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Do you ever worry you've offended someone unwittingly?

Christopher123

Christopher123

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I think I've pissed a couple of people off in the last few days, but I'm not positive about this.

Subtle hints are telling me I'm not in 'good standing' right now and maybe I'm just an oblivious idiot, but I really don't know what I've done to upset them. If I've even upset them. Maybe I'm just paranoid.

I know the rational thing would be to just ask them. But then if I haven't done anything to upset them (again, possible paranoia that means nothing may be setting in) I'm afraid I'm going to over-dramatize and create a situation that may not even exist.

Call it intuition, but I think I've done or said a few things that kinda peeved a couple of people. But then I'm an extremely overly-paranoid sort anyway and I always think I've done something to piss somebody off. Like maybe I said the wrong things or didn't say something I should have. Stuff like that.

Do you ever feel this way? And if so, what do you do about it?
 
T-Zero said:
I usually just ask them or otherwise simply let them know I'm concerned I may have unwittingly offended them without meaning to so am checking to make sure.
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Yeah. I suppose that's what I should do. And normally I do, I prefer to 'face' a situation and get everything out into the open. But then if I'm wrong... well, you know. I confronted someone once with this same issue and they were like, "Gawd, you really need to stop being so paranoid and thinking everything is about YOU."

So that's kind of shied me away from doing that again :(
 
I sometimes will ask a general question, such as is everything okay with you. Then that opens the door for them to tell me they are annoyed with me or nothing is wrong.
 
I started to believe that if I asked someone a certain question, or even tried to talk to them that it would be bother to them. People are just in bad moods, and a lot of the times I feel I offend them.
 
scrub22 said:
I sometimes will ask a general question, such as is everything okay with you. Then that opens the door for them to tell me they are annoyed with me or nothing is wrong.
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Well to ONE person I did that and they ignored me.

To the other person (man, I'm just fucking up all over the place lately, lol) I'm not sure and, again, I don't wanna be told to get over myself.

:(
 
Thanks for the answers, guys.

I'm gone for now, heading out to the bar. I may check in late tonight and I appreciate whatever input any of you may have.

(*8*)
 
I seem to have a tendency to piss (certain) people off even when that was not my intention. #-o

But you've never offended me, Christopher, wittingly or unwittingly. (*8*)

Actually, it's extremely hard to really offend me, but I was amazed at the number of people who seemed to think that something they had said was responsible for me deleting my account a while back. :confused:
 
*Hoody* said:
I was amazed at the number of people who seemed to think that something they had said was responsible for me deleting my account a while back. :confused:
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Yes, I was one of them, I didn't sleep for a week. :(

Pfft!
 
at any given time, about 80% of the people in my world want me dead.

It's kinda fun.
 
I always worry that Elvin is pissed at me if he doesn't repsond to my PMs :(

It's usually just paranoia, though. How I love my Elvin. Mmm Mmm MMM!
 
Chris, you are one the most considerate guys here. I'm sure people know that and should understand that you are not the type to intentionally offend people.
 
I feel that way quite a bit lately. Like people are discussing something negative about me and yet refuse to tell me to my face. It's unsettling.
 
NOPE, if I have inadvertantly offended someone and they don't tell me up front about it I consider it THEIR problem and I couldn't care less. Don't lose any sleep over it, if they care about you and have been offended they should be talking to you about it.
Turn it around...when you are offended by someone, what do you do? If someone offends me and I actually give a damn what they think, they know on the spot.
 
Thanks, everybody, I so appreciate what everyone has said. Seriously.

And I'm heeding some advice given in this thread as well.
 
I sometimes have things come out of my mouth that weren't quite what I had in mind. Usually it is something I intended in good nature or jest. I can usually see it in their eyes (if they didn't get it) and then explain my botched attempt at humor.

If you are getting intuitive feelings about something I would say go with that.
 
Chris:

If you had the rep for being a mean guy, then you should be concerned about your "unwittingly" doing anything bad...........but you are NOT a mean guy!

So,,,,,,,,just KOOL it, K?

If you offended anyone, they know you for NOT being the type to say bad things and they will NOT hold it against you!

I also think that if you said something to someone that they took as being offensive, THEY should approach you!

Quit being so paranoid!(*8*) (*8*) :kiss: :kiss:
 
I'm not sure if I ever offended someone really, but I'm so scared not to, that I keep apologizing for everything I do.
 
Chris, I think possibly offending someone is probably a much bigger deal to you than the other party. If you did even remotely offend someone, then if they really know you, they have to know it was unintentional. Try not to dwell on it so much. If the person seems 'off' a bit, just ask what's bothering them. You don't have to make it look like it's all about you. If you're the reason, they will tell you when you ask what's up.

If you want to talk about it, just pm me.
 
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