Do you think you're gonna find your one TRUE LOVE, someday?

[wonderwort]

How optimistic or pessimistic are you that you'll find Mr. Right one day.

I'm pretty pessimistic.

I voted low.

Your thoughts.

 

[wonderwort]

Barbara Streisand and Bryan Adams "I finally found someone"

 

[wonderwort]

I wonder if this thread will be as popular as my playgirl thread.
http://www.justusboys.com/forum/showthread.php?t=342079

 

[gingentleman]

I am seeing someone whom I am very fond of and believe he may well be Mr. Right...

 

[wonderwort]

 

[wonderwort]

Not a very hot thread.......HMMMMM

 

[BrianPGH]

I used to be optimistic that I'd find true/lasting love, but now that I'm about 16 months away from turning 40, I'm not too confident it's going to happen. I know love can happen at any age, but I just have this unshakable feeling that if it hasn't happened for me by now, it's never going to.

 

[NineOfClubs]

I already have, at least three times, probably four...

 

[Sausy]

Not really.....though for some it is one real soulmate I believe more people if they could be honest would have several.You may love different people in different ways,and I think if society would let it flow naturally you would of course have some true single soulmates but others just as real and passionate variety,two,three or more.

 

[wonderwort]

Anyone else wanna chime in?

 

[wonderwort]

Babara Striesand "Evergreen"

 

[Audio Tech]

I'd like to, but I'm not holding my breath, either.

There is some truth to the notion that as you get older, it's much less likely. I just don't find as many guys attractive anymore, and let's face it.... the one's "I" like are usually half my age now.

But I don't worry about it. I live my life and let Karma take care care of the rest. Who knows? Maybe....

 

[wonderwort]

Madonna "True Blue"

 

[hotatlboi]

I don't believe in one true love. I believe there's compatible people out there.

I think that's a good way to look at it.

Is there one person above all others that you would be best with? Probably.

What are the chances of finding him out of the 6 billion people on earth? Basically nill.

But are there people you will meet who will work in a relationship with you? Pretty likely.

"True love" makes it sound like a fairly tale romance. No relationship is perfect like that.

 

[shainski]

I also don't believe that we each have one true soul-mate out there.

We each have our own filters that allow certain individuals to get through. Depending on how fussy we are, there are more or fewer individuals that make the cut. Some of us have a list that is so exact that finding someone to fit it is unlikely. And then there is problem of what kind of exposure are we allowing ourselves? It is unlikely that someone is going to come knocking at our door while we're playing WOW on the computer.

I hit 40, i worked far too many hours during my 20s and 30s. I had professional tests that required a lot of studying. I was exhausted. Then when 9/11 happened, i met my wife at a party. We talked and talked and talked. A couple of years earlier, i would not have found her my type. But everything fell into place during those months of vulnerability that many of us felt at that time. That was nearly nine years ago. We married and have a family. I would never have believed it would happen that quickly and completely.

Is there someone out there for you? well i guess that depends on how many people you allow to get close to you - how many opportunities you allow yourself to have to find someone.

Now if you are 45 years old, and you will only accept a 20 year old with perfect looks, a mature personality, fluent in 3 languages, working towards an Masters, but funny, kind and humble and only with enough bad habits that he won't drive you crazy with his perfection and working as a delivery driver so that he will arrive at your door - take one look and fall madly in love with you...yeah, you just may be waiting a little bit longer.

 

[wonderwort]

 

[landers]

I've found Mr. Right twice, I just wasn't their Mr. Right.

 

[castoono]

I voted none. Everything better will be an unexpected surprise

 

[SuperNatural]

Some Day I will ... I hope

 

[slnattak]

I already did. Like 2-3 times. I found men who are very emotional compatible, the trouble I have been having is wanting the sex to mix with love. However, love and sex are obviously two different things. They just are. I want to meet a guy who feels like my ideal romantic partner, and I already have, but the trouble is- he's too much of a bad boy to have a serious relationship with him.

So I guess that's my dilemma. Like most people, I say I want love but what I really want is just some hot gay sex. I don't really let a guy inside (I mean emotionally), because I figure that they just want sex from me, and I'm usually right. Or if they do want me as a friend, they won't be sexual with me in a way that I want, so I just get bored and move on. I want my cake and I want to eat it too, and I think I deserve that.

My most ideal person would be a guy I care about emotionally, but who I also want to fuck their brains out, and I already found that person, but I can't be with him because (1. He's probably not even gay. (2. He's in prison. I found another guy now that I talk to often that can *maybe* be like that, but like most males he thinks being gay is a weakness, and is unsure about his own sexuality. He views his homosexuality as something that means he lacks self-confidence within himself about something, rather than something that he naturally and innately is.

And of course, I just can't be in a relationship with somebody that insecure. Nobody could. But on the other hand, the 'mainstream regular hollywood gays' are too stuck up and TOO self-confident, and it's like I'd have to jump through 165,000 hoops just to be considered for a relationship with them! No thanks. You're not that special for me to do that, because you aren't doing the same for me!!!

So what am I going to do? I'm tired of hooking up with 'normal guys' and having 0 passion, but at the same time I'm also tired of hooking up and having no emotional intimacy. to me, if those things can't become friends then it just isn't love.