she dicked him over.
Fast foward a couple weeks- We all go out for Habatchi. Me, Boyfriend, Christy and another one of his best friends.
Fast Foward a few more weeks, we do pumkin carving- He carved out a pumpkin with christy before, and then saved a spare one for me and him.
Maybe, a week- I go over. Invite the boyfriend out on a walk, he made a big deal about calling his friend that he was supposed to meet with to study to see if she was on her way. Eventually, he caved calling and going on a walk. Me, Him, and Christy went on a walk since I invited her along since he was going to bail on me.
Fast Foward a few more weeks, We did a drag show: Me, Boyfriend, Christy, and another friend- Drive down. He decided had a tutor session at school that him and his other friend were going to stop in at for maybe 30 minutes. I later find out that she fabricated a story of how I was rude to her, and I wouldn't talk to her, and how I picked myself up and walked away from her. The truth is, I talked to her the whole while making small talk. But even besides this, she calls my boyfriend, and the other girl- starts texting them like crazy about seeing they are done.
Last night, I had a date night with my boyfriend- We stopped for some soup at a restaurant, came back, and just relaxed for the rest of the night- Watched the show revenged. (Amazing by the way). After we have a huge talk about everything, that's where i found out about her story of me for the drag show. Before the night is over, he gets a text from his friend chirsty that went out partying at a halloween party- that she wants to come home, that after he takes me home to come and get her. So, I said we can go get her it's not a problem, that way we can still talk on the way over, and maybe ill stay a bit later anyways. So, he was like this will work out great, because we can bring her car back then. So, we go- She ignores me, they drive back (he gets told that he should have waited, so he could go back tomorrow and pick up her car). He goes to take me home- I told him I thought I was going to stay for a little bit longer. He was like oh, I didn't know. So, we end up snuggling up on the couch talking, while he got texts from christy- yelling at him for picking her up, before taking me home. Trying to guilt him, saying that he was supposed to talk to him about her family issues. && Then when he told her after he'll talk to her. She persisted and continued on texting him about how the lady she babysits is in the hospital now. So, she wanted to talk to him. Then she came down and sat with us, only talking to my boyfriend and ignoring whatever I had to say. Only responding to him, until I called her out on it by asking her more questions and filling the silence, turned out the lady in the hospital only had what is probably a hemorrhoid.
Today, he ended up spending the whole day, cooking, and watching movies, and now hanging out with her and his other friend. He kind of was let down by the idea of me coming over, but still eventually invited me over. I'm guessing he was trying to avoid conflict.
I'm really don't know what to do, I forgot to add- Her family disowned her and got taken in by my boyfriends and his family. She does not only live with him, she sleeps in the same bed with him. It has to be maybe a good 5 months already.
Simply, the issue that I'm running into now, is that I don't know how to address the issue that is his best friend Christy that he's known and has been friends with for a good two years now. She's poses one of those manipulative nice personalities that you can often miss because her smaller gestures give you a sense of trust. She likes manipulate people, and often regress them from progressing with their lives because it makes her feel more accomplished with where she's at in her life.- Gives her reasoning and justification for being in her current state.
Boyfriend, 19
Best Friend (Christy), 23
Me, 23
Anyways- I am not sure where to start. But, I am guessing examples of her characteristics would be best.
Maybe a week after getting back together- His friend Christy had a birthday weekend planned for herself- The last thing she wanted was me to be at that event, so I wasn't invited. I think my boyfriend felt a little guilty about that, so he texted me during, and such. But he ideally did nothing and I guess that does bother me but we were still just taking things as friends at this point but ideally were back together. I wasn't invited along because she would get upset and angry that he would be spending time with me instead of her on her fake birthday.
