Corresponding with Guys in Russia

[mbamike]

if those stills are of him, he has access to a laptop and Skype, be it his or another person's. If he is refusing, he is likely not the person in the pics.

That is exactly what I was thinking. I googled information about dating Russian guys. Refusing to show one's face is one of the warning sighs.

Wait for the request for money.
He's probably using someone else's photos.

He has asked for money several times. He want money to help him pay for his trip to visit me; help his mother get a surgery she need because she feel down some stairs and broke her hip; then help pay his mother's funeral expenses because she died from her injuries.

Do you think the Russia's spy agency would monitor you just by being a pen-pal with one of its citizens?

Yes, gays are basically hated in Russia. It is as if their government wants the gays to leave the country.

Similar to Nigerian love scam ??

I think you may be right on this one.

 

[rareboy]

He said we could chat on Skype, but there would be no video. He uses the WiFi at a coffee shop to send me the letters. So, we never got around to actually chatting on Skype.

As to why he would pursue a relationship outside of Russia, all the guys say the same thing. It is very difficult to have a gay relationship in Russia. A gay couple was jail for one year for showing acts of affection out in public; they simply kissed.

Employers are required to fire anyone who is known to be gay. Gays can be beaten, harrassed and threatened without any recourse from the police. Life is very difficult for gays in Russia as I'm understanding it. Gays have to live hidden and be secretive about their relationships.

Here's the thing.

They aren't forced to stay in Russia. Not any more.


And yeah. It is tough being a homo in Russia.

But 99.9% of these guys are pure scam artists who know that if they can get American dollars for dangling promises..they can live like Tsars in St. Petersburg or Mockba.

They will have to live with their misery.

 

[mbamike]

If I were you, I would ignore it. It's most likely a scam, either to marry someone from the west, or to rip you off from Russia. It used to be Russian women seeking husbands, but now that gay marriage is legal in the US and most of Europe, gay guys are doing it too. At the same time, try putting yourself in their shoes: being gay in Russia (if these guys are really gay & sincerely looking for love) is very dangerous, you would do anything to escape! This reminds me of how I feel when I see someone hitching a ride that looks desperate: do I keep driving, or maybe pick up a psycho? If you do decide to stay in touch with any of these guys, take every precaution. Make it clear to them you are not wealthy, most Russians are very blunt, and they will move onto someone else if you're wasting their time. The porn star Michael Lucas made a documentary about being gay in Russia that's excellent called "Campaign Of Hate: Russia & Gay Propaganda" that's available on dvd or iTunes or Netflix, I got it through Amazon.com. Michael grew up there and had to endure being gay & Jewish!

Thanks for the information. Here's the trailer for that documentary.

 

[Kabluey]

That is exactly what I was thinking. I googled information about dating Russian guys. Refusing to show one's face is one of the warning sighs.

He has asked for money several times. He want money to help him pay for his trip to visit me; help his mother get a surgery she need because she feel down some stairs and broke her hip; then help pay his mother's funeral expenses because she died from her injuries.

Yes, gays are basically hated in Russia. It is as if their government wants the gays to leave the country.

I think you may be right on this one.

Probably best to cut all ties and ignore future approaches from that part of the world. Chances are they'd be from the same scammer.

Remember there are plenty of fish in your side of the sea too.