Do you get grossed-out by your partners skid marked shorts, when it’s your turn to do laundry?

[hotdog1846]

"Love is..."

Never saw the comic "Love is" for washing your partner's skid-marked undies, though. I think it applies!

 

[Native Son]

^Yeah, even they are not that jubby.

 

[EuroSoccer]

Accidents can always happen, but I don't think that is the issue.
And we are not debating the case of someone with a serious health problem, I don't think that is the point either.

We are talking about perfectly healthy people who either do not shower daily or don't bother to wipe their ass properly on a regular basis.
The question is, would you put up with someone who doesn't give a shit about their personal hygiene?
The answer is NO

 

[oakpope]

and personally I don't think you have the best of personalities.
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!!!!
Hard-up1 is one of the nicest and kindest men here. His personality is caring, thoughtful, mindful of others well being. You only think about people who would not wipe their ass clean enough after a dump. He was talking about what life is about, not something so orderly that you can control everything, even your body base functions as excretion. Once again accident happen, and if your relationship depend on accident not happening, I'm afraid you'll not have many long term ones...

Love is blind means that sometimes we do things for your loved ones that gross you, or that you don't want to do, because sometimes the well being of your loved ones is more important than your own little comfort. If you can't understand that, no wonder you can't understand my friend Hard-up1 !

 

[oakpope]

And please don't even think of trying your little bullying tactic against the personality of Hard-up1, discuss all you want about arguments and your rights to disagree, but stop right there the personal attack, you don't want a raging mad pope behind your ass in every posts

PS : hitting the 10 min time max, having had to verify translation of some words it's annoying

 

[oakpope]

We'll be continuing in PM the discussion about Hard-up1 so as to not polluting the thread.

For the love is blind thing, I don't say you have to be blind all the time, but that sometimes you have to do gross things for the people you love. I don't mean to accept very bad hygiene if that is something you don't accept from a partner.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

!!!!
Hard-up1 is one of the nicest and kindest men here.

Uh, no he's not. Some of his posts contain a lot of heart, but lately - and the rant he went on tombastep is a great example - he can be quite condescending and borderline superior. The irony here is that he can be malicious in a more subtle way and he doesn't realize that.

That's like calling ME one of the nicest people here - I sure as hell am not.

 

[oakpope]

You have to do gross things for the people you love? I don't think I have that kind of mindset.

So...if your partner were to fall ill, by example both arms paralysed, and his handicap required you to wipe his ass, what would you do ? Break up with him, or suck it up and do the gross thing and wipe his ass daily (of course in the hypothesis you can not afford an at home nurse) ?

 

[oakpope]

Uh, no he's not. Some of his posts contain a lot of heart, but lately - and the rant he went on tombastep is a great example - he can be quite condescending and borderline superior. The irony here is that he can be malicious in a more subtle way and he doesn't realize that.

That's like calling ME one of the nicest people here - I sure as hell am not.

you're entitled to your opinion, my experience with him is different, and for me he is a super nice person who makes me feel privileged to know. But it's off topic, if anyone want to talk about him, I'd prefer going by PM please.

 

[MoufOfKhaos]

If I want to talk about him, i'll talk to him about him.

If you're going to give accolades about people through rose-colored glasses, expect them to be taken off if not true.

And please don't tell me i'm entitled to my opinion... it sounds so much like you're waving me off for daring to speak up.

 

[pat grimshaw]

... the rant he went on tombastep ....

do you have a link to this?

 

[mikey3000]

I love it when people make outlandish suggestions in order to undermine my position. That won't be happening.

And hard up has been very malicious indeed lately.

This is not an outlandish scenario. Last year this exact thing happened to a couple I know. After a fall in his back yard, my friend nearly bled to death, almost severed his bractio-radialis in both his arms. After multiple surgeries he is finally returning home and will still need lots of therapy. Both hands are almost totally useless now. Accidents can and do happen every day.

 

[mikey3000]

Dude, others don't have to ask your questions in order to undermine your own credibility.

 

[sixthson]

and personally I don't think you have the best of personalities.

I'd take one Hard-up1 over a thousand GiancarloCs. He has shown himself to be intelligent, witty, funny, caring, compassionate, thoughtful. You have shown yourself to be one-dimensional, tedious, self-absorbed, verbose and self-aggrandizing.

 

[oakpope]

If I want to talk about him, i'll talk to him about him.

As some have talk about him here and this was not the subject of the thread, I was suggesting to use PM for that. You can talk to him you can talk to me also, it's not blasphemous.

If you're going to give accolades about people through rose-colored glasses, expect them to be taken off if not true.

It is your opinion that I have rose-colored glasses. Based on what ? What are you implying ? That I am just naive for thinking something different from you ? I base my view of him on reading many of his posts and on the numerous exchanges in private that we have had. What you told me haven't change my views on me. Maybe on last posts of his you disagree about the form or the content. Does that make him not nice ? I don't think so.

And please don't tell me i'm entitled to my opinion... it sounds so much like you're waving me off for daring to speak up.

You're entitled to think this . My meaning was to tell you that I accepted that we may have different opinions about him. But you choose to interpret it in a confrontational way, which tells about your own personality by the way. If it's so important to you to voice your problems with Hard-up1, please be my guest and make a thread or PM him, I was suggesting to avoid hijacking the thread with irrelevant matter.

I welcome difference, I cherished it, and I wouldn't wave you off for daring to speak up different opinions than mine, it's really against my believes and my nature.
But there are places and moment for each thing.

 

[oakpope]

You have to do gross things for the people you love? I don't think I have that kind of mindset.

I gave you an example when someone may have to do gross things for someone you love.
You answered by :

Very outlandish as I won't be doing that. I love it when people try to ask my questions in order to undermine my own credibility.

You won't be doing what ?
What I understand from your posts, and please correct me if I'm wrong, is that if the case happened, you would not help your love.
Am I correct ?

You can't dismiss something that can happen as mickey has told you, just because it makes you sound bad. That's childish and just an avoiding tactic from someone who understand he looses a debate.

What have your credibility have to do with the subject ?

I asked you a question and you refused to answer. Well other people will be able to make their own ideas about the subject.

I choose to believe that you are young, and I hope experience will open your eyes on some human nature things.

Just a thing : I'm wrong very often about things in all fields. I try hard to acknowledge when I wrong, not to please someone who would have been right, but mainly in order to make myself progress.

 

[Shepherd 2]

I think I just remembered why I choose not to do much posting at Hot Topics in the last year or two.
Shep+

 

[Shepherd 2]

"Love is..."

Never saw the comic "Love is" for washing your partner's skid-marked undies, though. I think it applies!

Nice post.

Shep+

 

[oakpope]

^ indeed

(sorry to not contributing much here)

PS : I would be very ashamed of myself if I was the cause for you to not wanting to post in Hot Topics I hope you can forgive some unpleasant posts and contribute here, we need all the experiences in our community and outside as well. Please show us your voice in whatever fashion you want, I'm sure we would be better with it in our chorus

 

[mikey3000]

Meh. Some people actually care for their partners, others just go along for the ride until things get 'icky'. Once you've changed a few diapers, dirty underwear is no biggie.