Do You Think Growing Older is Harder For Gay Men ?

[Joshua_me]

It's often said that once you hit 30 you more or less disappear in 'gay land'.

And certainly, according to some people by the time you turn 40 you are 'yesterday's news'.

I don't think that's the case in 'hetero-ville'. Women are attracted to men that are well into their 60's and beyond. Maybe they know more than we do, maybe they are not so shallow.

Is our community so focused on looks that we are missing the bigger picture ?

Thoughts ?

 

[8tomtoms8]

I don't think growing older is easy for anyone. Ask any woman who's thirty and not yet married who wants to be. I think growing older is hardest for those people who have put all of their focus on their physical appearance and how good they look. I agree with you that the gay community is obsessed with looks and youth. I know several gay guys who have never developed a career, seem to have no other passion in life other than the fact that they are gay, and spend all of their time looking for the ultimate hookup. I think those guys have a terrible time growing older because they have little other purpose in life other than gay sex.
On the other hand, I know other gay guys who have passion for life in many areas, have successful careers, have a great partner and now have enough money that they can afford some of the finer things in life. For them getting older isn't fun, but they can look back and see how much they have accomplished and feel good that they made some sort of contribution to society. Often those guys didn't have the best bodies on earth and didn't spend all their time at gay bars when they were young. But now, 40 or 50 years later, they have something to show for their life. For them, growing old isn't quite as bad.

 

[G-Lexington]

I think it depends. If one is heavily caught up in and/or relying on one's looks, for instance, then growing older is probably going to hit harder. And I'd wager that this is true for a higher percentage of gay guys than of straight ones.

Lex

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

I just got back home from the hottest gay pool party in LA today.. hundreds of hot men hanging out. Average age was about 35-40. Some of the hottest men in the city were there.

And yes... I got video.

 

[hothrd]

I reckon it is much harder for gay men to grow old. Our culture is too obsessed with the looks its incredible. Too many times i see older men who are single and in the bars. I can read most of their faces and al I see is sadness while they are looking for someone. It really does makes me sad to think about that.

That is why I went out and got me a good education so that I can focus on my career and not worry so much about relying on my looks to make me happy. Its a part of life. Many cute boys in their early 20s will turn out to be not so cute when they hit 30.

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>And yes... I got video.

Work? Or busman's holiday?

Lex

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

... because as we all know, straight people LOVE old people.

Hey, the older people get if they're straight, the more sex they get.

It's only those icky gays who like young people.

I mean... older men with belies and hairy chests? straight women LOVE them... there' not any gay men who like bears, are there?

Jesus, it's like gay people spend more time searching for negative bullshit to drop about other gay people than they do breathing.

 

[giorgiobaby]

It's never bothered me, my 30's were some of the most fun times I had. 40's have been terrific so far. I have to much fun with my life and friends to worry about permission from some 25 year old man to live my life. Life is what you make of it, if you think your life is over at 30...then lay down and die. I plan to have fun with the rest of mine.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

I think I will.

and you'll all finally get to see my husband.

 

[Rex]

Men tend to look better as they age in many cases.

Women usually don't.

I think everyone has fears about getting old but it's a part of life. If you invest in yourself while you're young, you can still be happy, healthy and look good when you're in your 40's.

 

[Jory]

I just got back home from the hottest gay pool party in LA today.. hundreds of hot men hanging out. Average age was about 35-40. Some of the hottest men in the city were there.

And yes... I got video.

Answer this how much time do they spend on their looks i.e. the gym, spa treatment, wearing the right cloths and going to the right clubs and parties.

 

[Jory]

I think I will.

and you'll all finally get to see my husband.

Oh I've aready seen him along time ago

 

[Rex]

Answer this how much time do they spend on their looks i.e. the gym, spa treatment, wearing the right cloths and going to the right clubs and parties.

What is your point here? If you want to have a nice body, you need to go to the gym and eat right.

Going to the right clubs and parties don't change the way you look though....

 

[Jory]

What is your point here? If you want to have a nice body, you need to go to the gym and eat right.

Going to the right clubs and parties don't change the way you look though....

That the guys that Jasun was talking about in most likely a minorty in the gay community these are the guys that work out maybe 5 to 6 days a week, while the rest of us work out if we do at the most 3 days a week to keep that beer belly at bay


Parties and night clubs don't change how you look but it tell everyone how hip you are


As for looks sometime people can be fooled a 25 year old and look like he is in his 50s and a 50 year could look like he is in his late 30s to early 40s

 

[Rex]

That the guys that Jasun was talking about in most likely a minorty in the gay community these are the guys that work out maybe 5 to 6 days a week, while the rest of us work out if we do at the most 3 days a week to keep that beer belly at bay


Parties and night clubs don't change how you look but it tell everyone how hip you are


As for looks sometime people can be fooled a 25 year old and look like he is in his 50s and a 50 year could look like he is in his late 30s to early 40s

Well, this isn't a problem with just gay people. Everyone hates to get old but if you want to be happy, you have to do what makes you happy.

 

[cocktales]

I don't think gay men have a stangle-hold on vanity! lol

Heck, with the amount of cosmetics and even plastic surgeries that are done today, it shows that men and women are really trying to take better care of themselves today, say more than yester-years....

Don't know about you but I find older men extremely attractive; but the brains also goes with the territory too! lol It's the whole package and NOT just the tight bod and pretty face that attracts me either.

Like said earlier in this discussion, men seem to age like a fine wine and just get better as they grow some white hair in their temples or even bald.......HOT! lol

 

[NineOfClubs]

I voted no.

Until recently anyway, I've always felt gay men tried to maintain their health, looks, and attitudes better than the older married and single straight guys. And it seemed to pay off for them. Often non gay men seem "old" at 45 or 50... Fewer gays.

Gays have also looked to other means to happiness than "family". So when the straight men see their family relationships fade in importance, they have little to replace it with. While the gays have stronger friendships with other men and more outside activities.....

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Everybody knows the witch in Snow-white was based on an aging gay man.

 

[Paws]

It's all about genetics.

 

[belamy]

No. Old farts are all the same irrespective of sexual orientation. Only the wealthier ones, being lobotomized by their porsperous spoiltbratness, could give an impression of hapiness.