Can A Gay Guy Go Bi?

[jasoncrew03]

Well I don't think any of you guys can consider the fact that you're "going bi" until you at least attempt to have sex with a woman. There's a big difference between straight porn and straight sex, besides the fact that a man's dick goes into a woman's pussy they're really quite different (unless you're having sex with a really slutty girl but that's an experience in itself ;P). I personally don't like straight porn, but I love straight sex.

 

[clicker]

It's usually the other way around: hunky young studs who make themselves believe they are straight, and come out as queer when they enter middle age.

Yeah, I'd prefer to see more of gay to bi or even gay to straight.

I'm curious as to why you'd like to see more of gay-to bi, gay-to-straight?

 

[clicker]

Everybody knows gay men can not like women. Women have vaginas and gay men can't stand that.

I'm gay and vagina is fine with me-it's not her we want, it's him, and not jus his dick).

 

[clicker]

It sounds like what you are all talking about is discovering your bisexual potential.

 

[clicker]

The ebb and flow of sexuality.

I tend to wind-up shagging a chick every 2-3 years or so.

I'm about due, and it's been on my mine a bit.

Doesn't change the fact that I'm gay.

Huh? You don't feel you're bisexual then? How do you rationalize wanting to have sex with a woman if your gay?

 

[clicker]

It's usually the other way around: hunky young studs who make themselves believe they are straight, and come out as queer when they enter middle age.

Yeah, I'd prefer to see more of gay to bi or even gay to straight.

Oh, I love seeing straight guys get curious and love the hot bromance!! yum!

 

[clicker]

Fucking pussy is forbidden for gay men ~ that's what makes it HOT!!!

Then you don't consider yourself bi?

 

[clicker]

That's why I'm glad I'm 100 percent when it comes to my sexuality. It's cut and dry with me.
I've never fantasized about women/never will and what little str8 porn i have watched is only because the guy is super hot and I only watch the fucking scenes and turn it off when any oral starts.

But I do understand your feelings , your not 100 percent gay , you have that 10 or 20 percent in you that gets into women. That category of in between or bisexual but lean towards men or bisexual but lean towards women. So to me the question of can a gay guy go bi ? My answer is if he's 100 percent gay NO , if he falls in between that 100 percent then he would be Bi to begin with and not totally gay anyway.

Thanks, finally a voice of reason!

 

[clicker]

I have to agree that a properly primed, slick, dripping, pussy is indeed HOT!!! Work up a Chick, just right, and you're assured hours of a slippery, squirming, screaming, "Dick Glove"!! There will even be enough "slide" to do her Ass, too!!

"Butt", there's nothing quite like the "squeeze" of a HOT lubed Boy Hole, too! And, with Guys, you've also got a "saddle horn" to hold on to while you ride that pony!!

While "Fish" is delicious, heady, stuff ... I just found that I happen to prefer "Beef"!!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

Er, KYanimal, barebacking is dangerous advice......"there'll be enough slide to do her ass, too". Why would you reccommend barebacking?

 

[clicker]

Lord, what a disgusting & self-loathing site.

I've read many of the accounts and stories on the forum and the general theme is:

1) It didn't work with my boyfriend

2) I'm gonna 'straighten out' to become straight.

3) I'm straight and I was never a gay man in the first place.

It's vehemently homophobic and it shows that we have a long ways to go in self-acceptance.

So true DIAMONDSKIN! Thanks for posting this! I discovered that site(OUTSTRAIGHT.NET)
through these postings and found it to be thinly-veiled
homophobic/heterosexist ideas from ex-gay guys. Yuck. I regularly troll there to confront some of their anti-gay postings.

 

[clicker]

Just came into this thread to make a totally not really controversial statement:

There's no such thing as 100% anything in sexuality. Humans are humans, not bears.

I'm a "straight" guy who's been totally bicurious this past month or so. Sometimes gay porn gets me off, sometimes it's women (like right now). Sometimes I like anal play. Sometimes not in the mood. Sometimes I masturbate wearing a woman's thong, but I'm not a cross dresser.

