Do You Think Growing Older is Harder For Gay Men ?

[davy]

I don't know if it's more difficult, but I do now that a man starts to become attractive once he starts the reach the 40 year mark.

He's physically, socially, financially a man and, at that point, has a grasp of what he wants; without any of the games that kids like to play.

The evidence is all around us:

Ben Browder from Farscape, Daniel Craig from James Bond, Bruce Campbell from Burn Notice are all men that are 40 (and over) and hotter than hell!

 

[G-Lexington]

>>>He's physically, socially, financially a man and, at that point, has a grasp of what he wants; without any of the games that kids like to play.

You need to spend some more time in CO&R.

Lex

 

[alley]

I was (and am) surprised at some of the attention I get when I go out---I don't have guys falling at my feet and I don't assume everyone is into me, but...it does feel strange when I have a 20 something guy start to chat me up. I thought I had missed out on all of that.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Vanity is what separates us from animals.
The love, wealth, power, land, religious following - everything we want to achieve or conquer is all about how it reflects our vain, egocentric big fat ego.

 

[kallipolis]

A man said that age separates the men from the boys.

There are some men who never learn to grow out of their boyhood.

Most men are sufficiently happy to have grown out of their boyhood, with no desire to repeat the experience.

A wise man said that growing up transformed him into the person, who best resembles the man, who he is most comfortable with.

Dorian Grey illustrates the importance of not spending too much time gazing into a mirror, and observing the passage of our time.

 

[JasunStrikesBack]

Answer this how much time do they spend on their looks i.e. the gym, spa treatment, wearing the right cloths and going to the right clubs and parties.

from the looks of these guys... not that much.

Lots of time at the gym, maybe, but no spa treatments. No more than straight people, anyway.

My point is that gay people have a whole "bear culture" of older men who enjoy life and aren't marginalized as they get older..I think more so than straight people.

 

[belamy]

^ Yeah, right, like the breeder community doesn't have that hyperspoiltbabyboomerbrat generation as a model to imitate.
There may be a happy gay daddy bear subculture, but those people with fake teeth and hair and manners and all the money younger generations will never have and all the power they won't share with others because they are stuck at the top by living longer than anybody ever before are the fucking masters of the universe or, even worse, they believe they are so.

 

[heartfly77]

In terms of the gay community, I would say yes. And within one's self, I would say yes. We worry more about our looks and age than straight me do.

 

[ckyb2]

I think growing old is hard for everyone. It's one of my biggest fears actually, I can't imagine myself as an older type guy.

For gay men, I suppose if you're a 45 year old man who is into 18-20 year olds, you're going to have more trouble than if you were dating men your own age.

Then again, I've seen men in the their 50s who are in better shape than some younger guys...so if you take care of yourself, you have nothing to worry about.

 

[belamy]

I think growing old is hard for everyone.

Right, like being young and dependant, lost, underdeveloped, jobless, penniless can not be hard...

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Right, like being young and dependant, lost, underdeveloped, jobless, penniless can not be hard...

There's always prostitution.

 

[belamy]

There's always prostitution.

Or simply cruising.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

Or simply cruising.

You don't make much money that way, which was supposedly the point.

 

[belamy]

You don't make much money that way, which was supposedly the point.

No it wasn't. But it's a way to know someone to parasite and with whom to have one of those open relationships.

 

[Harke the Boeotarch]

No it wasn't. But it's a way to know someone to parasite and with whom to have one of those open relationships.

The "parasite" doesn't have to pay for sex.

 

[metta]

30's were never an issue. It is when you hit 40 when things really change on how they look at you. It is the cut off date for most gay people.

 

[belamy]

The "parasite" doesn't have to pay for sex.

Naturally, because a big ass pays to keep his sorry ass

 

[Fat Tom]

I'm into older dudes, so I'm really not too worried about it.

 

[belamy]

^ What if they are attracted mostly to younger men or even to boys? where would that leave you when you are older yourself?

 

[Crackberry]

If you're talking gay men vs. straight men, then yes, it's harder for us. But it's definitely hardEST for women, because of how sexualized women are in the media. They're reduced to nothing but their bodies, AND we rarely see women over 40 in mainstream movies and television. Just ask Hope Davis, who was asked to play Johnny Depp's mother in a new movie. She's three years older than him. Or Winona Ryder, who had to have wrinkles ADDED to her face to make it believable that she was Spock's mother in Star Trek.

And whoever made the comment about men getting better looking as they get older and women looking worse is absolutely wrong.