The Original Gay Porn Community - Free Gay Movies and Photos, Gay Porn Site Reviews and Adult Gay Forums

  • Welcome To Just Us Boys - The World's Largest Gay Message Board Community

    In order to comply with recent US Supreme Court rulings regarding adult content, we will be making changes in the future to require that you log into your account to view adult content on the site.
    If you do not have an account, please register.
    REGISTER HERE - 100% FREE / We Will Never Sell Your Info

    PLEASE READ: To register, turn off your VPN (iPhone users- disable iCloud); you can re-enable the VPN after registration. You must maintain an active email address on your account: disposable email addresses cannot be used to register.

  • Hi Guest - Did you know?
    Hot Topics is a Safe for Work (SFW) forum.

Do you go to bars / clubs by yourself?

Well, I went last night and, um...you guys lied to me. Well not really, but kind of, cause it was awkward as hell. Right off the bat I realized I had a few things working against me:

-I dont really drink. In groups its not a big deal, but going
-Im not all that sociable. Normally I just stick with my group when I go out or meet new people by piggybacking off of some of my more outgoing friends.
-Im not crazy about bars in general
-Being a brawny young black guy among a bunch of middle aged white guys made me stick out like a sore thumb, which made me all the more self-conscious

So for the first half hour, I was slumped in my stool nursing a beer and trying to pretend I didnt feel totally loserish. The most I got was some pity small talk from a tranny named Felicia (we both agreed that I was the hottest guy there).

This was my first gay bar and it was a little different than what I expected. I guess I sort of imagined it to be like a buffet of hot guys just waiting to be picked-up. But there was none of that. I got more play at the last straight bar I went to. Hell, I got more action in the last airport bathroom I went to.

But its all good...after a couple of beers I started to loosen up and stopped worrying so much. And a couple of beers after that, I completely stopped giving a damn (I guess this is what being tipsy is? I was getting kinda dizzy, had to pee a lot, and at one point started singing Joan Jett loudly to nobody in particular).

All in all, not terrible, but not great either. Better than staying at home and watching Cheers reruns. I'll probably go back and next time I'll try, like, talking to people and stuff.
 
99% of the time I go out its with friends, the rare occasion alone is like a relief at times. Gives you the chance to talk to other people. Even when I was younger and the crowd was older had a good time just talking and joking with the guys. Now at this point, with only so many gay bars in the city, i always run into friends or people I know, so not alone for long. Give it a few tries, could of just been a bad night.
 
I have not been to bars or clubs for many years. I got tired of the scene in my early 20s.
 
Going with friends and sticking with them hurts your chances of meeting anyone.. but going alone can be really awkward.

Best is go with friends (separately, so you arent obligated to stick together), split up, and meet up at any point again you want.
 
It seems when I go out with my hubbie, both of us are always hit on. I think back to when I was single and there were times people were totally oblivious to me being in a bar or club.

Also, when I go out alone now (if the hubbie is working or getting home late), I am amazed that I seem to meet guys with no problem. Hell, last week I met three that caused the little devil and angel to appear simultaneously on either shoulder: one saying "fuck him" and the other saying, "Barry is home waiting!" The angel wins....

I know I love Austin....I used to have a guy I met at the Rainbow Cattle Company whom I looked up whenever I visited. He was working for Jack Daniels the night we met; I was improperly dressed for the RCC and he was getting off work so we met up at Oilcan Harry's.

We later went to Rain and had a night cap at the "straight" bar near where my hotel was -- the one with the two olives on the roof that look at you!

Charlies was good too although it was slow the day I was there.

Just be yourself, look and act confident but not cocky, smile, and if you see something you like, don't be afraid to say hello.

I prefer to sit at the bar but also walk around, check things out, see what is happening.
 
Treborf said:
Well, I went last night and, um...you guys lied to me. Well not really, but kind of, cause it was awkward as hell. Right off the bat I realized I had a few things working against me:

-I dont really drink. In groups its not a big deal, but going
-Im not all that sociable. Normally I just stick with my group when I go out or meet new people by piggybacking off of some of my more outgoing friends.
-Im not crazy about bars in general
-Being a brawny young black guy among a bunch of middle aged white guys made me stick out like a sore thumb, which made me all the more self-conscious

So for the first half hour, I was slumped in my stool nursing a beer and trying to pretend I didnt feel totally loserish. The most I got was some pity small talk from a tranny named Felicia (we both agreed that I was the hottest guy there).

This was my first gay bar and it was a little different than what I expected. I guess I sort of imagined it to be like a buffet of hot guys just waiting to be picked-up. But there was none of that. I got more play at the last straight bar I went to. Hell, I got more action in the last airport bathroom I went to.

But its all good...after a couple of beers I started to loosen up and stopped worrying so much. And a couple of beers after that, I completely stopped giving a damn (I guess this is what being tipsy is? I was getting kinda dizzy, had to pee a lot, and at one point started singing Joan Jett loudly to nobody in particular).

