Confess something that might surprise others or damage your reputation on JUB - 2012

[maxpowr9]

With all these people exhuming names from the past that have long gone, I roll my eyes that a friend on here got banned cuz of a mod's racism. My friend was rude about it but it doesn't excuse the mod.

 

[xbuzzerx]

I remember having little assholes in kindergarten with me.

UGH! If I knew then what I know now. I would have been reading left and right. lol

I woulda been trollin more with much cooler comebacks.

 

[justsimon]

Speaking of dating and vices, I like to test guys on dates by showing them my vices. First, I give them the "smoke test" by smoking a cigarette in front of them to guage their reaction, and if it's neutral or positive, and they still seem interested, they've passed the test. Then, I give them the "drink test" by ordering a drink somewhere (i.e. bar, restaurant, etc.), to see if they mind that I drink in moderation. Then, I give them the "weed test" by casually bringing up the subject in conversation to let them know I smoke weed in a roundabout way. If they pass all three tests and don't seem to care if I do those things, then we're good to go. If they fail the tests by showing any sign of disapproval, we're done. The date's over.

This seems somewhat useful as I'm not into dating smokers, of any kind. Friendship is another matter.

No. Which is why I am writing about it. I have exhausted my "vanilla gay sex" knowledge in my erotica and it's time to start branching out to other things.

PM me if you find yourself needing resource materials …

Since this came up in the Andreus thread, I'll repeat it here.

I've lied about something here on JUB. Repeatedly. On purpose.

Lex

You're covered in tattoos, aren't you?


My confession: For the longest time, I thought I was out as bisexual to a section of my family (my mom included), but it turns out that I'm not. I'm not exactly sure what happened.

 

[xbuzzerx]

Actually there is a jubber I kind of worry..and I wish I can pm him over something but it seems he's acting tough/unbothered while a guy he likes acting like a jerk..
I really want to ask/make sure over this thing, but unsure..

yeah we can talk "hush hush" about someone if we care/caring/loving/cruishin and other positive feelings
I still practice what I preach...

You should just do it... talking about it in hush hush won't get to the root of whatever it is.

 

[G-Lexington]

UGH! If I knew then what I know now. I would have been reading left and right. lol

I read left right and center.

Lex

 

[maxpowr9]

The asshat reviving years old threads should get a suspension for that nonsense. Hell, most other forums put a moratorium of three months on threads and look down on people that bump them unless they contribute positive substance to them. I know that is squabbling over intricacies and it's a nuanced thing.

 

[ChickenGuy]

^ I noticed that too. He's blatantly throwing up old threads that Andreus made in 2006 for NO apparent reason.

If he's trying to make a point then I wish he'd just say what it was instead of being so stupidly cryptic.

 

[pat grimshaw]

I confess I don't understand the ill-feeling against threads from the past. Today becomes yesterday everyday. I don't think all of us progress or improve daily.

 

[xbuzzerx]

I confess I don't understand the ill-feeling against threads from the past. Today becomes yesterday everyday. I don't think all of us progress or improve daily.

Yup the first time I got scolded in a forum for "necroing a thread" (I'd never even heard of the term) I was shocked people get mad over such things. It was a thread still on the first page, though it was 2 or 3 months since the last reply. But the mod still scolded me that it's not appreciated and blah blah. Never really knew why.

 

[G-Lexington]

I'm drinking. That's not unusual for JUBbers in general but it is for me. I got a bottle of Cuarenta y Tres awhile ago, but it's really sweet and the vanilla is pretty powerful. (Both things you think I'd enjoy.) So on a whim, I decided to toddy it - three parts hot water to one part Licor 43.

Damn, this is good. Someone come share this with me.

Lex

 

[Adrock-JD]

Slip a note in his locker.

We have lockers? Dammit, why aren't I notified of these things!

 

[G-Lexington]

Of course it's selfish. As I said, it was high school. At EC, I see kids discussing relationship solely from the point of self. "How do I get a boyfriend?" "How do I make the popular kid like me?" "How do I make the hot guy want to date me?" "How do I convince her to break up with her girlfirend and date me?" It's as if the other people aren't people at all. They're puzzles, rebuses to be worked out...or "end bosses" that can be overcome with the right combination of buttons pressed on the controller. Any complexity on the part of the other leads to massive frustration and more questions. "Argh! He's so confusing!" "What does he WANT?!" "Why can't I figure him out?!" As if they're not supposed to be complex human beings but one-characteristic characters like Cookie Monster or Pig Pen. And I'm just as likely to see it here as EC, where one would think time and experience would start moving people beyond that way of thinkng.

