Can someone tell me how gay people supposed to act?

[BowtieGuy]

A friend of a friend who is gay and feminine told me I am "straight-acting" b/c i don't talk like him, I'm not into women's fashion, don't have female friends, and don't listen to "gay" music. Basically I put on an act to pretend to be straight.

I told him I was just being myself and didnt wake up each day practicing how to talk, dress, and "act" straight. Most people think I'm straight but some people think I'm gay and I really dont care. I feel like I'm being my natural self.

But this kid and his 2 friends who joined in said that naturally gay men are supposed to feminine, and guys that are not are just acting.

They also said I'm self loathing b/c I dont like drag queens. I dont hate them or say theyre disgusting. But I have no interest in going to drag shows or watching Rupaul's Drag Race.

I know there's not a handbook on how gays should act but I think this is bullshit. And personally I think some gay guys act feminine b/c they think that's what being gay is. i think being gay is whatever you want. But so many older gay people tell me otherwise. Sorry if this sounds so confusing. I'm confused myself. I'd love any sor

dont question yourself just be who you are naturally. you cant please anyone but yourself. jsut from your post i think you are an amazing guy and prob a cool person to hang out with.

I agree wholeheartedly.

 

[Deandbn]

So other gay guys talk , walk, and dress funny, but you're completely normal?

That's pretty offensive.

I dont think you assimilate what you read very well my dearest Lube. Please dont make inferences or cast aspersions on what I say.

I did not say anything about other guys, gay guys, or other gay guys, or any one else at all for that matter. I was speaking about myself.

Maybe i touched on a raw nerve of yours?

And as for normality, seeing that you ask (in public), in some ways i think i am a fairly normal guy. In other ways i blush even at the thought of saying i can be real kinky.

and this is pretty defensive.

FYI Lube

assimilate: to take into the mind and thoroughly comprehend
make inferences: come to (incorrect???) conclusions
cast aspersions: to make damaging or spiteful remarks

I sincerely hope you can assimilate this reply!!!

If you cant say anything nice then dont say it at all.

 

[Prestobesto]

Man. Those guys deserve a punch in the head for trying to make you feel bad about yourself.

 

[Lube]

I dont think you assimilate what you read very well my dearest Lube. Please dont make inferences or cast aspersions on what I say.

I did not say anything about other guys, gay guys, or other gay guys, or any one else at all for that matter. I was speaking about myself.

Maybe i touched on a raw nerve of yours?

And as for normality, seeing that you ask (in public), in some ways i think i am a fairly normal guy. In other ways i blush even at the thought of saying i can be real kinky.

and this is pretty defensive.

FYI Lube

assimilate: to take into the mind and thoroughly comprehend
make inferences: come to (incorrect???) conclusions
cast aspersions: to make damaging or spiteful remarks

I sincerely hope you can assimilate this reply!!!

If you cant say anything nice then dont say it at all.

Well if you weren't comparing yourself to gay guys, who were you comparing yourself to?

 

[jdoe4822]

All I can do is add my my voice to the chorus already on here. When I was a closeted Christian, I had some gender identity issues and when I first started coming out, I acted more femm because, well, that's how gays were supposed to act, right? bullshit. be yourself. I was pretending to be someone I was not. Funny that it took sucking a few cocks to realize that I was a man, but hey whatever works. Point is I know I'm just a guy who acts like a guy and likes other guys, and I'm cool with that.