Can A Gay Guy Go Bi?

[clicker]

Clicker.. I think you're completely misreading what chaz said. Trust me when I say that you can wear a condom and still going from a girls pussy to her ass.. with a condom still on your dick.

OP.. you know what I'm the other way around because I love women but i started to feel more attracted to men.. probably when I was about 17/18.. and then I started to feel really umcomfortable and ashamed. Now I admit im bisexual and to be honest I couldnt care less.

I love the touch, smell, feel, taste of a womans pussy and I love breasts and feeling my dick pulsate inside a girl and feeling her touch my body.

I find it extremely sexy sucking on a dick, wanking off with a guy, rimming, having hot physical activity.

The difference is sexually and emotionally I am attracted to women and I am am sexually attracted to men also. I would NEVER cheat on a gf however when im single if I want fun with another single guy why not? If i want to go out on a date with a hot girl why not?

Don't label yourself, enjoy yourself.. You may end up getting married you may not but at least you have tried everything you wanted to have!

No I didn't misunderstand him. I did not assume he meant you had a condom on, (ex. straight porn never uses condoms for anal sex) he wasn't clear about being protected while being engaged in vaginal/anal sex.

 

[Willie Boy]

So gay guys can't throw around generalities about bisexuals, but it's perfectly fine for bisexuals like yourself to do it about gays? You're a major hypocrite who has some HUGE chips on your shoulder.

No. My point is that since it is fine for gays to do unto bis, it should be ok for bis to return the favor. The gays who complain about having it returned to sender are the true hypocrites. Especially after whining about how straights already do it to them.

Thank you for giving me a reason to repeat my point for those who didn't understand it the first time.

 

[Willie Boy]

It is NOT OK for gays to do it to bisexuals, and it is equally NOT OK for bisexuals to do it to gays. I responded to your initial post because I disagreed with you and felt it was an unfair generality.

But I reiterate the part about you having a major chip on your shoulder. Geez, even Helen Keller could see it from beyond the grave.

And yet gays still do it to bisexuals. And when a bisexual returns the compliment, you get all butt hurt and have to cry about it. That chip on the shoulder you are crying about is the one sitting on your own shoulder.

You are entitled to your own opinion, as am I. You don't have to agree with mine any more than I have to agree with yours. Yet you insist on demanding I change my opinion because apparently it hurts your wittle feewings. Too bad, grow up and be a part of the real world.

This will be the last post of yours I give a moment's attention to, I don't waste time on unintelligent drivel.

 

[clicker]

I didn't demand for you to change your opinion; I just disagreed with it. But no problems. You've shown everybody on this board what a fucking obnoxious asshole you are, so I'm perfectly fine not wasting another minute of my time on you either.

GAYDUDE65, I love your post, but your insults to WILLIEBOY are harsh and undeserving. I don't get an arrogant vibe from him at all. He's just pointing to the fact that some gays dismiss his bisexual reality- frustrating to him, understandably. Now kiss and make up. Peace to both of you.

 

[clicker]

I'm normal?

Or maybe your a troll from OUTSTRAIGHT.NET trying to "convert" gay guys?

 

[clicker]

You've got to be kidding me. He calls me "unintelligent drivel" and tells me to grow up and not get my "wittle feewings" hurt, and you don't consider that to be arrogance? So I guess it's OK for a bisexual to make sweeping generalities about gay guys, but totally unacceptable for the opposite to occur? Sorry, I ain't playin' that game.

No, of course it's not ok...

 

[AsianDream]

First off, I'm bi, not gay. Vaginas don't repulse me any more than they repulse straight guys.

Second, my statement is no more a broad and unfair generality than saying that bis are just gays who are afraid to come out of the closet (which has been said to death and beyond by gays on this forum). Sorry to have put your knickers in such a twist trying to help those gays understand how demeaning their apparently favorite phrase about us really is.

Based on an experience I had last Saturday - Gay guys definitely can go BI!

I've often thought BI guys are really Gay - but are just denying their true nature. Based on my idea that people's sexuality is fixed at birth - and that being Gay is not my fault - just how I was born.

But at least I've never posted any comments saying so - but I guess I do know now (from really hot personal experience) that these ideas of mine are wrong.

Also - I hope I've got enough honesty to understand how demeaning these sort of comments by us Gay guys about BI guys really are,

 

[Willie Boy]

Based on an experience I had last Saturday - Gay guys definitely can go BI!

I've often thought BI guys are really Gay - but are just denying their true nature. Based on my idea that people's sexuality is fixed at birth - and that being Gay is not my fault - just how I was born.

But at least I've never posted any comments saying so - but I guess I do know now (from really hot personal experience) that these ideas of mine are wrong.

Also - I hope I've got enough honesty to understand how demeaning these sort of comments by us Gay guys about BI guys really are,

I appreciate that. I've just seen far too many posts here on JUB are just closeted gays who don't have the courage to accept themselves. I am bi. I had a girlfriend who died of cancer quickly, we were going to be married. My current partner is a wonderful guy. My point is that when I fall in love it my partner's gender does not matter. I am neither in nor out of the closet. I don't hide my sexuality, but I don't feel the need to slap people across the face with it either.

 

[clicker]

I appreciate that. I've just seen far too many posts here on JUB are just closeted gays who don't have the courage to accept themselves. I am bi. I had a girlfriend who died of cancer quickly, we were going to be married. My current partner is a wonderful guy. My point is that when I fall in love it my partner's gender does not matter. I am neither in nor out of the closet. I don't hide my sexuality, but I don't feel the need to slap people across the face with it either.

My condolences about your fiance's passing away. How horrible. So sorry for that loss. I can't imagine the pain. Does it still "haunt" you daily, even in you relationship with your new boyfriend/ How do you deal with it?

