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Go to it Jordan. Look on the bright side of things. Nobody is asking you to date him or be with him. You could just go and meet this guy and if he's nice and not an asshole or anything then you got yourself a friend. A friend who is going through the same ordeal as you. So just relax and if things don't click just tell him the truth. Don't beat around the bush. You have nothing to lose here sir! :)

Good luck!!
 
Hi Jordan, I am new to being a member at JUB but i have been checking out the forums for a lil while and have read your posts. I want to say I think its great that you are supporting your kid and staying in his life. But i also wanted to say that i dont think that rushing into the dating scene is the answer. Everyone moves at different speeds in life and just because your ex is moving on with her life and starting to date or make you think she is dating again, doesnt mean that you have to rush out and start dating too. Take your time when the time is right to start dating you will know. And i think if your friends really know and cared about you they would understand if you said you are not ready. Maybe you should tell them that they need to be there for support and to listen and that you can handle setting up your own social life. I know some might not agree but its just the way i feel. I think you need to keep up the therapy sessions and if the aniexty that you are feeling doesnt get better maybe give your regular doc a call too. You have had a lot happen to you the last year and need to take time just for yourself and get yourself staightened out before the rest will fall in place. you need to find yourself and start to love yourself before you can expect others to love you for who you really are. Good luck and just take one day at a time .
 
First off, I just have to say it sounds like you have some of the best friends ever!!

That said, of course you're nervous.

But here's how I'd look at it. I wouldn't see it as a date. And I think maybe your friend saying it was a blind date was bit off. It sounds to me like he set it up more for you to have a person to talk to about things where he's been through it already. So I would approach it that way. It will be clear fairly quickly if he sees it this way too or not. And if not, just explain that you are not ready for true dating as of yet. But I would just look at it as an opportunity to meet a new person... and in this case, a person who probably understands a lot of what you are going through.

Despite popular knowledge, not every gay guy just wants to get in a guy's pants. I've definitely been out with guys for the sole purpose of helping them figure things out... and have been on the other end as well with guys helping me out. It is really nice to have somebody who understands what you're going through.

So I'd say, go out with the guy. (I hope the clothes you bought don't say "I'm here to sleep with you" haha). Relax, have a good time and don't worry about it.

Oh, and when you're done, come back here and tell us all how it went haha. It'll be fun!!
 
I think you should go for it.

Just relax and plan something fun. You said he's in the same sort of situation, so he's bound to be just as nervous as you are. So, get out, have fun...it seems a bit outside your comfort zone, but that's ok..it's good to be a little uncomfortable once in a while. The worst that can happen is you have a fun night out, but things just don't click...but you also might make a new friend, or want to continue dating...sounds like a pretty good deal to me.
 
Well, for me Jockboy nailed it perfectly and I really can't add more. I think your best friend is one best friend and a great guy. I hope it went well and you are feeling more relaxed.
 
okay, I've been so patient... I want to know how things went!!! haha, when you get a chance... hope it went well.
 
Sorry its been so long since i posted, things have been really hectic at work and at home. But just wanted to let you know the date went really good, he made me feel really comfortable and didnt and hasnt pushed anything on me that i am not comfortable with. We actually went out again this last weekend. Well sorry i cant post a long detailed post but like i said its been really hectic. Later Jordan
 
Congrats on your Date Jordan, and make the rest of your life less hectic :)
 
Excellent!! Glad things went well. Hope your world calms down... I definitely know the feeling and I don't have any kids haha.
 
Sounds good jordan! :) So... come on! Spill the details. What's his name? What's he like? Do you "Like" him? etc... etc...
 
Jordan, I am so happy for you. It sounds like you are comfortable and that is good, you need that now to give you space to figure things out and, not be totaly lonely while you are doing that. Keep in touch baby.
 
Just read all of this thread yesterday. WOW!

To have a date, who knows what you are (and have been) going through - that is really something.

My hopes are high for you - whatever you do. :wave:
 
Hi Jordan,

Are you okay?

axeman_jordan said:
Sorry its been so long since i posted, things have been really hectic at work and at home. But just wanted to let you know the date went really good, he made me feel really comfortable and didnt and hasnt pushed anything on me that i am not comfortable with. We actually went out again this last weekend. Well sorry i cant post a long detailed post but like i said its been really hectic. Later Jordan
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You have been going through a very hard period. I believe, that many JUBers like me would like to know how your life, problems and date are developing. Please post an update in your "Confused" thread.


Best wishes,

By-Ear
 
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