Do people ever forget that you are gay?

[MMMonsterBoy]

Just wondering, do they?

I have this one friend from high school who goes to the same university as I. She used to ask me if I was gay all the time, hinting at it whenever we hung out. Well when she my relationship change on Facebook, she asked me if I was gay. I told her it was legit. Flash-forward to today and it is like I never told her. It is hilarious. She has gay friends so it isn't like she is forgetting to just forget, but either way I just laugh.

Does this happen with you?

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

yeah
or no give a shit
or WOT?
or
ans more oars

thankyou

 

[TheOscar]

I think it's good friends or family will forget you're gay. Your gayness is not what defines you, anyways.

 

[palbert]

Yes. I don't think all that many people even think about anyone's sexuality unless it is specifically raised as an issue. I do not think gays are the subject of as many conversations as we sometimes think.

 

[MMMonsterBoy]

I think it's good friends or family will forget you're gay. Your gayness is not what defines you, anyways.

Yes, it is pretty refreshing actually not to have someone remind me that I am gay. Though with her she acts as though I am straight, asking me about girls and whatnot. It is comical to me.

 

[Justice]

I think it's good friends or family will forget you're gay. Your gayness is not what defines you, anyways.

This, exactly. I get treated differently by some guys I know because I'm gay, like we're a different species or some shit.

 

[SLOPPYSECONDS]

just a think one day couples keep Bi folk as their handy jobs ans folk be call jobbas one day

or maybe bi couples keep straight folks ta keep ums tagetha ans one day folk be a call railtracks

or one day stable dudes get ride horses ans get call jockeys

or

anyway is amazin how humans manage thousands a years ago ans not even got umbrella

thankyou

 

[pai mei]

i dont think so, well, maybe acquaintances. but not really.

i usually get people who refuse to believe im gay tho, particularly if someone else mentions it instead of me saying 'im gay', as if its so incredible that it musnt be true!

but anyways whatever! im over it!

 

[TickTockMan]

My mother does that a lot. One time she argued with my eleven year old nephew when he said one day she may have a son in law. She old him she had two sons so how could she. We just made fun of her.

The irony is my mother, brother (I don’t think she knows about him though) and I are all pansexual. She knows I prefer guys, but she still argued with my nephew about it.

 

[wonderwort]

MMonster.....you friend..wants you to be straight...

and if she thinks if she "reminds"....you enough you will be straight.

I have a friend at work like that at work........

My older brother , knowing that Im gay, has tried to introduce me to girls.......hoping that I will somehow "see the light..."

LMAO.

 

[rotary]

Not really, but some of my straight friends will be talking and say something like "that's gay" and then catch themselves and give me a glance, thinking their absent mindednesss might have offended me. I never get touchy with it though, they're all good people.

 

[jensu846]

Not really, but some of my straight friends will be talking and say something like "that's gay" and then catch themselves and give me a glance, thinking their absent mindednesss might have offended me. I never get touchy with it though, they're all good people.

yep, that happens to me too. one guy who is married that I play with, always says "thats gay" when we're at the bar with a group of friends, then will say, "oh sorry "too me. I think its too hide any speculation that hes gay & being seen with an out of the closet gay guy. Pretty fucked up, but he knows I will never out him or tell his wife.

 

[yummylongsword]

Not really, but some of my straight friends will be talking and say something like "that's gay" and then catch themselves and give me a glance, thinking their absent mindednesss might have offended me. I never get touchy with it though, they're all good people.

That would annoy me. I wouldn't be offended by that if they just said it, but if they apologized every time but continued to do it I would be offended, because they obviously think it's inappropriate but continue to do it anyway.

It's part of that "intention" thing with insults. If they don't think of it as being an insult, I don't either. If they do, and apologize and never do it again, then I'm fine. But if they know it's insulting and continue to do it over and over, that would piss me off.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

Yes. Like Naughty stated though, it's usually not on the forefront of their consciousness, which, to me, is great.

Don't know about most people, but I don't like the moniker of being "the gay one", even if I do love being gay.

 

[MoltenRock III]

I think it's good friends or family will forget you're gay. Your gayness is not what defines you, anyways.

Everyone in the closet says that. I said it too when I was in the closet.

 

[coloradobottom]

A straight friend asked me one day if he washed his cock really good, would I suck his dick? I responded heck yes I would!!! He blushed and said, oh shit, I forgot your gay.
Second line to the joke- after a person says no way--"What are you a dirty cocksucker then?" And I replied, I' suck your dick dirty, clean or anyway you want to feed it to me. He blushed again.

 

[Darren1989]

I don't tell everyone I'm Gay cause quite frankly it's none of there Business. I tell people I'm Gay who I know who don't a shit about my sexuality ,other than that most people just assume I'm straight which is like soooooooooooooo not the case.

 

[sixthson]

I forget I'm gay all the time.

My sexuality doesn't occupy my brain space all the time so why should it be any different for those around me?

When I'm in bed at night, I don't think "Oh, good, we're having gay sex", either.

 

[bendted]

I'm reminded daily that I'm not quite whole, according to the heterosexual rule book.

 

[sixthson]

I'm reminded daily that I'm not quite whole, according to the heterosexual rule book.

They can remind you but you don't have to believe it, do you?