 

[AsianDream]

I appreciate that. I've just seen far too many posts here on JUB are just closeted gays who don't have the courage to accept themselves. I am bi. I had a girlfriend who died of cancer quickly, we were going to be married. My current partner is a wonderful guy. My point is that when I fall in love it my partner's gender does not matter. I am neither in nor out of the closet. I don't hide my sexuality, but I don't feel the need to slap people across the face with it either.

Losing someone you love is always awfull - but it's good that people do recover and their life goes on.

I guess "BI" isn't so much a social identity as "Gay" - people don't talk about "Coming Out" as Bisexual -

Quite a few of the guys I have sex with on a regular basis are BI (most of them older than me) - though they do tend to keep it quiet.

 

[Willie Boy]

My condolences about your fiance's passing away. How horrible. So sorry for that loss. I can't imagine the pain. Does it still "haunt" you daily, even in you relationship with your new boyfriend/ How do you deal with it?

Not as much as it used to. Its been a while. I've learned to accept what I can't change and enjoy the company of those you love while they are with you.

 

[DJ1990]

sexuality isn't black and white dude.. anything can happen. you may have never been appealed to women until now but there are gay men who just because they prefer men doesn't mean they rule out women completely. everyones different, and yea a guy can go any way at anytime there are no rules to sexuality, anyone can feel different at any point in time and thats totally normal.

says it all

 

[slnattak]

I think this is more of a troll....

romantic love has been hard for me and women. I've been attracted to some, slightly, and wanted to finger them and fondle them.... but they don't really make my head get that dizzying feeling you know. I say 'gay' not as a label but simply because it's the most accurate. And I get excited and giddy talking to men on the phone in the middle of the night, not women...if this ever changed for whatever reason I'd accept it tho.

And to the person that said 'I don't slap people in the face with it either' I have never ever seen a real human being slap their sexuality in anybody's face. Except for that one hilarious jim carrey skit on living color, real people just don't do that lol.

 

[Flexuality]

Let me share my perspective as a psychiatrist who knows the research and has worked with sexuality in the clinical sphere.

It is not as simple as being "born" gay or straight. The research that supports that idea is pretty flawed. Even if some people are, the vast majority are probably capable of enjoying both genders, but their experiences, temperaments, and culture tend to push them in one direction or another, esp. since in the West there is this preconception that people are either straight or gay.

It is probably next to impossible to eliminate sexual attractions that have been fueling your orgasms since you were a teenager. That's why converting gays to straight just doesn't work (nor would the reverse). But if you are a curious and sexually adverturous person, or if you fall in love with someone unexpectedly, your sexual tastes can expand. Practice, experiment, see what happens.

 

[AsianDream]

Let me share my perspective as a psychiatrist who knows the research and has worked with sexuality in the clinical sphere.

It is not as simple as being "born" gay or straight. The research that supports that idea is pretty flawed. Even if some people are, the vast majority are probably capable of enjoying both genders, but their experiences, temperaments, and culture tend to push them in one direction or another, esp. since in the West there is this preconception that people are either straight or gay.

It is probably next to impossible to eliminate sexual attractions that have been fueling your orgasms since you were a teenager. That's why converting gays to straight just doesn't work (nor would the reverse). But if you are a curious and sexually adverturous person, or if you fall in love with someone unexpectedly, your sexual tastes can expand. Practice, experiment, see what happens.

Hi Flexuality

Does your idea of sexual thoughts and activities fueling peoples orgasms for a long time also apply to things like Fetishes as well?

Persoanlly - I dont think anymore that peoples sexual orientation - or what they like doing sexually is fixed at birth (at least Im fairly sure mine weren't).

I do think it may be a sort of "Imprinting" process - where the more you do and enjoy something - the more you want to do it?

 

[Flexuality]

Yes, Asiandream. In behavioral terms, orgasm is reinforcing. It stimulates dopamine pathways in the brain that are similarly stimulated by drug and alcohol use, gambling, and other activities that tend to be addicting. This serves an obvious evolutionary purpose, but the sexual drive can become focused on people or activities that don't lead to reproduction, thus fetishes. Any fantasy that you carry out or jerk off to over and over will become increasingly ingrained in your desires, though not necessarily to the same degree for every person. It depends on how much it turns you on to begin with and whether it is an exclusive fantasy or part of a repetoire of interests. Hope that makes sense.

 

[clicker]

Based on an experience I had last Saturday - Gay guys definitely can go BI!

I've often thought BI guys are really Gay - but are just denying their true nature. Based on my idea that people's sexuality is fixed at birth - and that being Gay is not my fault - just how I was born.

But at least I've never posted any comments saying so - but I guess I do know now (from really hot personal experience) that these ideas of mine are wrong.

Also - I hope I've got enough honesty to understand how demeaning these sort of comments by us Gay guys about BI guys really are,

Just because you may have gone Bi doesn't mean every gay guy can. Sorry, you or anybody cannot claim that.

 

[AsianDream]

Just because you may have gone Bi doesn't mean every gay guy can. Sorry, you or anybody cannot claim that.

Sorry - didn't mean to say that every gay guy is really BI - just that it can happen.

Also I'd never agree with the idea that people can be "cured" of their sexual orientation - I'd certainly never give up guys - just rather surprised to find that Ive at least go some "BI" in me.

 

[Kyanimal]

My sexual history is quite BI! However, that allowed me to confirm that my core orientation is Gay!

Keep smilin'!!
Chaz

 

[mbamike]

A lot of men on this board start their adult lives being attracted to women and then as they get older lose that attraction and become attracted to men.

This is me to a point. I think I was more in denial than lost attraction.