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Etiquette Question >> Open Flies...

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I have a question about the proper course of action in a somewhat delicate situation I found myself in this morning at my store, for if it ever happens again.

Good morning everyone. How y'all doin' this morning? :wave: ..|

So I had this young guy (in his 20s) in my convenience store, early this morning, during the 6.00am hour. Now I admit, I do take notice of the cuter guys who come in. But I'm always professional about it, with me never allowing it to go any further than just a thought in my head of, 'Oh, he's hawt!', etc. Well, he gets several things, and gets up to my counter. Well, now, understand >> In my line of work, I'm looking down at the items on the counter as I ring them up. As such, I happen to have a direct line of sight to people's crotches. I mean, it's right there...especially when I go from looking at the counter to raising my head up to look at the customer as they get their money together to pay me.

So he gets up to the counter and I happen to notice that his fly is open. And I don't mean just halfway. I'm talking about completely unzipped with the fabric of his blue jeans parted open just barely (you couldn't seen anything, but just a black shadow).

So, I'm trying to be professional and avert my eyes, all the while debating inside my head whether I should tell him or not. Ultimately, I decide to let sleeping dogs lie, and keep my mouth shut about it.

My questions to you all...
A >> Was I correct in not saying anything to the customer, and just basically pretend I didn't see what I saw?
B >> If you ever saw a guy whose fly was open in public, would you tell him or gently whisper to him (so as not to embarass him) to zip it up?
And C >> If you WERE that guy whose fly was open, would you want someone to let you know?

For Question C, my answer for me would be Yes. BUT, when you have a job that deals with the public, you have to be very careful about stuff like this, so as not to unintentionally offend any paying customers, in situations like this one.

What would you do? Would love to hear some thoughts on it.

Thanks! ..|
 
You have done the right thing for not speaking up for your own safety...because you don't know if the customer would react violently or not. If you're in a big city like NYC, SF, LA, Vancouver or Toronto, I think most men wouldn't mind if you speak up. But if you're in a small town, it's better to shut up. Still, I wouldn't speak up if I were in your situation.

I tell my buddies if their flies are open...because I know they're not going to harass me.

For your question C, I would want someone to tell me. But that's just me. And I welcome flirting from men. This is a gay forum after all.

Now...post this question in a straight men forum and see what kind of reactions you'll get to get a perspective.
 
ixthrock said:
NEVER tell a guy his fly is open. The world needs more open flies.
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I know, right!!! :lol: ..|

But I try to be a good guy, and it just struck me as a conscience issue as to whether I should have or shouldn't have let him know, for his own sake. I know how I would feel, in his shoes. But at the same time, yeah, if he's going to just leave it open, then yeah, I'm going to enjoy the view. And gawd, was he packing! *|*
 
Aw come on, we've all been there, it's no big deal. Just say "dude, your fly is open" followed by "you're welcome".
 
I've often told guys they're 'flying low'. In fact I've also told women if their petticoat or underskirt was showing (they hate the thought of it and have been truly grateful for me bringing it to their attention). Admittedly I've always been in an environment where I've needed to assess strangers in a matter of seconds, so some I tell, some I don't.
 
Unless you are on close, personal terms with the individual, it is very poor etiquette to inform the individual of his zipper status. One should ignore the fact and not embarrass the man.
 
No if I were in your position I don't think I would've told him unless he was a friend or family member. But I wouldn't mind if someone told me lol.
 
I wouldn't because then the guy might become hostile and ask why you are staring at their junk.
 
Hmmm, it is a good question! I think most of you guys are right. If you see a good friend or a customer you know well, then try to tell them discreetly. If its a stranger, then let it ride...

If it was a life threatening situation, like some have mentioned, or even someone forgetting their keys wallets or cell phones, I'd tell them. Fly open is really not a life/death matter and hey, I enjoy seeing it!
 
Tell the guy. Get over your issues and BS justifications, and realize that you're saving another human being the embarrassment, which is the whole point of etiquette in the first place. And if you really are working or own the store, look at it this way: Do you really want the chance of spilling out to happen?

Yeesh...
RG
 
Well, I've got a story that fits under this topic. I've mentioned it in other posts, so I won't go into detail here. Suffice it to say, I have a friend who, most of the time, never bothers to zip up his fly and sometimes doesn't even button his pants.

I've mentioned it to him on numerous occaisions and his response is usually something like; "Well, it's mine and I'll do what I want." Something to that effect. I finally decided to stop telling him and just 'enjoy' the view! One night we were staying at the beach on vacation. His dick managed to find its way out!! I didn't wake him up to tell him, though I thought I should have....I just enjoyed the view and watched further 'developments'.

Next day, with some embarassment on my part, I told him what happened. I also warned him that if he continued with his habit of leaving his front 'open', it was liable to happen again. He told me it happened a few times before...did he change his behavior? NO!
 
Wow... Weird. I don't know if it's cause I'm european, if it's because I'm portuguese, or if it's because I'm lucky, but where I live, we (in the very least, everyone I know) don't really give a shit xD
If I see someone with their fly open, I'm gonna tell them and save them some slight embarrassment. :3
Really, never would it have occurred to me that a guy might be pissed off about it. ^.^
( And if ever someone happens to get pissed of about it they can go to hell, ungrateful bastards -.-' xD)
 
A guy stopped me that other day to ask a question. I looked down, looked him in the eye and told him to do up his fly. He didn't seem fazed by the advice. I, myself, walked along a city street a week or so ago and suddenly realised my own was open - and fortunately it was not a commando day. I just smiled and zipped up. It's not a problem, it's bound to happen sooner or later.;)
 
Make a judgement, I normally tell them and I often say it to my friends just to embarass them, it is always great to have a laugh at someone elses' expense.
Trivial issue.......................
 
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