ok so im bi and im a top but i would really love to bottom. i've tried to bottom like 3 times, but no use it's to painful, do you guys recommend me to try something, idk type of lube, position anything.
i heard that their is a type of lube that feels good and kills the pain and maes it feeltingaly is that true?? SOMEBODY HELP NEED TO DO THIS!!!
DON'T USE AN ANESTHETIC LUBE. It won't relax your muscles or keep them from getting torn if you're too tense. Really relaxing will. The pain lets you know you need to relax more. If you can't feel it...well, you do the math.
I suggest finding someone to do it with who has a relatively small dick, and who you trust to let you take it slow.
Use lots of lube.
Put him on his back and sit down on his cock. Go until it hurts (no, not UNLESS it hurts; it's going to hurt some, until you learn to relax), then pull back up and rest. Then try again. Each time you should be able to go down a little further. Keep putting on (and in) more lube as you go.
Also, jerk your own cock while you do it. Careful not to blast off too soon; beginners have a tendency to tighten up right after they cum. But bottoming is like being jerked off from inside your cock; it's kind of hard to believe how pleasurable it is, even before it stops hurting.
And it will stop hurting. Just don't give up. Once you get him all the way in, you should be able to move up and down slowly, then faster and faster. Once you're going pretty fast and it doesn't hurt (or not much), let him roll you over and pound you (you on your back with your legs up).
You'll cum like a firehose.