Yet, I have no interest in a male-male relationship. I've met plenty of girls that not only gave me a boner, but made me fantasize about snuggling up and being long time partners with them. Never really got that with a guy.

But it's possible. Why not? Just because I can't comprehend it? Maybe, 20 years from now, I'll prefer all guys. Who knows.

I know everyone isn't me. But I take Dan Savage's advice- you can still be "gay" or "Straight" and have that one person from the opposite sex that really does it for you. I wouldn't want to convert a gay guy to being straight or anything like that, but I always feel happy when I read someone having an experience going against their usual self. Why can't all just fuck and love each other and not worry about this nonsense?

Because the Judaeo-Christian religion has demonized homosexuality since forever and created the "us against them" war seen to this day with anti-gay groups.

 

[sm8591]

I was in a Catholic school with only boys admitted. First time to have sex with another person highly depends on what the circumstances have to offer, so in my case i had only my class- and roommates. Also holidays with summer camps I saw nothing else than boys. This Judaeo-Christian religion with its conservative policy of keeping boys away from girls just created the best environment to develope sex between boys.

Having only sex with my bf's, i really believed very convienced i was definitely gay. Just years later in a nudist resort , a girl wanted me and forced herself up, i thought to get her off me saying I was gay. But as she played with my penis, it got hard just like when a boy played with it. I stayed hard when she started to stroke my cock through her vagina and i just enjoyed when she pumped her body up and down. While the physical interaction did well, i felt embarrassement with that display of such female corpus on mine, my penis deep inside it while I was so convienced I was gay. She stopped when my penis became soft some time after I had ejaculated. It left me confused.

Only a few years later whan I was about 21-22 I got a relationship with a woman of 38 who explored my submissive SM nature. Then i learned to understand and accept what bi sexuality means. I'm glad to be like that as it proved to be a great advantage to avoid a boring sex life.

 

[AsianDream]

For several years, I considered myself gay because I only slept with men. I never found women gross or unappealing, I just wasn't all that interested in having sex with them. But lately, I can't think about anything else. It started by watching a lot of straight / bi porn, and realizing that it turned me on more than the gay stuff now. Then I found myself more and more attracted to specific women. My sexual fantasies began to include women more often than men. Now I'm practically humping the mattress. I feel like a girl-crazy adolescent.

What is happening to me?

Something rather the same happened to me on Saturday

It's a bit of a long story - see thread on this forum Whats sex with a woman like compared to with a guy?

It wasn't quite an innocent "Boy meets Girl" experience (a lot of Watersports) - but has challenged some of my ideas about my own "Gay" sexual identity.

 

[Kyanimal]

Er, KYanimal, barebacking is dangerous advice......"there'll be enough slide to do her ass, too". Why would you reccommend barebacking?

Uh ... exactly where did I say anything about "barebacking"???

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[Willie Boy]

That's a rather broad and unfair generality. Just because you're not interested in something doesn't mean you "can't stand" it. Vaginas don't repulse me; I'm just not particularly interested in playing around with one, or the woman that it's attached to.

First off, I'm bi, not gay. Vaginas don't repulse me any more than they repulse straight guys.

Second, my statement is no more a broad and unfair generality than saying that bis are just gays who are afraid to come out of the closet (which has been said to death and beyond by gays on this forum). Sorry to have put your knickers in such a twist trying to help those gays understand how demeaning their apparently favorite phrase about us really is.

 

[clicker]

Uh ... exactly where did I say anything about "barebacking"???

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

You just wrote "there'll be enough(pussy juice) to glide her asshole. Obviously there was no condom mentioned?

 

[jamietxx2]

You just wrote "there'll be enough(pussy juice) to glide her asshole. Obviously there was no condom mentioned?

Clicker.. I think you're completely misreading what chaz said. Trust me when I say that you can wear a condom and still going from a girls pussy to her ass.. with a condom still on your dick.

OP.. you know what I'm the other way around because I love women but i started to feel more attracted to men.. probably when I was about 17/18.. and then I started to feel really umcomfortable and ashamed. Now I admit im bisexual and to be honest I couldnt care less.

