All right, I’m going to speak up here.
Number one, you guys are right. Rarely is a straight guy going to actively look for forums like these. Unless we’re curious, we’re not going to actively go out and search for gay porn; let alone try to strike up some conversation with a bunch oversexed homosexuals. And on the surface, that’s exactly what this site looks like: a site dedicated to the proliferation and sharing of gay porn between really horny gay guys.
However…
I did find this site by accident while, admittedly, doing a casual porn search on Google. On the second page, a listing by the name of “Straight pornmovie....but with a 'wtf fuck kinda gay' moment” showed up. So I simply said, “okay, this I gotta check out…”
So I click in and see that it’s a thread. A lot of it turned out to be nonsense. I clicked one level out and noticed that it was the “Straight and Bi Dudes” sub-forum of a gay website. I’ll admit that I was curious as to what was being discussed, though I instantly thought I wasn’t going to find anything beyond people sharing links to pornography.
Boy was I wrong.
I browsed through, noting several threads that had actual discussions that went beyond simply throwing porn around. People begging for advice on some serious issues; hot topics regarding the nature of sexuality and how it’s cultivated; figuring out what makes the mind tick. Basically, these were interesting discussions that don’t require the readers to be “gay” or “bisexual” in order to be engaged in them. And frankly, reading around and offering my own council on these discussions are the only reasons why I still poke my head in every once in a while. Yes, I see a lot of the content revolves around gay porn, and many of the members have naked and explicit pictures of themselves or their idols – but please, it’s not the first time I’ve seen a penis. It doesn’t frighten me. Though, for the record, I don’t browse any of the other forums on this site. Just this one.
Anyway, the fact of the matter is that there are discussions that can happen regardless of the participants’ sexual preferences. We’re all people, for god’s sake. We live different lifestyles, but we all live with the same [or at least similarly analogous] issues. And if I can find this place by accident, but stick around to chat with the boys, then statistically, there are more open minded straight guys who have done the same.
There is a major pattern that I’m noticing, though. Yes, this is a “gay” website. A gay website geared towards sex. However, even on this gay website, there’s a tiny corner that supposedly welcomes guys who swing both ways, or who proclaim themselves as straight altogether. Yet when the latter shows up, his claim to being straight comes into question.
“How can a straight guy find himself on a gay forum? He can’t possibly really be straight.” “Dude, you’re just kidding yourself. Man up and just admit you love the cock already! If you’re man enough, I’ll show you personally…”
Frankly, it’s the annoying comments like these that keep most of the legitimate straight guys who curiously lurk around from actually participating in any kind of discussion, or wanting to ask questions. On a site called “Just Us Boys”, in a sub-forum dedicated to “Straight and Bi Dudes”, they’re not even given the benefit of the doubt and feel that they’re unwelcomed because they haven’t supposedly come to grips with their inner closeted demons. And really now, that’s not very fair, is it?
These are biased, preconceived notions – assumptions. And you know what happens when you “assume”, don’t you? I mean, I had my own assumptions when I fist got here, but I discovered that this place was much more than just a hub for the oversexed gays. And I’m kind of ashamed I thought that, to tell you the truth.
So I’ll end with this: there’s a reason why human beings are the way we are. We’re gifted with “intelligence” (some more than others) and free will to govern our actions. We all stem from the same embryo with the same capacity for intellectual potential, no matter the person’s gender or ethnicities. And it’s this intellectual potential that grants us the power to go beyond our base instincts of survival and reproduction. If we choose, we don’t have to be slaves to instinct, where as lesser creatures know of nothing else. In other words, we don’t have to let fucking dictate our lives.
So yes, I’m straight. If you don’t believe it, then the problem is yours. I don’t know any of you, so I have no urge to prove anything to anybody. But if the discussions are interesting, juicy, and thought provoking – or if someone asks for help, I’m not going to let a few pictures of erections get in the way of my personal intellectual growth.
Bottom line: more straight guys may be passing through here than you think.
