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Do you have or want to have kids?

Have you got any children?

  • Yes, I conceived children with my wife/partner/girlfriend.

    Votes: 9 14.1%

  • Yes, I adopted children with my husband/partner/boyfriend.

    Votes: 2 3.1%

  • No, but I would like to have children, someday.

    Votes: 16 25.0%

  • No, I've never wanted to have children.

    Votes: 37 57.8%
  • Total voters
    64
I don't think so.

I'd be happy to play the uncle or god parent role, but as for my own, I'm not too sure.
 
For those who say they will wait until they are ready for a family, I can tell you that you are never really ready. Even with lots of expert help from others who have children, it is still learn-as-you-go. Once you've done the first one, the others are easier, maybe because you are more comfortable in the role of parent.

When we adopted our first son, he was six and Romanian. He spoke a fair amount of English, but mostly Romanian. The English/Romanian dictionary and phrase book was never far from us. We had a very long flight home and were exhausted that first night. At 4 am we were awakened by something getting on our bed. I thought it was the dog. But as he crept up toward us, I knew it wasn't the dog. I flicked on the light and there was our new son with a big smile on his face and he says "Should we eat?" I grabbed him and pulled him between us and he started to giggle. No aria was ever more beautiful to us. Tomas asked him what he wanted to eat and he said "cartof". He wanted a potato for breakfast. So, before the sun is up, we head down to the kitchen to make potatoes, assuming he means fried potatoes (hashbrowns). No, he wants a boiled potato. AT 4 a.m. Ugh!
Now we have 4. The baby is not quite 4 months old.
There have been plenty of sleepless nights, lots of worries, lots of prayers prayed. Most of all, there has been joy beyond measure...so many laughs, so many hugs and kisses, tears to dry and wounds to tend. Part of nurturing is discipline. That is the part that has not been easy for us, but it is necessary and right to do it. Children need to learn that their parents love them as much when they say NO as when they say YES.

You can't be a good parent and be selfish. If you know you have what it takes to be a parent, go for it.
 
I don't know how to answer the poll, but I have a stepdaughter from a previous relationship with a woman.
 
I do, I am a godfather to two wonderful little children who are 1 and 2. Most of my friends say when they see me with a young child under the age of 6 they have a hard time telling whether or not I am babysitting or they are actually my child.
 
I have anywhere between 18-24 kids in my life for ten months each year.

They are all mine from 9:00 AM -3:30 PM each day.

I know them as intimately as the job will allow. I know their wishes, desires, hopes, dreams and dislikes too.

I watch them grow from September to June. I hope that their time with me is productive and well-spent.

Sometimes, they come back and visit, and share their further successes.

That is more than enough for me.....

Do I want children of my own? I still think about it at my age...but there really is no female that I would want to even consider sharing the parental experience ( assuming , of course the route is artificial insemination) with.

I have three godchildren. One is 25 and married. The second one got pregnant at 16 and disappeared from my life by her own doing. The third one os 19, a college student, and the only one I have contact with...
 
I do want children - at what point in my life, I'll leave up to when me and my partner are good and ready :)

My one niece and three nephews are enough to quell the want so far, because holy shit parenting takes a lot of gall! :D Or maybe wine? :lol:

But yes, I want kids at some point...
 
sixthson said:
For those who say they will wait until they are ready for a family, I can tell you that you are never really ready. Even with lots of expert help from others who have children, it is still learn-as-you-go. Once you've done the first one, the others are easier, maybe because you are more comfortable in the role of parent.