I love the touch, smell, feel, taste of a womans pussy and I love breasts and feeling my dick pulsate inside a girl and feeling her touch my body.

I find it extremely sexy sucking on a dick, wanking off with a guy, rimming, having hot physical activity.

The difference is sexually and emotionally I am attracted to women and I am am sexually attracted to men also. I would NEVER cheat on a gf however when im single if I want fun with another single guy why not? If i want to go out on a date with a hot girl why not?

Don't label yourself, enjoy yourself.. You may end up getting married you may not but at least you have tried everything you wanted to have!

 

[playful6969]

I find it ironic (and sad) that the same attitudes exhibited by str8 homophobes are often exhibited by gays...only reversed. Humans have a hard time accepting what is different then themselves.

As already stated in the thread, human sexuality is way more complex then these simplistic ideas. Any person, on any given day, my decide to engage in a variation of sexuality previously unknown to them....that doesnt mean they have switched 'teams' or that all humans are 'bi'....it means they are complex sexual beings capable of change and variation in a circumstance and having the ability to gain pleasure from things not 'normal' to them.

I am str8, by that I mean I have no emotional or romantic sexual feeling for the same sex. Never have. I have never once thought a guy looked hot or had sexual thoughts about a male I saw in public etc. On the other hand I have ALL those feelings for females constantly...and have my entire life. I crave pussy. I adore women. I cant live with out them.

That being said...I can enjoy j/o with a guy or arousing a guy. I can enjoy seeing my effect or the effect of our discussion upon him. I find aroused humans to be erotic. Its nothing more then sexual variation for me. I enjoy getting off, seeing others get off, and getting off with them. On a given day I can even enjoy being touched by a guy because as most humans do I like to be touched.

Now the hardcore labelists will say either that I am 'closeted gay' or 'bi'.
But I am neither. I am nothing more then a str8 guy that can enjoy variations that others may not understand or be unable to engage in for whatever reason.
I am a complex sexual being.

So, if a gay guy says he has engaged in a sexual fantasy or activity that involves a woman I accept it as just that, and I am fine with it. No assumptions need be made. No labels given.

 

[WestGaBoi]

I am in the same boat. While I did have sex with females when I was younger. I have been in a gay relationship for 15 years now. In the past 2 years or so I rediscovered my interest in females. Luckily I have a very understanding partner. He just wants me to be me and happy I hope you can find whatever works for you. Always remember, you do not have to have a label!

 

[clicker]

I find it ironic (and sad) that the same attitudes exhibited by str8 homophobes are often exhibited by gays...only reversed. Humans have a hard time accepting what is different then themselves.

As already stated in the thread, human sexuality is way more complex then these simplistic ideas. Any person, on any given day, my decide to engage in a variation of sexuality previously unknown to them....that doesnt mean they have switched 'teams' or that all humans are 'bi'....it means they are complex sexual beings capable of change and variation in a circumstance and having the ability to gain pleasure from things not 'normal' to them.

I am str8, by that I mean I have no emotional or romantic sexual feeling for the same sex. Never have. I have never once thought a guy looked hot or had sexual thoughts about a male I saw in public etc. On the other hand I have ALL those feelings for females constantly...and have my entire life. I crave pussy. I adore women. I cant live with out them.

That being said...I can enjoy j/o with a guy or arousing a guy. I can enjoy seeing my effect or the effect of our discussion upon him. I find aroused humans to be erotic. Its nothing more then sexual variation for me. I enjoy getting off, seeing others get off, and getting off with them. On a given day I can even enjoy being touched by a guy because as most humans do I like to be touched.

Now the hardcore labelists will say either that I am 'closeted gay' or 'bi'.
But I am neither. I am nothing more then a str8 guy that can enjoy variations that others may not understand or be unable to engage in for whatever reason.
I am a complex sexual being.

So, if a gay guy says he has engaged in a sexual fantasy or activity that involves a woman I accept it as just that, and I am fine with it. No assumptions need be made. No labels given.

Fair enough, i understand what you wrote. I have no problem there.