Easier way to bottom??

[Críostóir]

ok so im bi and im a top but i would really love to bottom. i've tried to bottom like 3 times, but no use it's to painful, do you guys recommend me to try something, idk type of lube, position anything.
i heard that their is a type of lube that feels good and kills the pain and maes it feeltingaly is that true?? SOMEBODY HELP NEED TO DO THIS!!!

DON'T USE AN ANESTHETIC LUBE. It won't relax your muscles or keep them from getting torn if you're too tense. Really relaxing will. The pain lets you know you need to relax more. If you can't feel it...well, you do the math.

I suggest finding someone to do it with who has a relatively small dick, and who you trust to let you take it slow.

Use lots of lube.

Put him on his back and sit down on his cock. Go until it hurts (no, not UNLESS it hurts; it's going to hurt some, until you learn to relax), then pull back up and rest. Then try again. Each time you should be able to go down a little further. Keep putting on (and in) more lube as you go.

Also, jerk your own cock while you do it. Careful not to blast off too soon; beginners have a tendency to tighten up right after they cum. But bottoming is like being jerked off from inside your cock; it's kind of hard to believe how pleasurable it is, even before it stops hurting.

And it will stop hurting. Just don't give up. Once you get him all the way in, you should be able to move up and down slowly, then faster and faster. Once you're going pretty fast and it doesn't hurt (or not much), let him roll you over and pound you (you on your back with your legs up).

You'll cum like a firehose.

 

[gotdimples77]

get one of those butt plug sets and practice. I wouldnt suggest hooking up with guys just for practice. you might even notice that after you do some work with the thin one you can move up to the middle butt plug in the same session... you just have to get things relaxed. It does feel good eventually. Unless you get an jerk of a top who bangs away without thinking...that sucks. Also there are kinda two ways to go in your ass. sort of down towards your cock which will feel really good cause its rubbing your prostate but there is only really a few inches of space there and it will hurt if a big guy bangs on that recklessly. there is also up or towards your spine. this way is heading up towards your colon...you can take a lot longer things up that way but that can be messy...sometimes... when you see guys take an entire foot long english cucumber up the bumb thats where its going... in short...start with something slim and slippery...fingers work well...

 

[TickTockMan]

Just use different sized dildos to train yourself.

I could recommend a nerve killing lube, but they are not safe for those without experience.

Also try lube made for anal sex like...

 

[Brutally betrayed]

i also tried everything cant get anything beyond my middle finger!

 

[jobbio]

When you've got the middle finger in, try moving it round in a circular motion. That should feel good and you should feel your hole loosening. When your middle finger is moving freely, pull it out and try putting it back in with your index finger too. When both fingers feel comfortable, try pulling them apart a little whilst they're inside you. Don't rush, just do it slowly and stop when it hurts.

 

[Críostóir]

Try BenGay to ease the pain!

cheko369, crisco is a sadistic* monster. Don't do this to your worst enemy. Never get BenGay anywhere near a mucous membrane (mouth, eyes, nose, asshole) or near thin skin (scalp, scrotum). Unbearable pain will be the result.
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*Or joking, but if so it's pretty irresponsible. You're a beginner and can't be expected to know better.

 

[topinboots]

dick size DOESNT matter, unless it's a big ol' donkey dick...that's a myth..there are people out there with smaller than average who don't know how to use it and the create a painful 'jabbing' feeling...
You've got to relax..try playing withyour self a little bit when you're jackin off...get a finger, then two up there..make it part of the pleasureble experience...
LET THE TOP KNOW...don't skip not telling him you're inexperienced but want to try. If he's a good top, he'll work you into it, eating your ass, tongue fucking you, getting you relaxed...

 

[Fuckmyhole]

I usually go to the toilet....start putting my small Dildo in slowly....making it looser and then go get fucked....been fingering myself for 4 years...I dont really feel it now

 

[xplaxi]

just practice

 

[snakeeater1]

I found out by experience the best way to take a cock up the ass is to lie on your side and have a guy cuddle up behind you! It’s called “spooning or just spoon style” That way if it starts to hurt the fucker can reach around you and give your cock a couple of strokes and you’ll relax and start to enjoy it! It’s always gonna hurt a bit when he first enters you especially if he’s big or doesn’t use enough lube! Also, never let a guy enter you ass unless you have a hard on first! It makes a whole world of difference! …advice from a well fucked bottom!….

 

[ricksvca]

You need to be more relaxed so that you can handle a cock in your ass. Have your partner lube your ass and then have him insert one lubed finger into your ass and gently fuck your ass with it. This will feel really good. Once you are comfortable with having one finger in your ass have your partner insert a second finger so that he is now fucking your ass with two fingers, This will feel even better than fucking your ass with one finger. After you have gotten used to having your partner fuck your ass with two fingers tell your partner you are ready for having three lubed fingers fucking your ass. This will feel very much like what it will feel like having your partners cock in your ass. If you like the way that three fingers feel fucking your ass let your partner know that you are ready for him to fuck you with his cock. I would suggest at this point that you take your partners cock into your hands and lube his cock for him and then assume the position you want to use to be fucked by him. My favorite positions are being on top, or laying on my back with my legs in the air. Both of these positions allow your partner to touch and stroke your cock while he is fucking you. I also like the doggy position with me on all fours and the man fucking me behind me.