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Ever come out to your wife??

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I was wondering if anyone has ever come out and told there wife they are bi, and what there reaction was. I am thinking about telling my wife, or she may already know since she has been asking me strange questions lately. Like last night she wanted to use her dildo on me and she did, which felt great and seemed to enjot it. So I dont know...
 
jav1231 said:
I've told everyone I dated for years. My current wife knows as did my previous. I didn't have to come out to them years later. I'd say if she's willing to use her dildo on you she's probably not too closed to it.
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Your are probably right... I guess because I havent said anything in 10 years why now?
 
I came out to my ex-wife by accident...we were both into swinging and when she dared me to suck off the guy who just fucked I did it and liked it enough to do it ever since. My current wife has a 'boyfriend' who she has sex with often while I either watch or join in. When I told my current wife I use to swing and got into some pretty crazy stuff she was curious and I let her ask questions and move at her own speed. Bottom line is if whomever you are with isn't 'into' what you are then chances are you're playing in the wrong field.

Now for my disclaimer: I don't suggest you run out and tell your spouse you are bi or willing to play with the idea right off the bat. You know your relationship better than I do and know what will fly and what won't. However! I do suggest being open and honest. Once that is done build from there and move on to a happy enjoyable sex life!
 
Yep. Not good. . .not good at all! Hence--single--gay.
 
One's journey into the fullness of one's sexuality ought to be filled with enlightenment and satisfaction. Sexual relations ought to be very personal and very private. I view it as bad manners and utterly foolish to reveal what has happened between two persons sexually to any other person including one's present partner.
 
It was never an issue. I was up front about it ,on our 3rd date. She laugh her,head off and said she didn't care. Then, we F@#*%& each others brains out ever since and a few very nice friends of mine to on this long road called Marriage.:D
 
Alrighty then!

I don't have a problem with dating bisexual men as I've had a relationship with one in the past, but I think it would be best that he tells me before we say "I do".
 
I would always tell a man ahead of time. And I have decided not to say anything.
 
robertac said:
I told my wife once that I thought I might be gay, but she just laughed at me and took it as a joke. I never pursued it any further than that. She was killed in a car accident several months later, so I never had a chance to have that open honest discussion with her about my sexuality. Sex with her was generally good so I gather she never had a reason to question me in this area, but the truth is I like sex with men better. I now have a boyfriend and came out of the closet about two years ago. I loved my wife very much and if she were living today I would still be very committed to her. I also believe she would have eventually accepted it as she was relatively open mined about such things, more open mined than I was at the time.
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I found this to be very touching. I was moved by robertac's love for his wife, and his ultimate honest with himself. My experience was not nearly so good. We are now divorced and I'm struggling with the whole sex thing. If you ever find the right one regardless of sex, cherish them with all your heart.
 
stang05 said:
I found this to be very touching. I was moved by robertac's love for his wife, and his ultimate honest with himself. My experience was not nearly so good. We are now divorced and I'm struggling with the whole sex thing. If you ever find the right one regardless of sex, cherish them with all your heart.
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Dont get me wrong I love my wife to death and would do anything for her. I just miss the feeling of a man..
 
mike6677 said:
Dont get me wrong I love my wife to death and would do anything for her. I just miss the feeling of a man..
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:-)I and others know the feeling.:( It tugs at us all the live long day.It enters our daydreams. :-({|=

:-)What,I don't understand is why Bi-guys that are single or married run like hell.They are just like us. What is their problem? :confused:
 
Ejbonk, I can tell you why I personally don't want to date a bisexual guy that is married. I don't feel like sharing anyone (regardless of their gender) with another person. I should be the only person and #1 in their life on a relationship, romance, and intimacy as I would be monogamous and do the very same. Especially, if that guy already has an entire family in addition to having a wife. It would make people like me feel like I'm an afterthought if something were to happen to his wife or kids b/c they would be his priority. I don't believe anybody wants to feel or be placed in that position where they are secondary in somebody they love life.

Here is a hypothetical situation, if you were forced to save the person you loved and you could only choose one which one would it be your wife or your male lover?
 
kayman23 said:
Ejbonk, I can tell you why I personally don't want to date a bisexual guy that is married. I don't feel like sharing anyone (regardless of their gender) with another person. I should be the only person and #1 in their life on a relationship, romance, and intimacy as I would be monogamous and do the very same. Especially, if that guy already has an entire family in addition to having a wife. It would make people like me feel like I'm an afterthought if something were to happen to his wife or kids b/c they would be his priority. I don't believe anybody wants to feel or be placed in that position where they are secondary in somebody they love life.

Here is a hypothetical situation, if you were forced to save the person you loved and you could only choose one which one would it be your wife or your male lover?
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I would try to save both,or died trying.
 
I can only speak for myself, and I'm not taking the backseat to anyone another's "other half" because they can't make up their mind. Basically, I'm either "be with me" or "be with them", but I'm not about share anyone with another person just to say I have somebody.
 
ejbonk said:
:-)I and others know the feeling.:( It tugs at us all the live long day.It enters our daydreams. :-({|=

:-)What,I don't understand is why Bi-guys that are single or married run like hell.They are just like us. What is their problem? :confused:
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I agree also why do other bi-married males run also? Dont make sense.
 
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