Fast forward, a few days/week and it was our monthly anniversary day. We kind of accepted that we were more into a relationship then anything else. But that day he was swamped with school and had a paper to write for the next morning that christy told him that she'd help him out with. So, he suggested stopping by and just sitting and talking outside. Which we did- I ended up surprising him with a mix CD of romantic like songs. & Telling him, that it was kind of a shame that we had to cut our convo short, he agree'ed. He actually brought up earlier that he looking to grab one of those frozen oven-pizza's things from walmart. So, I suggested both of running since he was hungry, and we could always make it together. He uncomfortably told me that he told Christy that he would goto walmart with her earlier. So, I told him not to worry about it, that i was just going to take off, and call it an early night. Eventually, he told me that you know what never mind we'll just go- He just explained that he's just going to have to deal with her going crazy, and she's supposed to help him with his paper, so he didn't want to make it more complex. Reassured me that it was okay. So, we went- He ended up texting her, that he was just going to stop and grab his stuff since he was hungry. She ideally texted him back, asking if he went with me. So, he said yes. She ended up exploding his phone with texts- I knew you would do this to me. You told me that you would go with me to walmart. & A bunch more that I didn't get to see, but she kept calling, texting, calling- She even said that she was going to drive to walmart in a text. She ended up bitching at him for about a good hour or two when he went home before helping him with his paper. I ideally offered him to read his book, and help him last minute if she dicked him over.
Fast foward a couple weeks- We all go out for Habatchi. Me, Boyfriend, Christy and another one of his best friends.
Fast Foward a few more weeks, we do pumkin carving- He carved out a pumpkin with christy before, and then saved a spare one for me and him.
Maybe, a week- I go over. Invite the boyfriend out on a walk, he made a big deal about calling his friend that he was supposed to meet with to study to see if she was on her way. Eventually, he caved calling and going on a walk. Me, Him, and Christy went on a walk since I invited her along since he was going to bail on me.
Fast Foward a few more weeks, We did a drag show: Me, Boyfriend, Christy, and another friend- Drive down. He decided had a tutor session at school that him and his other friend were going to stop in at for maybe 30 minutes. I later find out that she fabricated a story of how I was rude to her, and I wouldn't talk to her, and how I picked myself up and walked away from her. The truth is, I talked to her the whole while making small talk. But even besides this, she calls my boyfriend, and the other girl- starts texting them like crazy about seeing they are done.
Last night, I had a date night with my boyfriend- We stopped for some soup at a restaurant, came back, and just relaxed for the rest of the night- Watched the show revenged. (Amazing by the way). After we have a huge talk about everything, that's where i found out about her story of me for the drag show. Before the night is over, he gets a text from his friend chirsty that went out partying at a halloween party- that she wants to come home, that after he takes me home to come and get her. So, I said we can go get her it's not a problem, that way we can still talk on the way over, and maybe ill stay a bit later anyways. So, he was like this will work out great, because we can bring her car back then. So, we go- She ignores me, they drive back (he gets told that he should have waited, so he could go back tomorrow and pick up her car). He goes to take me home- I told him I thought I was going to stay for a little bit longer. He was like oh, I didn't know. So, we end up snuggling up on the couch talking, while he got texts from christy- yelling at him for picking her up, before taking me home. Trying to guilt him, saying that he was supposed to talk to him about her family issues. && Then when he told her after he'll talk to her. She persisted and continued on texting him about how the lady she babysits is in the hospital now. So, she wanted to talk to him. Then she came down and sat with us, only talking to my boyfriend and ignoring whatever I had to say. Only responding to him, until I called her out on it by asking her more questions and filling the silence, turned out the lady in the hospital only had what is probably a hemorrhoid.
Today, he ended up spending the whole day, cooking, and watching movies, and now hanging out with her and his other friend. He kind of was let down by the idea of me coming over, but still eventually invited me over. I'm guessing he was trying to avoid conflict.
I'm really don't know what to do, I forgot to add- Her family disowned her and got taken in by my boyfriends and his family. She does not only live with him, she sleeps in the same bed with him. It has to be maybe a good 5 months already.