Number one, you guys are right. Rarely is a straight guy going to actively look for forums like these. Unless we’re curious, we’re not going to actively go out and search for gay porn; let alone try to strike up some conversation with a bunch oversexed homosexuals. And on the surface, that’s exactly what this site looks like: a site dedicated to the proliferation and sharing of gay porn between really horny gay guys.
However…
I did find this site by accident while, admittedly, doing a casual porn search on Google. On the second page, a listing by the name of “Straight pornmovie....but with a 'wtf fuck kinda gay' moment” showed up. So I simply said, “okay, this I gotta check out…”
So I click in and see that it’s a thread. A lot of it turned out to be nonsense. I clicked one level out and noticed that it was the “Straight and Bi Dudes” sub-forum of a gay website. I’ll admit that I was curious as to what was being discussed, though I instantly thought I wasn’t going to find anything beyond people sharing links to pornography.
Boy was I wrong.
I browsed through, noting several threads that had actual discussions that went beyond simply throwing porn around. People begging for advice on some serious issues; hot topics regarding the nature of sexuality and how it’s cultivated; figuring out what makes the mind tick. Basically, these were interesting discussions that don’t require the readers to be “gay” or “bisexual” in order to be engaged in them. And frankly, reading around and offering my own council on these discussions are the only reasons why I still poke my head in every once in a while. Yes, I see a lot of the content revolves around gay porn, and many of the members have naked and explicit pictures of themselves or their idols – but please, it’s not the first time I’ve seen a penis. It doesn’t frighten me. Though, for the record, I don’t browse any of the other forums on this site. Just this one.
Anyway, the fact of the matter is that there are discussions that can happen regardless of the participants’ sexual preferences. We’re all people, for god’s sake. We live different lifestyles, but we all live with the same [or at least similarly analogous] issues. And if I can find this place by accident, but stick around to chat with the boys, then statistically, there are more open minded straight guys who have done the same.
There is a major pattern that I’m noticing, though. Yes, this is a “gay” website. A gay website geared towards sex. However, even on this gay website, there’s a tiny corner that supposedly welcomes guys who swing both ways, or who proclaim themselves as straight altogether. Yet when the latter shows up, his claim to being straight comes into question.
“How can a straight guy find himself on a gay forum? He can’t possibly really be straight.” “Dude, you’re just kidding yourself. Man up and just admit you love the cock already! If you’re man enough, I’ll show you personally…”
Frankly, it’s the annoying comments like these that keep most of the legitimate straight guys who curiously lurk around from actually participating in any kind of discussion, or wanting to ask questions. On a site called “Just Us Boys”, in a sub-forum dedicated to “Straight and Bi Dudes”, they’re not even given the benefit of the doubt and feel that they’re unwelcomed because they haven’t supposedly come to grips with their inner closeted demons. And really now, that’s not very fair, is it?
These are biased, preconceived notions – assumptions. And you know what happens when you “assume”, don’t you? I mean, I had my own assumptions when I fist got here, but I discovered that this place was much more than just a hub for the oversexed gays. And I’m kind of ashamed I thought that, to tell you the truth.
So I’ll end with this: there’s a reason why human beings are the way we are. We’re gifted with “intelligence” (some more than others) and free will to govern our actions. We all stem from the same embryo with the same capacity for intellectual potential, no matter the person’s gender or ethnicities. And it’s this intellectual potential that grants us the power to go beyond our base instincts of survival and reproduction. If we choose, we don’t have to be slaves to instinct, where as lesser creatures know of nothing else. In other words, we don’t have to let fucking dictate our lives.
So yes, I’m straight. If you don’t believe it, then the problem is yours. I don’t know any of you, so I have no urge to prove anything to anybody. But if the discussions are interesting, juicy, and thought provoking – or if someone asks for help, I’m not going to let a few pictures of erections get in the way of my personal intellectual growth.
Bottom line: more straight guys may be passing through here than you think.
