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Do you feel inadequate?

Rather ironically, I went to a burlesque show tonight, and the special (male) guest star did a routine...dressed as Lion-O from Thundercats. It was awesome. :)

Lex
 
Same guy, same outfit...but he did his routine to "Stray Cat Strut". And he took more off. :)


Lex
 
"Perfect is just an illusion created by people who always want to be disappointed in themselves."

The image in the OP doesn't make me feel inadequate, I do, because I have this ridiculous obsession with trying to be the best at everything and I feel like a failure when I'm not. On the one hand, it means I put a lot of time and work into the things that are important to me, but it also results in perpetual frustration and feelings of worthlessness and inadequacy.

This definitely applies to my physical appearance. I've gained a whole lot of muscle since I started lifting a few years ago, but every time I see my body in the mirror all I seem to focus on is imperfection. What's ridiculous is that I never hold anybody else to the same standards I set for myself. I don't give a fuck if the guy I'm with has a six pack or defined muscles, in fact if we're speaking in a strictly physical sense, I'm more attracted to men who don't have those things. But, part of me recognises that it's seen as the ideal by the majority and so I strive to attain it for myself.

I can't speak for what anybody else has to deal with (and that most certainly includes women), so the following applies to nobody but myself; but I think it would be far too convenient for me to blame He-Man for my own feelings of inadequacy, especially when those feelings apply to so many areas outside of my physical appearance alone. It's not He-Man's fault I've never felt satisfied with my body. If ripped physiques weren't seen as the ideal, they'd just be replaced with something else and I'd probably be striving to achieve that instead. It's my own burden to bear, and I'd much rather focus my energy on overcoming my obsession with perfection than fighting to change the appearance of a cartoon character.
 
G-Lexington said:
Same guy, same outfit...but he did his routine to "Stray Cat Strut". And he took more off. :)


Lex
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That awesome..well, but difference is that^ is a burlesque, it's supposed to be lewd/sexy and Dolph Lundgren- Master of the Universe? might pass for PC rating while still wearing speedo.
Well, we're still using speedo-clad performers in some of the show that require speedo/leotard for ease of movement such as circus show (Cirque du soleil?) ballet and wrestling and I dont mean commercial wrestling (WWE), their bulge are horribly disfigured/sunken #-o
 
A better question would be, "do I ever feel adequate"? I feel inadequate every day of my life. I'm ugly, old, worn out, flabby, broke, poor personality, no talent, no education, no too intelligent, and a small penis as well. I knew many years ago that my life in this world was screwed...
 
birddog7 said:
A better question would be, "do I ever feel adequate"? I feel inadequate every day of my life. I'm ugly, old, worn out, flabby, broke, poor personality, no talent, no education, no too intelligent, and a small penis as well. I knew many years ago that my life in this world was screwed...
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Yeah but you have friends.
 
You show me a gay man who says he feels adequate, and I will show you a liar. Gay man have the biggest self image problems of all because they try hardest to look perfect.
 
^ that's weird, how come one usually stumbles about guys who have a ridiculously exaggerated self-image? after your logic they may not be gay ;)
 
Corny said:
how come one usually stumbles about guys who have a ridiculously exaggerated self-image?
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I don't see how that refutes my point. Guys who do that ^ are only showing how inadequate they feel compared to those guys. And whatever the topic, you can know that whenever anyone tries too hard to be good enough, they don't feel good enough. Whatever the scenario, it's not good reasoning for decision making.
 
Birddog,
Every post you make is negative. Do you expect anyone wants to be around that? I understand what it's like to feel crappy. But if you / I / anyone else doesnt try to be pleasant, that person won't attract anything but what they give out.
 
Cumlaskan said:
You show me a gay man who says he feels adequate, and I will show you a liar. Gay man have the biggest self image problems of all because they try hardest to look perfect.
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Anybody looking at me would tell you I don't try at all to look "perfect". I've even put off getting my hair cut the last three weeks just because I've been either too busy or too lazy. (The place I get my hair cut is roughly fifty steps from my door.) And yeah, that means I'm not as attractive as I could be. But I feel totally "adequate". No, not every guy wants to have sex with me. But that's always been the case. And the ones that ARE interested in me...are interested in no small part BECAUSE I'm so at peace with myself. :)

Lex
 
Cumlaskan said:
You show me a gay man who says he feels adequate, and I will show you a liar. Gay man have the biggest self image problems of all because they try hardest to look perfect.
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Thanks for your opinion new person - thank hell you're wrong.
 
Cumlaskan said:
You show me a gay man who says he feels adequate, and I will show you a liar. Gay man have the biggest self image problems of all because they try hardest to look perfect.
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Well, I think you're full of it, and I am so convinced of that I should let you know my entire self-esteem from this moment forward depends on proving you wrong.
 
bankside said:
Well, I think you're full of it, and I am so convinced of that I should let you know my entire self-esteem from this moment forward depends on proving you wrong.
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The act of striving to prove me wrong, proves me right. :p
 
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