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Came out to best friend...that's not the half of it

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So I just came out to my best friend of many years. I was so terrified, but he was absolutely okay with it. I'd been wanting to tell him for a while because I actually have very strong feelings for him and it had gotten to the point that I had to tell him something or I was going to explode.

We have a very interesting relationship to say the least. First of all, I have plenty male friends but it is just a chemstry and connection we have that I've never had with anyone else. I feel like he is my better half. He completes me and I complete him. We spend alot of time together..alot. We get each other, we cant be angry with each other. People have said that they thought we were together but I always say no. But honestly it feels like a relationship. It gotten to the point where it would feel l weird, like we werent telling each other something. So thats when I decided to tell him I was gay. I did...then....

He ended up telling me he was gay also... SHOCKED!!! Did not expect that at all!!! So now even though we have come out to each other it still feels kinda weird. Do you think it's because we have feelings for each other? How should I go about telling him exactly how I feel?
 
now THATS a good coming out story. sounds like there might be some sexual tension to me. good luck ..|
 
Just tell him how you feel.

One of two things will happen and either way, life will go on for you.

He may not share your feelings and you should be prepared for that but imagine if he does.

IMO, the regret over not trying will outweight any rejection you may receive

Go for it!
 
Wow. You're the two guys in a million that have (potential) crushes on each other, you come out to him, then he comes out to you.

Yes, definitely tell him how you feel! You'll hate yourself if you don't!
 
I say tell him how you feel. Now that you both know that you are gay, the relationship is bound to change a bit. You might as well put the cards on the table. If he feels the same way, you will have a boyfriend. If he doesn't, you guys will still be able to maintain a friendship and you won't have to torture yourself trying to figure out if he is interested.
 
judging by the number of "i'm closeted and lusting after my straight best friend" threads on this site... i'd say chances are pretty good he likes you back.
 
That's amazing. First off, congratulations for taking such a bold step with him and coming out. You took a risk--given your romantic feelings for him--and it paid off. Good for you.

As far as your feelings are concerned...do you have any indication that he has the same sort of romantic feelings for you that you do for him? If he shares your feelings, are you comfortable moving it to the next level and sleeping with him?

I can't wait to hear how this unfolds. Good luck, and congratulations again! ..|
 
Hopefully something happens betweent he two of you!

That reminds me when I was younger and was crushing on this guy for like 2 years. We were really close friends and he told me he was bi. I was taken back by it but I told him I was bi too and had feelings for him. He stopped talking to me after that...

Hopefully your ending is much better though.
 
oh fuck you, you (potentially) lucky bastard. :badgrin: I'd say since the dynamic between you two seems less of a brotherly love and more of dating relationship already (since people already think you're a couple) you should tell him how you feel. It's probable he feels the same way since he came out to you right after and doesn't seem like he worried about sending you the wrong signals by doing so.
 
Be careful. The first person I came out to was my best friend, and like you he came out to me. I thought I was in love with him, but it turned out I was in love with the idea of being in love. Long story short, I ruined what could have been a beautiful friendship, by introducing sex into the equation. When you do that, all kinds of unpleasant things can happen.

In hindsight I realize we would have been great friends but as lovers it was a horrible mismatch from the very beginning.
 
Personally, I wouldn't bring up the "crush" factor quite yet. It's "kewl" that you're both gay, but that doesn't mean he is thinking "crush" back at you.

Now that the Gay "thing" is out in the open, just chill for a bit. See how he reacts to you from now on. Will he get "flirty"?? If so ... Great!! If not ... let it be, for now.

Eventually, though, you should let him know, if you still feel that way toward him. But ... do it in a non-threatening way. Let him know that it's O.K. if he doesn't feel the same way toward you. Let him know that he'll still be your best friend no matter what. (group)

And, of course ...

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)

P.S.
And, of course, you realize that you're now "duty bound" to keep us all posted as to how this all works out for you! (*8*)
 
I will most def keep you guys posted.

And yes, sometimes I feel like he really likes me, I just think he is afraid of it. I feel so connected to him though.

Believe it or not. We havent really talked about us being gay since the day we told each other. So I dont know. I am going to say something but Im just trying to figure it out.
 
i wouldnt worry about that too much.. not that i have a ton of experience but with the people i've come out to i dont really talk about it unless they bring it up. maybe for guys who are used to being closeted it just feels a little awkward at first. maybe he just needs to get used to being able to talk to you about it.

start talking about whoever (else) you think is cute, that might get him going :p
 
Invite him to sleep over and see where it goes after you make some s'mores and talk about boys.
 
You two have just leaped a hurdle together, it's bound to be awkward for a bit.

Congratulations though, that's an incredible story.
 
Hi guys....

Still have not had the courage to say it yet...Its sooooooo hard!! But I think I'll do it soon. I keep telling myself Ill do it tomorrow, but I just cant...how do you say something like that? I think im in love with you? I think I like you? I like you? I have strong feelings for you?

Its tough... Ill keep you posted though
 
i know im about to prove myself gay.. but this is so cute. i really hope he likes you.

i still think you should start him talking about who he thinks is hot..worse plans have worked right?
 
NameTaken said:
How does thinking something is cute sound gay? :confused:
Click to expand...

I think that YOU are extremely Cute! And, I'm Gay!! (!)

Though ... You would still be Cute, even if I were Str8! ..|

Keep smilin'!! :kiss:(*8*)
Chaz ;)

O.K. ... I know! "Shut up, Chaz!" :slap:
 
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