Dad found history on my laptop :|

[jbfan123]

i actually want the world to eat me up lol

i came in from the gym and my dad confronted me about the history on my laptop (should have deleted but forgot) and asked me all about it, and i'm a private person and haven't come out yet to more than 2 or 3 friends and it was so uncomfortable! he said i have no 'gay qualities' at all which makes it strange, which is true as i'm just a lads lad really

it's so weird because i don't even know how to deal with myself nevermind with my parents knowing! i feel like they'll act differently towards me even though they probably wont.


i don't know why i'm posting this, it just helps me deal with a very awkward afternoon.

at 21 years old it's all very hard lol

 

[alley]

So, what did you tell him?


In the long run it may be the best thing for you, though. Believe me when I tell you I am so much happier being out.

 

[jdbadboy]

Is it your laptop? I think I would ask him to respect your privacy and not to snoop around. If he had any questions he could have asked you.

 

[jbfan123]

So, what did you tell him?


In the long run it may be the best thing for you, though. Believe me when I tell you I am so much happier being out.

i was just like 'errrr, yeah' didn't really know what else to say! he kept asking me if i had anything to talk about and i didn't really, i mean what else is there to say? lol

 

[jbfan123]

Is it your laptop? I think I would ask him to respect your privacy and not to snoop around. If he had any questions he could have asked you.

yeah it is, but i left it on and he was looking for the address of a blog i run and couldn't remember/find it on his so went on mine which is fair enough

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>he kept asking me if i had anything to talk about and i didn't really, i mean what else is there to say? lol

You could've said "Well, I'm gay if that's what you're asking."

lol

Lex

 

[jim1959]

Sure might have saved time and some !

 

[jbfan123]

>>>he kept asking me if i had anything to talk about and i didn't really, i mean what else is there to say? lol

You could've said "Well, I'm gay if that's what you're asking."

lol

Lex

i think he realised when he found all the gay porn on my laptop to be honest haha

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, how do you think that your parents will feel about it?

The gayness. Not the porn. We all know how they're going to feel about the pron.

 

[G-Lexington]

Yeah, but it's best to have all the cards on the table, don't you think?

Lex

 

[alley]

i think he realised when he found all the gay porn on my laptop to be honest haha

There is a bit of difference though---I don't know how your relationship works with your parents but it might be a good idea to sit down and have a talk.

 

[jbfan123]

well he was asking me about it and i was just sort of admitting to it, i think he got the point and also asked if i wanted anyone knowing apart from my mum and i said no so surely he'd be meaning 'knowing that i'm gay'

but yeah, it was uncomfortable, he was cool about it and changed the subject straight away to football so i had something to talk about haha

 

[star-warrior]

^ sounds like your dad is at least tactful.

I think he's worried for you too. I don't know your community, but chances are, there are intolerant people out there in it, and as a parent, he would worry about.

 

[JB3]

well he was asking me about it and i was just sort of admitting to it, i think he got the point and also asked if i wanted anyone knowing apart from my mum and i said no so surely he'd be meaning 'knowing that i'm gay'

but yeah, it was uncomfortable, he was cool about it and changed the subject straight away to football so i had something to talk about haha

To be honest, it sounds like he knows, but was trying to get you to say it, instead of him asking point blank 'are you gay?'

I had a similar situation with my parents. It'll become less uncomfortable pretty quickly and things will return to a semblance of 'normal'.

 

[jbfan123]

yeah, he was alot nicer than i thought he'd be, that's for sure!#

you're all a great bunch, thanks for replying

 

[Spiff]

A dad searching through his 21 year old son's history on his computer? Some dad.

 

[KaraBulut]

Well, how do you think that your parents will feel about it?

Yeah, but it's best to have all the cards on the table, don't you think?

If all things are equal, yes. But when parents are providing a roof over your head, you have to think about these things. You can't play poker if one person has all the cards.

well he was asking me about it and i was just sort of admitting to it, i think he got the point and also asked if i wanted anyone knowing apart from my mum and i said no so surely he'd be meaning 'knowing that i'm gay'

but yeah, it was uncomfortable, he was cool about it and changed the subject straight away to football so i had something to talk about haha

Give him a few days to process everything and then let him know you're willing to talk about it.

Better to deal with the discomfort of the gay issue than to wait until you get a boyfriend.

 

[wastingmymind]

He still lives under his dad. Now if ashyclub was in his thirties, it's not ok for his dad to look. But the person who pays the rent rules the house to a certain extent.

 

[bankside]

He still lives under his dad. Now if ashyclub was in his thirties, it's not ok for his dad to look. But the person who pays the rent rules the house to a certain extent.

i will never treat my kid that way. families are not feudal systems with lords and serfs.

 

[payit4ward]

yeah it is, but i left it on and he was looking for the address of a blog i run and couldn't remember/find it on his so went on mine which is fair enough

no not fair enough that is why we refer to them as personal computers i would be pissed left on or not if someone took the liberty of getting on my computer for any reason. but it would probably be best for all involved if you tell your parents that you are gay.