Do You Believe In Smacking Children ?

[NotHardUp1]

It made me what I am today.

Er, whoopass and spankings, not the same.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

I don't believe in teaching children that violence is an acceptable solution to problems.

Agreed.

I've known a lot of adults who insist that getting beaten by their parents "never did me any harm" and every one of them are fucked up, broken, messed up, warped assholes. The passive aggressive types who love to snipe from the darkness. The really damaged ones. You can spot them from miles away.

And yep. People will claim that it didn't do any harm but the same people in my family said this about my Grandfather but clearly held resentments against him.

 

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[peeonme]

Smacking, slapping, hitting and such serve two purposes.
1. It allows a lazy parent to deal with their child without much thought or effort. You see instant results, a crying frightened child in pain will beg for mercy and promise "to be good".
2. It allows an angry parent to get even. This speaks for it's self.
Physical contact should only be used to protect the child and to express love for the child.

 

[tarallucci]

Looking back at my teenage and prior, it seems like I survived a war. However, I don't think smacking solves much, and neither lecturing courteously sometimes.

There are other ways that are not physical with which parents can point out the mistakes to their children and inflict punishment. First of all, as a parent I would try to be the best friend of my children. Then another thing is that I would make it so that if they broke the rules they would feel awkward and realize by themselves.

When they are young you cannot make them understand, so I would somehow scare them a bit or let them cry until they have no tears and mock them. By the time they are grown up they should be responsible enough... otherwise it gets complicated to correct their behavior.

In case they'd turn out to be quite the rebels... then it will be an mma fight

I guess Vannie would threaten them by giving them stuffed cabbage for dinner, and lunch, and breakfast.

 

[Vannie]

I guess Vannie would threaten them by giving them stuffed cabbage for dinner, and lunch, and breakfast.

Damn little snot nose brats tring to steal my cabbage! And get the hell off my lawn!

 

[NotHardUp1]

It is both unfair an inaccurate to brand every parent or teacher as "lazy" who ever used corporal punishment. Many or even most of the best teachers in past eras as well as conscientious parents used it.

Until certain child development theory took a position against it, it was absolutely the universal practice, but even then, some used it little and others excessively.

 

[eastofeden]

I just had this conversation last week with someone in the 3-D world who doesn't believe in ever snacking his son.

I agree with him for the most part..but if I needed to teach my child a lesson that could be life/death...like running into the street...and nice explanations didn't work...I would smack him or her if words didn't do the trick..and that is the only time.

I think it is stupid to smack your kids all the time though because it doesn't mean much after awhile except that you are an angry asshole who is taking out your rage on your kids. I think it is much better to save any kind of smacking for something that really matters..so it has some relevance...and hopefully something they remember.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

When they are young you cannot make them understand, so I would somehow scare them a bit or let them cry until they have no tears and mock them. By the time they are grown up they should be responsible enough... otherwise it gets complicated to correct their behavior.

Jesus that sounds like great way to torture a child. Scare them into crying and mock them.....

 

[GreyUnderscore]

I see spanking as a last resort tool. After telling the kid many, many times not to do something and why s/he shouldn't do something and s/he still does it then a spank on the butt is coming. As the kid gets older the need to spank him or her decreases.

But it all comes down to the child.

 

[jbrown329]

Ever been to the grocery store and watched kids running up/down the aisles? Watch them grabbing things off the shelves that they want and throwing a temper tantrum when they can't have it? Especially at the check out stand and they want candy. Guess what? All children are like that today.

When I was that age and pulled that shit, I got a couple swats on the ass (bare hand). It didn't take long before I learned not to do that. The swats weren't hard enough to hurt me. They were to get my attention.

I was at the grocery store yesterday. There was a couple there with two small children. Oldest one was probably 6, youngest was probably 3. The 3yr old was standing in the grocery cart. There was bread and rolls in the cart. He stomped on them. The dad said something (I couldn't hear it) and the boy replied "so?". Guess what? He stomped on the bread again.