When we adopted our first son, he was six and Romanian. He spoke a fair amount of English, but mostly Romanian. The English/Romanian dictionary and phrase book was never far from us. We had a very long flight home and were exhausted that first night. At 4 am we were awakened by something getting on our bed. I thought it was the dog. But as he crept up toward us, I knew it wasn't the dog. I flicked on the light and there was our new son with a big smile on his face and he says "Should we eat?" I grabbed him and pulled him between us and he started to giggle. No aria was ever more beautiful to us. Tomas asked him what he wanted to eat and he said "cartof". He wanted a potato for breakfast. So, before the sun is up, we head down to the kitchen to make potatoes, assuming he means fried potatoes (hashbrowns). No, he wants a boiled potato. AT 4 a.m. Ugh!
Now we have 4. The baby is not quite 4 months old.
There have been plenty of sleepless nights, lots of worries, lots of prayers prayed. Most of all, there has been joy beyond measure...so many laughs, so many hugs and kisses, tears to dry and wounds to tend. Part of nurturing is discipline. That is the part that has not been easy for us, but it is necessary and right to do it. Children need to learn that their parents love them as much when they say NO as when they say YES.

You can't be a good parent and be selfish. If you know you have what it takes to be a parent, go for it.
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Great story Sixthson! You and your partner both sound like terrific parents!
 
I didn't want to till literally a couple weeks ago-where I decided I want one, will name him a German name and flood him with math so that he can make daddy proud by becoming a reputable mathematician...I'm selfish like that.=;
 
Absolutely. My mentality falls in line with the idea that the reason we're put here - or at least one of them - is to reproduce. It's the only way to live beyond yourself. I definitely want kids; I have no doubt that your life becomes all about being a parent, putting their needs above your own, and that you cannot be selfish with a child...but as harrowing as it may sound to give up my selfish tendencies, I also believe that children are life's greatest reward, and that everything scarified is worth it. I think it would be pretty depressing to be an older person, past child rearing age, reconciling the reality that I never started a family of my own and coming home to an empty house. No kids, no grandkids, no legacy...just me.

Even though I'm only 30, I definitely feel my biological clock pounding. To tell you the truth, I wish I had had a kid in my early 20s...because then at least by the time I was in my late 30s/early 40s, they'd be raised and I'd get some "me time" back, while still young enough to enjoy it. At this rate, even if I had one nine months from tomorrow, I'd be damn near 50 still raising a teenager...and that's if I rush at this point.
 
I definitely want kids.

In an ideal world, I'd adopt them. At graduation. From college, cum laude. So I can just choose already awesome ones who've (hopefully) gone through all the angsty drama and stuff and are (theoretically) well-rounded individuals with good prospects.

-d-
 
No. Not that I don't like kids, but I just don't feel like them and I don't have enough patience for them.

But of course this can change in the future.
 
Naw, I've never wanted children and my sister having had two children has convinced me that I'm really not the type of person to have children either. Love the two of them but parenting is not for me.

However I do like thinking up names for my hypothetical children that'll never exist. Thankfully I play pokémon so I just use those names for naming my pokémon :D.
 
When I was trying to be "cured" and get straight, I also fathered two children -- a boy and a girl. My son is now 23; daughter is 21. I also have two step-children by the marriage, one of which I am still close to and one who talks if she sees me.
 
MyReply said:
Absolutely. My mentality falls in line with the idea that the reason we're put here - or at least one of them - is to reproduce. It's the only way to live beyond yourself. I definitely want kids; I have no doubt that your life becomes all about being a parent, putting their needs above your own, and that you cannot be selfish with a child...but as harrowing as it may sound to give up my selfish tendencies, I also believe that children are life's greatest reward, and that everything scarified is worth it. I think it would be pretty depressing to be an older person, past child rearing age, reconciling the reality that I never started a family of my own and coming home to an empty house. No kids, no grandkids, no legacy...just me.

Even though I'm only 30, I definitely feel my biological clock pounding. To tell you the truth, I wish I had had a kid in my early 20s...because then at least by the time I was in my late 30s/early 40s, they'd be raised and I'd get some "me time" back, while still young enough to enjoy it. At this rate, even if I had one nine months from tomorrow, I'd be damn near 50 still raising a teenager...and that's if I rush at this point.
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What the....that's looking at it from a Bible point of view.
Get with the times.
When I am old and sick I'll be glad I didn't bring any children into this messed up world...especially since I watch the news everyday.
If I am ever to have children, I will adopt one.
Why make my own when there is MILLIONS that need parents? That seems really selfish.
 
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