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Do You Ever Feel Ugly?

Fit and healthy is much more attractive than good looking but unhealthy.
 
Oh who cares about your jailbait days?


We're talking about the here and now :p
 
it's funny how i looked decent with the beard but when i shave off damn near all my facial hair how different i look. my eyes are all big.
 
I feel ugly, fat, and out of shape. I feel inadequate, and inferior due to my small "package".

Life really isn't worth living when I feel sad, lonely, and unhappy. Had a really bad spell the end of last week, and over the weekend. I did think about suicide a lot for several days. I'm probably not going to feel like that for very long, that intensely. I just can't stand it for long.
What does going through life like that accomplish?
 
Simply stated................................yes, we all do at certain times.....
 
birddog7 said:
I feel ugly, fat, and out of shape. I feel inadequate, and inferior due to my small "package".

Life really isn't worth living when I feel sad, lonely, and unhappy. Had a really bad spell the end of last week, and over the weekend. I did think about suicide a lot for several days. I'm probably not going to feel like that for very long, that intensely. I just can't stand it for long.
What does going through life like that accomplish?
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even though you're depressed right now to the point where what i'm telling you might not mean anything to you but hear me out on this, man.

you're alive. you may not be feeling good right now with your life but you're still alive which means that there's a chance for a better tomorrow. hell, fuck tomorrow. right now, you're still alive and you're breathing. you have all your limbs, you can walk around, you have your health, and you're still functioning right. there's people outthere that have less than what you have and are making the best out of a bad situation. you may not be happy with what you have breh but appreciate what you have. you never know what's next around the corner. you might end up with a stroke and you'll start wish that you're experiencing what you're depressed about now. things are bad but they could be worse.
 
refujiunderground said:
even though you're depressed right now to the point where what i'm telling you might not mean anything to you but hear me out on this, man.

you're alive. you may not be feeling good right now with your life but you're still alive which means that there's a chance for a better tomorrow. hell, fuck tomorrow. right now, you're still alive and you're breathing. you have all your limbs, you can walk around, you have your health, and you're still functioning right. there's people outthere that have less than what you have and are making the best out of a bad situation. you may not be happy with what you have breh but appreciate what you have. you never know what's next around the corner. you might end up with a stroke and you'll start wish that you're experiencing what you're depressed about now. things are bad but they could be worse.
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Believe me, I know things could be worse. I think about my mother who is in a nursing home with advanced Alzheimer's.

I worry all the time about being hit with a serious illness. At my age, I just expect it any day, and this just adds to the grief...
 
birddog7 said:
Believe me, I know things could be worse. I think about my mother who is in a nursing home with advanced Alzheimer's.

I worry all the time about being hit with a serious illness. At my age, I just expect it any day, and this just adds to the grief...
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well, if that's the case, i think you need to shake it off and learn how to be happy. that's the strange thing. everybody thinks being happy or smiling, at least here in jersey, makes someone crazy or a weirdo. :##: i know it's ironic of me saying this because i look pissed off in my pictures that i posted on here or sound or am angry. i know i sound like i'm the angriest, maddest guy in the world when i talk or say things on here but back at my old job, there were people believe it or not that asked me why did i smile while i was working. :confused: i know my job wasn't really smile worthy but i was trying to make the best out of a bad situation and to top it off, being or acting like i was happy with what i was doing pretty much brought positive shit towards me most of the time shockingly enough. that's what shocked me.

so i guess it is true that if you think and act negative, negative things come towards you. if you think and act positive, then positive things come towards you. maybe you should try that. i know i should try that myself but i know it's going to take work with me since i have a negative way of thinking already. it's worth a shot.
 
I have never considered myself Ugly. I used to be (in retrospective) pretty cute! I just didn't realize it back then.

Today, not cute anymore, but that's part of aging. But I'm still good looking.

Despite that, I have frequently thought I am inferior in some way. There were always guys that had the body, the face, the hair, the tan, the muscles..... etc. We never see ourselves as we really are, but usually worse.

But I do agree on one thing..... I (and many other people) just don't photograph well.
 
I recommend this for day wear.

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I'd post some shit about how I look in the mirror every day to see if my soul is as attractive as possible by at my age, I don't give a Fuck.

Just put red handkerchiefs over the boudoir lamps and avoid mirrors over the bed.
 
there's times where i think i look ugly and times where i think i look hot but i don't dwell on it to the point where i weep, cry, and can't get out of bed or let how i look run my life. that's just foolish especially if someone else thinks i'm ugly or hot or whatever. their opinions about me don't matter. it's about how i feel about myself. i'm learning to look at myself in the mirror and accept my looks. i may not think i'm the best looking guy BUT i know i'm okay looking to the point where i know i can grab someone's attention.
 
there's times where i think i look ugly and times where i think i look hot but i don't dwell on it to the point where i weep, cry, and can't get out of bed or let how i look run my life. that's just foolish especially if someone else thinks i'm ugly or hot or whatever. their opinions about me don't matter. it's about how i feel about myself. i'm learning to look at myself in the mirror and accept my looks. i may not think i'm the best looking guy BUT i know i can grab someone's attention and if you can do that, that speaks volumes. as long as people notice you or your name rings bells, you're good.
 
When I was younger I thought I had a face like a box of smashed frogs. The older I get the more I seem to grow into my looks, that or I'm comfortable with them, or I just no longer care what I look like.
 
I felt like that when I was anorexic. But never anymore. * unless I just am (i.e. Hungover, after a workout, etc.) and the off day when I'm depressed for some reason.
 
Huntneo(PT) said:
Plenty of people are attracted to those who look completely different than they do. I'm one of those people. But I know that finding their qualities "hot" "attractive" "appealing", etc. doesn't make me any less so.
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My confidence increased exponentially when I grew to understand this. I have a very lean body type, and even though I work out five times a week and have built muscle over time, I still have an incredibly low body fat percentage. I know that for many, low body fat plus muscle definition is 'the ideal', but it's not for me; I like bulk. Whether it be muscle or fat, I have a thing for bigger guys. With my body type though, it's virtually impossible for me to achieve that. So instead, I focus on staying healthy and achieving the best version of my body that I possibly can. Sometimes when I look at my body in the mirror I still find myself wishing I was bulkier, and I don't think that feeling is ever going to go away, but I no longer allow it to define my sense of self-worth as it once did.

You may think you're ugly, but there are guys out there who will think you are the hottest thing in existence. And they may fantasize about you. You never know. Don't count yourself out.
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Seriously. So many beautiful people in this thread calling themselves unattractive. I went out a few times with a guy who was only slightly chubby, but was so painfully self-conscious about it. I thought he was so cute and sweet, but he thought I was 'out of his league' just because I had a muscular physique. Ordinarily I'd take that as a compliment, but he couldn't seem to let it go, and was also uncomfortable being touched due to self-consciousness. His unease made it incredibly difficult to form a connection.

On some level I understand, as I still don't really like being touched at the hip by anyone unless I really trust them (a residual anxiety from being very skinny growing up). I just wish he, and also many others, could see themselves how I see them, if only briefly; just to understand that even if not in their own, through my eyes they are beautiful.
 
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