So there was no lesson learned. Now that boy knows that he can do crap like that and get away with it.

The spankings and abuse I grew up with didn't make me a violent person. I don't get physical (unless I absolutely have no other alternative) with people.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

^ Really? I have never seen children act like that? If they parents can only stop there kids acting mental like that by hitting them, I don't really see them being good parents.

I don't really see spanking as abuse, just the inability of adults to communicate with their children in any sort of way.

Then again, I am not a parent (and neither are most of us on here) so its pretty difficult to judge either way.

 

[ShadowCat]

I firmly believe in it today because kids are little entitled panty waist shits. I'm not talking a beating just A (1, ONE) smack on the ass. I got that and I turned out fine I have respect for authority *cough Ferguson* And know how to behave in public. Fuck this shit of you'll damage the child I think you're doing more harm in not correcting bad behavior. You know not all children have ADHD in my day it was called being a kid. I got a friend on FB she already has her 7 year old on meds and I read that just like WTF? If people would put down the I(diot) phone they would see what their doing to the world, that they need to discipline their children and actually be a parent.

 

[Vannie]

Elroy got spankings,and he turned out fine.

 

[JohnnyAnger]

I firmly believe in it today because kids are little entitled panty waist shits. I'm not talking a beating just A (1, ONE) smack on the ass. I got that and I turned out fine I have respect for authority *cough Ferguson* And know how to behave in public. Fuck this shit of you'll damage the child I think you're doing more harm in not correcting bad behavior. You know not all children have ADHD in my day it was called being a kid. I got a friend on FB she already has her 7 year old on meds and I read that just like WTF? If people would put down the I(diot) phone they would see what their doing to the world, that they need to discipline their children and actually be a parent.

I don't think its parents who truly want the drugs for their kids. More trusted physicians and drug companies telling everyone that they need it.

Also fuck the idea of letting cops off the hook for murdering people, because kids aren't spanked.

 

[rareboy]

Elroy got spankings,and he turned out fine.

hmmmmm......

Where has dear Elroy been?

I'm assuming he's been tied up lately?

 

[jbrown329]

^ Really? I have never seen children act like that? If they parents can only stop there kids acting mental like that by hitting them, I don't really see them being good parents.

I don't really see spanking as abuse, just the inability of adults to communicate with their children in any sort of way.

Then again, I am not a parent (and neither are most of us on here) so its pretty difficult to judge either way.

Because today's parents were not taught discipline either. The 'don't spank' crap started in the 70s and it shows. Kids today are the most spoiled brats I've ever seen. They are self centered and care about nothing but their damn cellphone.

I was taught to hold the door open for anyone behind me (man, woman, kid). If I was in front of an elderly/disabled person, I would open the door for them and go in behind them. Today's kids? Nope. Let the door slap the person behind them in the face. And it's gotten worse with every generation. Yes, you do occasionally find a courteous teenager. But most aren't.

 

[MakeDigitalLove]

Discipline is relative, physical "discipline" didn't actually insert discipline into a child, it instilled fear, The kid didn't commit the act they were being smacked for because they learned their lesson, they didn't do that again for the fear of being hit. Huge difference.

 

[jbrown329]

I never felt fear when I got a spanking. I felt fear when my grandmother grabbed my by my hair and a cheek of my ass, pull me out of bed and bounce me off the floor. Now, THAT is fear.

 

[Soilwork]

Wow, that must explain why i don't like geriatic formuliac porn then, it all makes sense now.

Oh, you're trying to hurt my feelings. That's cute.

But it DOES prove me right. Like your mother picking up a chair and chasing you around hitting you with it... you grabbed what you thought was the closest weapon to use against me. You think making silly comments about my work is going to hurt my feelings me. It doesn't.

My movies kick ass. And they're not generic at all. But you're reacting just the way your mommy taught you.

So... I was right.