All in all, not terrible, but not great either. Better than staying at home and watching Cheers reruns. I'll probably go back and next time I'll try, like, talking to people and stuff.
Click to expand...

There are gay bars in Austin, Texas? ROFL!
 
Treborf said:
Well, I went last night and, um...you guys lied to me. Well not really, but kind of, cause it was awkward as hell. Right off the bat I realized I had a few things working against me:

-I dont really drink. In groups its not a big deal, but going
-Im not all that sociable. Normally I just stick with my group when I go out or meet new people by piggybacking off of some of my more outgoing friends.
-Im not crazy about bars in general
-Being a brawny young black guy among a bunch of middle aged white guys made me stick out like a sore thumb, which made me all the more self-consciousSo for the first half hour, I was slumped in my stool nursing a beer and trying to pretend I didnt feel totally loserish. The most I got was some pity small talk from a tranny named Felicia (we both agreed that I was the hottest guy there).

This was my first gay bar and it was a little different than what I expected. I guess I sort of imagined it to be like a buffet of hot guys just waiting to be picked-up. But there was none of that. I got more play at the last straight bar I went to. Hell, I got more action in the last airport bathroom I went to.

But its all good...after a couple of beers I started to loosen up and stopped worrying so much. And a couple of beers after that, I completely stopped giving a damn (I guess this is what being tipsy is? I was getting kinda dizzy, had to pee a lot, and at one point started singing Joan Jett loudly to nobody in particular).

All in all, not terrible, but not great either. Better than staying at home and watching Cheers reruns. I'll probably go back and next time I'll try, like, talking to people and stuff.
Click to expand...


Stick with straight Bars..The crowds are diverse. The few Gay bars/clubs I've gone to (out of town) often are predominately White with White Guys looking for other white guys, tons of Women there just to be entertained by the Gays and LESS than a few Black guys sprinkled around..

When I saw that reoccurring atmosphere I realized straight spots with Live bands is my thing...When I travel with my Bi-Bud I will go to a Gay bar/Club because he asks me to.
 
I feel awkward going anywhere alone. It's like I enter this strange world in my head to keep my thoughts occupied. While everyone else is talking to whomever they're with, I'm steady thinking to myself, "I wonder if they think I'm a single loser? Na, they don't even notice you."

I'm not big on bars. In fact I've only been in two real bars my entire life. I've been in plenty of sports bars. Bar and grille, sure. But not real bars. Something about them seems sleezy to me.

And I'd never go in one alone. I even feel awkward sitting at the bar at a bar and grille with a friend. I couldn't imagine sitting there by myself, whistling dixie as I stare blankly into space having no one to talk to.

I don't know how people do it.
 
thewiz said:
I know I love Austin....I used to have a guy I met at the Rainbow Cattle Company whom I looked up whenever I visited. He was working for Jack Daniels the night we met; I was improperly dressed for the RCC and he was getting off work so we met up at Oilcan Harry's.

We later went to Rain and had a night cap at the "straight" bar near where my hotel was -- the one with the two olives on the roof that look at you!
Click to expand...
Yeah, from what I understand, those are places where you go to be seen. This place had more of a scuzzy neighborhood bar vibe. Not sure if that was a good or bad thing.

I was just joking in that post above btw. I dont really think you guys lied to me...not intentionally anyway. :-)
 
If you want to meet someone you almost have to go by yourself. My opinion is you increase the liklihood of meeting someone by 90 percent if you're alone.
 
I don't like to go by myself, but if no one else wants to go but I do, I'm still gonna go.

I'm not gonna lose out just 'cos noone want to come with.
 
Treborf said:
All in all, not terrible, but not great either. Better than staying at home and watching Cheers reruns. I'll probably go back and next time I'll try, like, talking to people and stuff.
Click to expand...

Treborf, if you were clearly the best looking dude there, then they weren't the problem you were the problem. But you did loosen up and it got better and I imagine when you're really comfortable people will see the real you and want to approach you.

There is nothing wrong with going alone. Anyone who makes fun of someone who does is just plain stupid. I go in, get a drink, dance and meet people. I don't smoke but I go outside and meet smokers, they're really sociable cause they're used to being grouped together and talking, it's not like the elevator or the urinals and more like the water cooler.

cheers!
 
Where I live, most of the gay people know each other and are all regulars at their bars.

When they see someone that isn't a regular you sort of get the impression that "FRESH MEAT" is what's on their mind. They immediately take notice and most guys are not shy about hitting on or approaching someone right away. I hate being showered with that kind of attention so I wouldn't ever go to any gay bars/clubs in my area
 
Sultan said:
Where I live, most of the gay people know each other and are all regulars at their bars.

When they see someone that isn't a regular you sort of get the impression that "FRESH MEAT" is what's on their mind. They immediately take notice and most guys are not shy about hitting on or approaching someone right away. I hate being showered with that kind of attention so I wouldn't ever go to any gay bars/clubs in my area
Click to expand...

Wow, you make me wish I lived nearby ;)
 
I go to the clubs but never alone. I'm still a boy in peoples eyes, they'll take advantage of me when I'm drunk :D
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top