I ran into some acquaintances recently, and their behavior seemed a bit unusual. It suddenly occurred to me that I think they're emulating me. It would be flattering, but my main thought was they weren't doing it as well as I do. (That's at least double narcassist points right there!) That, or I need to rethink my game, because it wasn't enjoyable viewing.

Lex

 

[pat grimshaw]

..I think they're emulating me...

I've had men fellating me. Tonight a man was groping me at the dinner table. But not emulating me.

Were they consciously emulating you?

 

[G-Lexington]

It's hard to say. It's not like they tied a couple cloth napkins around their waist and said "Look at me - I'm a gargoyle like Lex!" (That kinda would've been fun, actually...) it was just them behaving a certain way that not only have I never seen them behave before, but a way that seems mildly out of step with the rest of their persona. It was that last bit that made me think perhaps it was a conscious effort on their part. And for all I know, they got it from someone else rather than me. But it seemed kinda Lex-like.

I'll chalk their less-than-ideal way of doing it to inexperience. Either they'll get better at it with practice, or they'll decide it's not worth maintaining. Probably the latter.

Lex

 

[pat grimshaw]

^
Oh, it was Lex-like? Fair enough, there will be time.

(BTW: My groper at the dinner table will be coming for the full meal this coming week)

 

[Native Son]

Any complexity on the part of the other leads to massive frustration and more questions. "Argh! He's so confusing!" "What does he WANT?!" "Why can't I figure him out?!"

The questioning I have no problem with. I do it all the time. Why do people do the things they do?

The idea that complexity leads to massive frustration... That I can't get behind.

 

[refujiunderground]

i never understand why other members bitch about how jub is going downhill. i personally think that they're basically being delusional and need to venture to elsewhere on the internet more often because jub is soft. over here is a nice site and i think that certain members take advantage of the niceness in here where they think they can be douchebags and won't get in trouble for it because they'll always be someone to defend them or give them a pass. that's why when i have a fallout with certain members of jub, i take a really hard look @ them and realize that they wouldn't be able to survive yet alone be taken seriously or get respect on the other web forums that i go to. it's not because of their sexual orientations which too will be used against them. it's that it's either 1. they are easy targets or 2. they basically don't realize that folks will call them out on their bs and run them off the site.

and this site is the FIRST site that i've seen which allows you to self delete. in the other forums that i go to, you don't have that option so if your ass happens to piss off the wrong member and they make a thread about you, dissing you, making fun of your pictures, call you all sorts of names, putting your personal information outthere and the whole nine, you pretty much are assed out. plus this site is strict with fighting back. if you really want to shit on somebody, you can't do so without the moderators or members stepping in telling you to chill. to tell you the truth, if i wasn't trying to tone down my anger and etc, i would have been banned here eons ago because i would have took it there like how i've done on the other forums. straight up saying whatever even as foul as it was.

this site discourages fighting. the other forum encourages it.

 

[G-Lexington]

The questioning I have no problem with. I do it all the time. Why do people do the things they do?

The idea that complexity leads to massive frustration... That I can't get behind.

It's the idea that some folks have, that other people are like characters in a TV show with a handful of defining, never-changing character traits. Let me use simple exterior characteristics. They see a guy, and they see he likes (say) going to the gym and Lady Gaga. So they think he's a gay-music-loving gym bunny. Then they see him skipping the gym and ordering an ice cream sundae, or they hear he went to a rock show or a symphony. And it, like, blows their mind, man. "What's going on? I thought I understood him, but apparently I don't!" And that's doubly true when you move it to more internal things. The party animal wants to be alone, the nerd goes out and has fun, the wallflower goes to a bathhouse for semi-anonymous sex. Yes, this stuff can seem surprising, but it shouldn't be mind-blowing. Few people are so simple that you can sum them up completely in two sentences. But there are those people who think you should be able to do that, and when people don't fit perfectly into those little boxes they built, they seem bewildered.

Lex

 

[Native Son]

It's the idea that some folks have, that other people are like characters in a TV show with a handful of defining, never-changing character traits.

Guilty of that. But, you know, sometimes the one dimension is all they give you.

 

[Native Son]

I do have to say I like what I'm reading here lately.